Nicknames...

Ireland
March 10, 2012 7:59pm CST
Over the years I've had many nicknames, most of which were very hurtful to a sensitive child. I was bullied and my unusual name and background gave them plenty of ammunition. These days, I have myself a new nickname, it has stuck and I like it. It's simple, amicable, it's not hurtful and I answer to it as I would my own name. Mine's 'Dutch'... What's yours? Were you bullied? Did you have hurtful nicknames? Do you have one now as an adult that you're quite happy with or do you still find it distasteful or disrespectful to be called by anything but your own name?
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• Trinidad And Tobago
11 Mar 12
No thankfully I was never bullied by anybody, I was and still am a very introverted person, so I never gave anyone the opportunity to bully me I suppose, but let's see my name is Daniella, so I was given the nicknames Danny, Dannibelle and Dan Dan sometimes people call me DD, the initials of my name. I'm sorry you experienced such torments growing up, but thankfully you never allowed it to depress or keep you down, or so I'm guessing :). My sister recently had a baby, but because she's so small I call her itty bitty, that name has grown on her rather well ^_^
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• Trinidad And Tobago
11 Mar 12
Oh and to answer your question, No I don't mind being called by my nicknames :)
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• Ireland
11 Mar 12
When I was younger, I was too naive to realise that I was being bullied, so the names didn't bother me then. As I got older and copped to what was going on, the bullying did affect me, but I didn't let the names get me down too much. I love my name now and when people 'get it wrong' or make fun of it it no longer affects me at all. I've certainly grown past it.
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• United States
11 Mar 12
Actually, I'm kind of the opposite. Growing up, I didn't have any nicknames (other than perhaps nicknames my parents gave me when I was very young,) and I envied those that did. I was always called by my full name. My friends would shorten it, which I liked, so when I went to college, I stuck with the shortened version. Oddly enough, now that I'm getting older, I prefer my full name. I'm definitely not offended by the shortened version or "nickname," but I like my name more. I guess part of it is that I've grown to like my name more than when I was younger.
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• Ireland
11 Mar 12
True. Although I had nicknames, they were mean ones given by people who were not my friends. I had always wanted a nickname and even tried to make one or two I did like stick over the years, but in the end it was real friends and colleagues who gave me 'Dutch' and it has stuck.
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@harini23 (84)
• India
11 Mar 12
I also have so many nicknames in childhood and now also.My parents will call me by some nickname and other family members will call me by other nicknames.And coming to friends they will also call me by some nicknames which they like.I think these nickname will depend upon the feelings which they have on us.
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• Ireland
11 Mar 12
That's it, I think if friends/family give us a nickname, it usually feels ok. If that same nickname were to be given by people who didn't like us or bullied us, then it might hurt.
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@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
11 Mar 12
I broke my ankle when I was in elementary school and when that happened, my PE teacher at school called me Hop-along from then through the end of my elementary school career and I have to say that it was a nickname that I really didn't like. However, being a mother now, I have the nickname of Mommy and that is a nickname that I really like and a nickname that I'm proud that I'm going to carry for the rest of my life.
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• Ireland
11 Mar 12
I was called hop-along at some point too when I was on crutches, it didn't bother me much unless people were kicking my crutches out from under me. That's really sweet :) Being a mother is something I can hardly wait for and I too will be proud of that nickname.
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• Philippines
11 Mar 12
Nicknames are supposed to be given to you by your friends. Although you might get some from people who just love to bully people. There's a way to not tolerate those, and it's by simply ignoring them. I only tolerate those that my friends call me, and I smack the hell off of those that try to make fun of me.
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• Ireland
11 Mar 12
Ignoring them was my only defense indeed for many years.
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@flamez3r0 (319)
• Puerto Rico
11 Mar 12
Hello again, yours are the best discussions around here so I find myself answering to many of them :D. When I was really little I was bullied by older kids because I was smarter than most of them, after a while it became physical bullying but after a year or so I learned how to fight. Funnily it was only after I fought back that the school principal acted, by punishing me :p. However after some wins the physical abuse stopped completely, and while some people still called me names at least it was from far away. Right now I'm nicknamed flame and I like it, it's what most people call me most of the time (except close family). I got mine by fighting like a maniac on fire, kicking and punching like a madman. How did you got yours?
