why could people just stay focus on their own business

Philippines
March 11, 2012 4:18pm CST
i am in my workplace now and i live with all of my co-workers in one building... i know you think it is convenient ... yah maybe convenient sometimes but i think it is very much annoying having to hear them everyday rat out about what others did during the day during duty huors the mistake the hatred for each other it is just too much for me to take in hearing all these moronic comments about each other i want to escape these conversations but i just cant coz they keep bugging me... i tried to lock my room door so i can read in peace but why do people knock just to talk to me about how disgusted she is to her partner on duty for doing things she just didn't approve :( i just want to say straight in her face who cares that you hate that person you think i care???but it would mean more trouble and i dont like trouble... im just so sick of hearing things about other people i just wanna be alone doing what im paid for and be fine with it...why do people give me so much information that i dont really wanna hear and i hate it...all i can do is to express into writings my annoyance to these people .... so help me...
6 responses
@burrito88 (2774)
• United States
11 Mar 12
Living near the people you work with can be stressful from too much contact. Perhaps you need to try to ignore them when they knock or put up a do not disturb sign.
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@burrito88 (2774)
• United States
11 Mar 12
Otherwise, you may have to start taking long walks or spending time in the library. At least at libraries, people are not supposed to talk.
• Philippines
11 Mar 12
yes it is really stressful having to live with this kind of situation....i hope i can just put a do not disturb sign except that i have a roommate maybe she like to be disturb than i am...lol
• Philippines
11 Mar 12
A lot of people are into the business of talking about others but the problem is not to the concerned person but to others. I think that it's time for us to tell those people who come to us and slander someone to talk to the person involved. When a person comes and start talking about his or her co-worker's attitude, we should tell them that we are not too interested but to direct them to do what is right, which is to talk to the person. I consider it backstabbing when people talk about others with other people who doesn't know the exact situation and the circumstances. I hope all will be well with you.
• Philippines
11 Mar 12
my situation is far from becoming better as long as i am here with them im just afraid ill be like them planting hatred to others i dont like having enemies having to hate other is very stressful and what they are doing?its creeping into me maybe ill be like them someday and im afraid coz right now they are really getting into my nerves and writing hate expressions here in my lot is just not right,right?for a while now ive been telling them to talk to the person concern but they just cant coz plainly they just dont like to talk to the person involve so they go on abusing my ears forcing me to hear their words of appraisal to each other which is by the way stress full coz it is not actually on the positive side of things:(thanks for the reply
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
12 Mar 12
i don't like to listen to gossips as well and i don't like to other people's business... what i will do is i will tell the person directly that i don't want to listen to gossips especially during the time that i am doing the stuffs that i love most like reading my books... take care and have a nice day...
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
11 Mar 12
I think better to listen with them than to ignore them, my friend. Because you can used at the times of your trouble. You need someone to listen and when you cry and tears. Do not be annoy with people want only to voice out their disappointment...
@kedralynn (980)
• United States
11 Mar 12
I feel ya! Every time I walk into the breakroom at work, there is someone there talking bad about another coworker. Or they are gossiping about someone. I try not to say too much about my personal life at work cuz I don't want everyone to know my personal business! I am also tired of hearing about how much so and so hates so and so. It's not my problem and I don't wan to be a part of it! Work is not the place for gossip. It's unprofessional and upsetting.
• United States
11 Mar 12
I have no idea how you deal with that! I would get so stressed out about it. I can't stand when people come to me about people I know and tell me bad things. It really upsets me :( The only thing I think I would do in this situation is advise them to talk to the other person in a constructive way about what's going on. I mean, we all need to vent, but if they're doing it as much as you make it seem they are, then there is totally something unhealthy about the situation.
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• Philippines
11 Mar 12
i tried to tell them that so many times but these people are just happy having to talk about their frustrations about others they too are expressing so they can go on the next day working with that same person i understand that part but its taking its toll on me its getting into my nerves and i hate it more every day im just afraid id burst and tell them to back off and just shut up i dont even know that they talk about me also behind my back but honestly i dont care...i became calloused in all this crap i hope i can get through this just till i get another job:)