Is my daughter too old for the men's bathrooms and changing rooms

@sharay (2776)
India
March 11, 2012 11:36am CST
My daughter is 6 years old, but she looks younger than her age, so sometimes when there is an urgent need for her to use the restrooms, mainly in cinema halls and in her swimming classes when she is with her father, he takes her to the men's room, do you think it is high time i stopped sending her to the men's room, she does not feel any sort of discomfort, but my husband and i were talking about this and thought of asking the mylotters' views...i wish they had a family restroom too along with men and women
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8 responses
• Philippines
11 Mar 12
Hello Sharay, If I would have a girl in the future I would not let her go into men's room even once.. same thing with my son too.. as much as possible I let my husband bring him to men's room if he needs to pee.. I may sound so strict or harsh but I just want to implant in them where they should go when they need to go number 1 at an early age.. :)
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@sharay (2776)
• India
13 Mar 12
you are right in a way but i feel casandrina is right too for not both of us accompany her whenever we go out and it is not often that uses the public restrooms and also, we never allow her to go alone inside unaccompanied
@WakeUpKitty (8707)
• Netherlands
11 Mar 12
I don't think she is too old although I would never let my 6 year old use the public men's bathroom since they are seldom clean. I still take my 8 year old son with me to the ladies (can't leave him stand alone outside). Also he has to sit on the toilet seat (like most little boys here, even schools say they have to). I think at certain point she will say herself she won't go over there anymore. Then it's time but if you are in (high) need each toilet is fine. I see adult men go to the ladies as well if they are in need. A family restroom would be great as well. We don't have that over here.
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@sharay (2776)
• India
13 Mar 12
now-a-days, only very lately my daughter is quite hesitant to go along with her father, that is why i felt the need to question and also, i make sure she only uses a clean toilet
@06MLam (622)
12 Mar 12
I remember I forced my dad to get into the ladies' toilet when he was travelling to work with me alone when I was young. I had such request because I am a girl so I should go to the ladies' toilet as my teacher taught me to go to the ladies' toilet instead of the men's. But I didn't realize that my father couldn't get into the ladie's toilet and he didn't let me go alone inside as I was only around 4 years old. I ended up getting into the men's toilet again. I didn't feel uncomfortable but just thought it was wrong for me to get into the men's toilet. I think 6 years old children start to realise the difference in the body structure between men and women and therefore I think it is the time that your daughter should not get into the men's toilet or changing room. Sometimes, I heard some men saying that they feel a bit strange having young girls to get into the bathroom while they are changing.
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@sharay (2776)
• India
14 Mar 12
yes sure...i have come to a conclusion that i am not going to allow her to enter a men's room at any cost henceforth
@Ollanna11 (372)
• United States
12 Mar 12
Since your daughter is only six its probably safer to be with dad, but your daughter shouldn't have to be around all those men. On the other hand you don't want to risk sending your daugheter to the ladies room alone. I do think maybe mom should accompany the daughter sometimes. That way you can teach your daughter how to wash her hands when leaving the restroom and not touch the door handle. I think moms would be better at teaching the kids good hygiene practice.
@sharay (2776)
• India
14 Mar 12
whenever we both go with her, i take care of her, no problem...it is a problem only when her dad and she go alone, he always makes sure that the restrooms are clean, otherwise, he makes her to control herself somehow and bring her home for they wont too far without me
@justme0k (152)
• United States
12 Mar 12
Well, since most men urinate out in the open with themselves exposed she will see naked men. You can tell her not to look but being a child she might. The question you have to ask yourself is: Do you want her to see naked men?
@sharay (2776)
• India
14 Mar 12
Never can i imagine her seeing such a thing, my hubby makes sure that she does not see anything embarrassing, but anyways yes, i dont want to take the risk anymore
@timetravel (1428)
• United States
12 Mar 12
I know as a woman I am uncomfortable with little boys past a certain age in the ladies room. They tend to "look" out of curiosity, esp. if their mother is in a stall and they are in the restroom because the mother doesn't want to leave them outside. Once my son was six or seven, I would, if I couldn't wait until I got home, find a staff person or security guard to watch him for the two minutes it took me to run in and out of the ladies room. When he had to go, I'd send him in to the men's room and stand right outside - and as he walked in I would say in a very loud voice, "If anything happens, you yell as loud as you can!". If any men in there were getting any ideas,the minute I yelled that I'm sure it stopped them cold lol...my son was always open with me and would have told me or yelled if anyone tried to touch him. My husband did the same when he sent our daughter in to the ladies room if he and she were out alone.
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@sharay (2776)
• India
14 Mar 12
That seems to be a good idea, i think try this out in case of emergencies
@Fishmomma (11521)
• United States
11 Mar 12
I think she should go into the ladies room only; however, there are times when you just have to go right now. Its not easy waiting in a long line at the ladies bathroom. I had to use the men's room once when the ladies line was just to long for me to wait. My husband stood outside the door and was able to use the bathroom by myself. I was so red faced that day.
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@sharay (2776)
• India
13 Mar 12
i have never faced such situation, but your hubby was there with you, so you would have not felt much uncomfortable...yes, i am thinking of not sending her to a men's room henceforth
• United States
11 Mar 12
I am 42 and whe in a rush I will still use the men's room. I will be much older than this before I even think to stop. what could stop me is if they caught me and took my picture and said to stop. to be honest that would not stop me. lol
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@sharay (2776)
• India
13 Mar 12
oh really