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• Ireland
11 Mar 12
Aw, thank you flamez I was often bullied for the same reason, though it was also the reason a lot of them came to me to get help with their schoolwork. Typical! I got mine by being Dutch lol
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@beamer88 (4268)
• Philippines
11 Mar 12
Come to think of it, aside from the terms of endearment my parents used, I never had a nickname until only I got in college. It was given to me by my fraternity brothers but it wasn't fancy or unique or anything. Just a shortened version of my name, and to think that my name's a six-letter word only. Although I was referred to sometimes as "Tatang," a Filipino term which basically refers to an elder or an old man since I spent almost 8 years just to finish my degree in college. I guess I was very fortunate not to be called by names other than my own and I wasn't bullied when I was a kid.
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• Ireland
11 Mar 12
I'm glad that you weren't bullied as a child or young adult
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• United States
11 Mar 12
I was a fighter growing up so no one would dare bully me. If I was to be bothered by anyone I would knock them to the ground and beat them down till the fight was broke up. I was known for dragging people so I had no problems being bullied. I know some kids tried to tease me because he found out i wet the bed. I put him in his place quick and he knew if he would do anything with me I was going to get my crew and we would tear that azz wide open. I love my nick names,shady,shay shay are the best ones..
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• Ireland
11 Mar 12
You're the exact opposite to me 'shady' I was never a fighter. I was the quiet one, I guess in a sense I let myself be pushed around. I would not have wanted to kick seven shades out of anyone, but still and all I would have liked to have been able to stand up for myself. I've no problem doing so these days, but at my age, those that pick on me are few and far between anyway.
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@choybel (5059)
• Philippines
11 Mar 12
I had a terrible real nickname and everybody would make fun of it but I easily got used to the teasing since it started when I was still at home and so when friends at school teased me over my nickname I just laughed with them. It is probably because I could laugh with them that they didn't continue doing it for long. Besides, I had many friends and no enemies I could remember at those times so I didn't have a hard time. My nickname now is just the last syllable of the whole nickname and is in fact the first syllable of my username here "Choy". It's also a common nickname in our place, as I have noticed.
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• Ireland
11 Mar 12
I'm glad that you weren't affected by the teasing and that you had friends and not enemies. Being bullied is a horrible thing and I am always glad for the people who did not have to experience it.
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@choybel (5059)
• Philippines
11 Mar 12
I am sorry it had to happen to you. Truly, it is a terrible thing. I just hope that we as future parents be more responsible in the upbringing of our children. We should not raise them as bullies but as civilized citizens, educated and well-mannered.
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• Ireland
11 Mar 12
I definitely believe that there is some hope for our own children to be civilised if we raise them as such and to be strong if they themselves are ever bullied. It's a terrible thing to happen to someone.
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@tessa9 (1086)
• Philippines
11 Mar 12
I was bullied as a kid but not to the point where it ruined me. I cried buckets of tears over it though. I was a little chubby when I was a freshman in high school so they called me FAT-ima/Fatima. My name is Tessa so it is no where near my name. Most of my friends call me Tess. My best friend call me Goddess lol But we call each other that name.
• Ireland
11 Mar 12
I am happy that it did not ruin you. I think events and times like these in our lives either make or break us. Those that learn and grow from it are lucky.
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• Philippines
11 Mar 12
I had a nickname. :) It's "loner", not because I'm having a hard time socializing, it's just that I don't feel like talking from morning 'till noon and partying until midnight....
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• Ireland
11 Mar 12
You sound much like I was when I was younger.
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@burrito88 (2779)
• United States
11 Mar 12
I had some nicknames when I was younger that I din't care for. Now I use some of them as computer passwords.
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• Ireland
11 Mar 12
Haha, that's one way of putting them to good use!
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@maratus (184)
• Indonesia
11 Mar 12
Yes, I have a nickname that hurt me. But, I just smile when they call me that because I know that they just wanna make fun with me..., Be Patient..., :D
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• Ireland
11 Mar 12
Good for you that you just smile, that's definitely the attitude that you need
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• United States
11 Mar 12
I was massively bullied when I was 10 on up through high school, but it was for being vegetarian and I had no nicknames during that time. It was more taunts, chants, having things thrown at me, etc. I did have a few nicknames in my youth, and it all revolved around my body shape. I was called "skinnybones", "bony butt" (for when I sat on people's laps), "skinny Minnie," etc. I did find them hurtful, particularly after puberty. I love my body and love to eat like it's a hobby, so particularly when people accuse me of not eating right or having anorexia, I get highly defensive. My birth mother (I'm adopted) is 5"8, and her normal weight is 115 pounds. I'm just over 5"3, and I stick at 100 pounds to 103 and eat anywhere from seven to ten meals a day with a high metabolism, and to have to defend this to people who throw nicknames and hurtful words at me is ridiculous. Today as an adult, I still do have the occasional "skinny" thing thrown at me, but I'm used to other people defending me now, such as my husband (who cooks all our meals, so he knows how much I eat! ) to my best friend. My most common nickname today, though, is one my husband uses. I don't remember the last time he called me by my name...wherever we are, and whenever, he only refers to me as "Honey Buns." It's apparently nauseatingly ridiculous to everyone else who hears it, as we've actually been mocked in public by a stranger once who overheard him calling me in a grocery store! I actually love nicknames as long as they are said in a positive way rather than negative. Usually, the nicknames are individualistic to me, so it's like a loving gesture from the person who says it. My best friend and I refer to each other mostly as "dude", but I use that for no one else. My husband and I use "honey buns". It feels good to know I'm the only "dude" and "honey buns" in my social circle.
