I hate that people drown their problems

@bunnybon7 (36508)
Holiday, Florida
March 7, 2012 3:15pm CST
or think they can. drinking and drugging does not help. only makes things worse. growing up and being an adult that faces problems and fixing them, or realising you cant and excepting them helps. once you realise you cant change them, make the best of it, then forget as much as possible. Ive put this on FB as my status. and it has opened up a whole discussion. so thought Id put it here to. Because of my aunt just leaving off her meds because she has inoperable cancer, my cousin is freaking out and getting drunk a lot. my aunt is very worried about him and thats not makeing things here so much fun for her. plus, my middle son called me up a couple days ago, so drunk he could hardly talk. right when im going through this pain. he made me be crying all day over cussing me out over past things, etc. I HATE FREAKING DRUNKS and having to live with one doesnt help either (talking about C here). even tho he hasnt done anything really pressing lately. dont you agree, they need to grow up. its a sign of immaturity. right?
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@celticeagle (118255)
• Boise, Idaho
8 Mar 12
So drinking is a sign of immaturity? I don't agree that that is always the story. Addictions are very strong in some people and very hard to stay away from. And to drink for some people is to help contend with some real suffering people are going through and do not have the strength to do it any other way. I don't think it has anything to do with immaturity.
@bunnybon7 (36508)
• Holiday, Florida
8 Mar 12
maybe not with everyone, but if they wont help themselves out of it, and they cause others so much pain, its immature because its selfish and what are we taught as children? most of us. to not be selfish. or are people still taught that? i had an uncaring mother but she at least tried to teach me some things like that. ive dealt with depression all my life and never became an alchie. i drank some times years ago for the depression, but it didnt take me long to realise it was hurting ones that cared like my kids, i needed to care for. thats maturity
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@celticeagle (118255)
• Boise, Idaho
9 Mar 12
I drank years back also but it was because of shyness. I worked as a cocktail waitress for a while. And they let us drink.
@MsTickle (24962)
• Australia
18 Mar 12
I don't know why drunks do what they do. I simply cannot understand it or figure them out. I've lived with a drinker who drank half (or more) of a bottle of whisky each night but he was rarely drunk and when he was he was happier and never objectionable. The problem was that his drinking cost a lot and we really could not afford it.
@bunnybon7 (36508)
• Holiday, Florida
18 Mar 12
yes the money is another factor. my first step dad was like that. he could drink and never get drunk and he drank every day some whiskey. yet he was a nice man. then my mom married again after him and second step dad was a terrible drunk and terrible man
@ShepherdSpy (8562)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
8 Mar 12
There's an old saying that it's not possible for you to drown your problems..You're only teaching them to Swim!
@bunnybon7 (36508)
• Holiday, Florida
8 Mar 12
great. i should remember that one. a great saying and so true. i like it. thanks.
@CTHanum (8254)
• Malaysia
8 Mar 12
People who get drunk just to solved their problems are...not that smart enough. If they think they can run away from it it is totally wrong. I always wonder why they will drink and get drunk yet they know the first place that it will not help them at all. Every time they had problems they will go for it. I think it is better for them to fix and settle the problem fast not wasting the time by drinking a lot. It normally will lead to worst situation~ That is for sure but they always deny it~(^^)
@bunnybon7 (36508)
• Holiday, Florida
8 Mar 12
exactly. i can see you understand what im saying.
@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
8 Mar 12
I thnk that drowing ones sorrow is very stupid, and that it is just a danger to our bodies and health, then it is a way to get over it. A person who drinks may get over it but only for however long the bottle lasts and the buzz they get from it. Drinking a little bit and with friends is okay, I do that. I don't like to drink though as I know it's unhealthy for me, I know it's dangerous for me. Instead of drinking the problems away, one needs to face them. If it's money especially, don't buy a bottle of something as you're only making it worse and will regret it as soon as the relief from the bottle is gone.
@bunnybon7 (36508)
• Holiday, Florida
8 Mar 12
thats another thing, how can people afford it? these days. yes, ive been known to drink to relax once in a while. but it doesnt make sense to try and drink away a problem. better to stay sober and work it out with a clear mind. if it can be worked. if not, its better to not make it worse for all involved.
• India
8 Mar 12
Yes, because of problems drinking and feel about that it's always showing immaturity of the Person only. We are born for fighting with our problems in life we face. It's also not for a Good People sign for us. We need to Grow in life with face the problems.
@bunnybon7 (36508)
• Holiday, Florida
8 Mar 12
you are so right and its just what i was trying to get across.
@marianne87 (3526)
7 Mar 12
Although it is not ideal, sometimes people need a temporary escape from reality. We should not judge these things. People deal with things in their own way and if this is how your cousin has chosen to cope, that's up to her. It should be kept private though, so your aunt didn't get upset
@lilaclady (28240)
• Australia
7 Mar 12
Yes I agree, but it seems to be the way a lot of people do to get away from their trouble even though it is only temporary, the problems are nearly always there still the next day.
@bunnybon7 (36508)
• Holiday, Florida
8 Mar 12
absolutely. they just refuse to grow up or care about anyone but theirselves.