Being in a Relationship is not Easy

@cearn25 (3456)
Philippines
March 7, 2012 11:51am CST
When I am not that mature enough when it comes to relationship, I thought it is just easy. But it is not. Now that I have known about what relationship truly means, I have come to realize what I am dealing of. We have to be ready in any problems, trials and suffer that will come which tests the love, patience, trust and commitment to each other. Indeed it is not easy. it is very complicated. For a relationship that is true, one needs to be strong for the sake of each other. Have faith and don't forget that respect is also important. That is what I have learned.
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11 responses
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
7 Mar 12
What I have learned is that you always have to agree, give in, give up your own goals and life, have to pamper your partner and tell him how great he is. You have to forget about yourself, not ask anything or ask something for yourself. If you can do that you will have a great relationship. If not it will be a struggle.
@cearn25 (3456)
• Philippines
7 Mar 12
I believe in what you have said my friend. I also learned from being in a serious relationship many things like for example how to set aside first myself and prioritize more others. It is a great feeling. I have proven a lot of things already in order to survive.
• South Korea
11 Mar 12
aww it seems a little harsh for me? well communication is a best tool.. I dont think I can pretend to agree on whatever he likes.. I mean even though I try.. I still think I will burst any time... Yes I might be young to say this things..who know it might change when I grow old.. but I dont think this advise of mine is wrong too.. coz nobody is an expert.. when it comes to relationship...
@cearn25 (3456)
• Philippines
11 Mar 12
Hello princess. You are right. Nobody is an expert in everything like in a relationship. And also there in no perfect relationship. People live on how they want to live their life depending on their decisions and goals.
• South Korea
11 Mar 12
well yes.. I dont have any idea how hard it is till I get married haha..but even though we fight a lot beause of lots of reason.. we still manage to be cool..haha and as far as I see our relationship were improving well atleast better during our first year because we do fight a lot..haha.. what Ive learned is communication is so important.. and GIVE and Take.. :)
• South Korea
11 Mar 12
Believe me thats what I pray everyday.. and we just both just can work properly when were both angry to each other..hmm so were hitting our 5years together.. and Im hoping for more to come.. so good luck to me.. and you too..
@cearn25 (3456)
• Philippines
11 Mar 12
Thank you very much princess for sharing your learning and experiences in your marriage. I wish you and your husband will last forever. Let love be always there for the both of you. Fighting is normal as long as the both sides are ready to forgive each other. Indeed, communication is so vital in a relationship.
@cearn25 (3456)
• Philippines
15 Apr 12
You are very fortunate my friend. Thank you for your tip. It is really important to me what you have stated. Congratulations to you and your partner. I hope your relationship will last for a lifetime.
@nurseclare (2209)
• Philippines
11 Mar 12
Yes, it is very hard to maintain. It's not like a food that if it's hot you'll spit it out. :) Just put God in the center of your relationship..
@cearn25 (3456)
• Philippines
11 Mar 12
You are right my friend. God is always in the center in our relationship. When we have God in our hearts, there will be less trouble and less problem to occur. Thank you for your thoughts my friend.
• India
8 Mar 12
rightly said. the fact is, it is always easy to destroy/break anything...relation, buildings, trees, damn anything....however it always takes a toll to make /maintain anything...relation is very complicated and needs lot nurturing to be sustained.
@cearn25 (3456)
• Philippines
8 Mar 12
Thanks my friend if you think what I have said is right. You are also right about maintaining the relationship. We have to nurture and keep it if it has the reason to keep.
@vertu007 (683)
• Romania
8 Mar 12
Relationships are not an easy thing in life, but the good thing is that it takes two to do it, a team. In my opinion love is the strongest feeling we have, but in a relationship respect, honesty and friendship are mandatory. A few weeks ago a friend of mine told me something very wise: When in a relationship you have to be able to start each day from scratch. Remember everything you like about your partner. I also learned that to be happy with someone it's good to have different activities, for each one to have his own hobbies, accomplishments but also spend time together.
@cearn25 (3456)
• Philippines
8 Mar 12
You know what, I am proud of my boyfriend though there are things which I hate when he does silly things or I just get angry. However whenever I see him, I feel love and the trust he has for me. We have this gave and take relationship. I didn't expect actually that we will last. I guess this must be really love Thanks my friend for the sweet thoughts. It is so sweet of you.
@vertu007 (683)
• Romania
11 Apr 12
You're welcome. I wish you the best.
@plekenut (365)
• Indonesia
15 Apr 12
That's why human beings are created in pairs. not only humans but also the universe. men and women, good and evil, right and left, and others. remember, this is a world, not heaven. There are times when a relationship with a good mutual understanding. for example, succumb in turn, at least in all cases is to take turns in taking the decision that these relationships have a balance. like the universe that needs to be balance.
@cearn25 (3456)
• Philippines
15 Apr 12
Thanks for that inspiring thought my friend. I believe we are created uniquely but still we need someone in our life that can light us up. Isn't that great? However, we have to face the challenges for us to be fulfilled. You are right, balance life as much as possible so that there will be peace, love and harmony.
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
8 Mar 12
Yes, actually being in a relationship is easy but maintaining one in the long run is not easy at all. Things, feelings and environment do change, thus affecting our love for each other. Those are the little factors in life that causes huge impact in decisions. Feelings can stay, but when mind take over our heart, romance and sparks in relationship will fade too. Being in a relationship needs a balance between being rational and irrational. For people who been through it, they would understand, if not, other have to go through it now, before they would know.. haha
@cearn25 (3456)
• Philippines
8 Mar 12
I have been there. Those things that you have said, I have gone through with it. But I know there still a lot of things which I will be painstakingly be dealing of together with my boyfriend. Its just part of the relationship and we will strive hard just to keep the relationship stay with full of love and trust with each other.
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• India
8 Mar 12
Always Now i am watching Films on my Smartphone only. Because life has Always busy so we have less time to Entertain, so i did in the Travel time and some free time. It's little complicated to watch the Small screen. But not Too bad so.
@cearn25 (3456)
• Philippines
8 Mar 12
Thank you my friend. I am sorry but I don't see any relevance with regards to your answer or respond to my topic.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
8 Mar 12
What's important is that both of you are looking in the same direction. There is no use if only one of you cares and have concerns on the relationship. Like you said both must be ready in all trials that will come. And if it happens both must stay strong and that any misunderstandings must be solved at once.
@cearn25 (3456)
• Philippines
8 Mar 12
I don't know but I am kind of confused with the flow of my relationship right now. But I can see that I am not just the one suffering from this. My boyfriend also knows the truth and he is holding on because of the love.
@sishy7 (27169)
• Australia
8 Mar 12
I've been with my spouse for almost 30 years. We've been through many ups and downs; but at the end of the day, I think honesty plays a crucial part to keep our relationship going strong.
@cearn25 (3456)
• Philippines
8 Mar 12
Congratulations to you my friend. I wish you and your spouse to have 30 years more. Life is tough. Though, we have also to be happy and take part of it. Honesty on the other hand plays a major role. It is very important in a relationship to long last.
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• India
7 Mar 12
i totally agree with u that hanging with relationship is not so easy .we should be very patient and maintain a very good bond with them
@cearn25 (3456)
• Philippines
7 Mar 12
Thank you my friend for agreeing to me about this matter. Yes, patience is one factor for us to have an everlasting relationship with the one we love. Patience is love.