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@ecaron (678)
• Canada
11 Mar 12
When I was a kid, other kids wanted call me Ellie and I hated that because at the time the show The Beverly Hillbillies was popular on T.V. and I always thought they were referring to the character on the show, named Ellie and I didn't really like her. Besides, I think a person should be called by their given name and not a silly nick name. My kids, liked their nick names when they were kids but now that they are adults they insist on being called by their given names. To each his own, I suppose.
11 Mar 12
I have also the similar situation when I was in elementary school some of my classmates especially guys call me names in which I find it hurtful and the sad thing was they even pass it to their friends. The name they used to tease me was something about the way that I walk but I think it is because of my back problem that's why I walk that way. Even in my high school days they still tease me in that name and it was awful. I keep on asking why did they do that to I didn't talk to much to everybody and I don't cause trouble to these people. Even though my schoolmates call me such names I try not to affect my school work with it. I just hope that they mature now to other things and be sensitive to other people's feelings.
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• Ireland
11 Mar 12
Hi TheIrishClog, That's terrible that you have had to put up with name calling and bullying while you were growing up. Unfortunately parents and schools don't always deal with bullying and so it carries on. I had a few nicknames growing up, was never bullied and the nicknames weren't hurtful in any way. In fact, two of the names were bestowed upon me by my Dad who still calls me by either one of them today (and I'm 35 years old so I doubt that's ever gonna change Lol!).....'Bird' and 'Cidona'. No idea where 'bird' came from, but 'Cidona' kind of rhymes with my real name (or so my Dad thought!). Apparently he also used to call me.....wait for it.....'Jumpin'....the reason why?....apparently one day while watching TV I said 'the telly's jumping'....maybe it was a poor TV reception I don't know/remember but the name stuck. In Secondary school I was dubbed 'Motormouth'......years later and I still fail to realise where my friends got that one from...... It's only my Dad who calls me by anything but my first name and I don't mind. My youngest son calls me by my first name when he's playing up at times 'cos he knows I don't like it....that I feel is disrespectful so he gets a bit of a telling off! IrishGal77 :)
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@prinzcy (5060)
• Malaysia
11 Mar 12
I didn't being bullied back at school or being called by mockery nicknames, probably too much into my own world to bother about others. Even if there was one, I wouldn't know it as I never care nor did they call it in front of me. They only called me by my real name.
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
12 Mar 12
I suppose there hasn't been many things that someone hasn't called me from one time to another..LOL..some of them I deserved and some of them..well..you know how that goes. I have had other people take my name and make silly names up in reference but nothing that really ever stuck. I am a pretty good sport about things but they also learn very quickly that they shouldn't dish it out if they are not able to eat a little themselves..lol. I have never been one to tease anyone over their names though. I suppose it would effect me depending on the context they were using it in and the person that was doing it. I might be a lot more accepting if it were someone I knew versus someone I didn't. As far as the bullying...no. I was lucky and a bit "spirited" when I was younger.
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• Ireland
13 Mar 12
I'm glad you 'got off lightly' in a sense as you weren't bullied. Personally, although it was upsetting at the time, now I know it's helped make me the person that I am, as with all the trials and tribulations I've met in my life. A lot of stuff I got called didn't stick, but some hung around like a bad smell for a while. It's very easy to make fun of my name unfortunately, but now that I've grown up I have grown to love it.
• Philippines
12 Mar 12
I was bullied before since I became crippled due to a cerebrovascular accident.Coming from an all girls school,physical bullying or name calling is not very common but ignoring,isolation,rumors spreading about you is common.I endured that for five years & those five years is not a joke.When I went to college,life was so much better for me & I can say that those were the best 4yrs of my life.
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• Ireland
12 Mar 12
Kids can be so cruel. I am glad that things got better for you kat_princess.