I dont need somebody who just remember me when they need something from me...

South Korea
March 12, 2012 7:46am CST
Honestly I try to stay away to this kind of people.. I mean yes even though we know each other and we hang out for a while.. or maybe my classmates when I was studying.. I just hate it when they will ask a really personal favor that could even endanger me.. I know I might sound really bad or mean.. but I rather be called like that than to be a "fake friend "( who try to please everybody even though it make them sick inside) So do you know somebody that you think just remember you because they need something from you? how do you feel?
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@cearn25 (3456)
• Philippines
12 Mar 12
That is very common here in my place and in my school. It is just okay if they need something for me as long as when I am the one who is already in need, they would be willing also to help me. It is just a very easy thing. But there are people will just simply ignore you. It hurts so bad.
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• South Korea
13 Mar 12
I know and it so hard to just simply ignored them specially you were in school with them I just hope karma are going to visit them real soon..or i just hope they will realize how unfair they are to people like us..
• South Korea
14 Mar 12
sometimes it sux to that we couldnt find the courage to say no..however people like that are parasite!! (sorry for the word though) and so what if they try to ignore you if they didnt get what they want..sometimes you just have to pretend to be strong and that you didnt give a shyt to them...
@cearn25 (3456)
• Philippines
13 Mar 12
I guess they don't know any karma my friend. They don't even have realizations. Unlike us, the ones who are always giving help, we know what we are doing and we have fear. We don't depend on them.
• United States
12 Mar 12
i really hate people like that well i do not hate the person i hate that they think i am someone who they can expect to do something for them and not plan to do any thing in return later or even talk to me any more until they need something. i have a few people in my life like this that will not call or talk to me until they need something then i am the 1st person they call. it get very aggrivating and i have learned to say "no" but i am also to nice of a person to not help someone if they really need it so i guess there are many times that i am taken advantage of. it really hurts my feelings that those people only think of me as the person that will fix their problem and not as a friend.
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• South Korea
12 Mar 12
Im sorry for that.. I guess sometimes you should not stop your mood when it wanna swing just to show them that your not easy.. But I get it.. it so hard to say no and not to help specially if they are acting so helpless and your the only one who could help them.. I just hope you soon let them know your limit.. yes there are good karma..and karma for them too.. I hope they can see how you are using your time and effort with their problem!!
• South Korea
13 Mar 12
my husband are in the same boat with your hubby... I mean if we couldnt do it for our self do it for the people who we should be giving our time with..
• United States
12 Mar 12
thank you for that i really try hard to keep everyone happy i guess that is my down fall lol. my husband has been telling me to tell them where my limit is and that i am only 1 person that can only do so much...may b i should listen to him more lol yes i am sure i will have some good karma in the end lol but i hope they get the bad karma one day (wow was that so bad to say...not tryin to sound mean there i guess i just get fed up with it sometimes) i really do hope that 1 day they will see that i use all my time for them and sometimes i dont have enough time for my self or my family at home.
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
3 Mar 13
Hi. Life is like that only. Our friends and relatives remember us only when they need something from us. People are becoming more selfish and materialistic and human values are getting lost. Perhaps we are also like that we remember someone when we are in some need. Let us take it on our stride because we just can not help it and change others' attitude.
• South Korea
5 Mar 13
Well Im not really loosing hope, and I can still say that there are still good people who doesn't do like this. Also I'm not that type of person who remember someone only when I need something from them.
• Singapore
13 Mar 12
Me neither. I consider these people hypocrites. They will be good to you when they think they stand to gain something which will benefit them. In order to deal with this kind of people, all you need to do is to feign ignorance and just play according to what they want first. But wait, that is not the end. I notice when they are good to you just when they need something, they will shower that person that they need help from, with a lot of compliments. At that moment, you will be tempted to oblige and then, you 'attack'. How would you attack? Here's a very simple way but takes practice to do. After you help them, be sure to insult them with simple, yet requires some time to understand kind of sentence. If you cannot grasp what I'm saying, here's an example. e.g. Two people named Henderson and the other Richard. These two people are performing artistes at a musical and Henderson is having his performance at a local theatre and Richard was invited to go. Henderson and Richard are rivals in the industry and Henderson then said this to Richard: "Hey dude, invite your friends to my performance tomorrow, if you have any." Richard replied with this: "Oh sure! I'll be glad to bring my friends but I would love to be invited to your second performance......if you have any. If you get the meaning, I think you'll be equipped with the ultimate weapon
• Singapore
15 Mar 12
Yea just do things according to your instinct. No need to force yourself but if you are really angry with them, then show some sarcasm to them and make them think over what you've just said whether is it casual talking or poking fun at them. That'll be so fun LOL!!!
• South Korea
14 Mar 12
ahaha i got it thanks for the example.. ahaha is it being sarcastic? or like saying no offense.. but the actual meaning of the word no offense is im going to insult you but please dont be angry..haha hmmm thats a liitle bit harsh for me.. you know I am a kind of people who doesnt really have the guts to actually tell them that im not ok and when i go home i will complain about it to my husband..haha i know im such a coward... and then i just send them a message that sorry i wont be able to do it..haha
@toniganzon (72317)
• Philippines
12 Mar 12
When my son got his longboard last week, there was this neighbor who used to ignore him who came over and befriended him again. My mother-in-law asked if that kid usually plays with my son but i said no. My MIL said she hates kids or people that only befriends another because they needed something. She's a got a point. And i agree with her. I don't like such people too. They're way too placticky for me.
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• South Korea
12 Mar 12
Look even though young peepz already know how to use another people (EXCUSE Me guys for judging).. I mean I know sometimes we need that to survive..but I wonder if they think they are not obvious at all...
@arjunm (439)
• India
13 Mar 12
So many time i take this decision but i cant stay with this. Some days later i forgot all those things and trust those person as usual .. But i would like to congratulate you if u can....
• South Korea
14 Mar 12
aw im sorry to hear that arjunm but maybe those people you know are not that really poisoning your life.. I do hope though that when they do you would be able to realize it..
@Jae2619 (1483)
• United States
12 Mar 12
I think everyone one point in there life or another feel this way. I myself have known and still know people of this nature and honestly it sucks when they call on you after you've not spoken to them for weeks or months to ask a favor. You know that they are only calling because they either know you have something they need, or you know someone that can help them. As I've aged, I feel people like that are on the bottom of my list and try to keep my distance from them and go with the flow of dealing with them by not letting them get under my skin. Best of luck trying to avoid them.
• South Korea
12 Mar 12
Yes I think i should really just avoid them.. and your right there will always be people like that..ahaha i just cant help but to get pissed sometimes..
@hestylim (1210)
• Indonesia
13 Mar 12
Hi Princess, I used to have a friend like that. I feel annoyed, of course. At the end, I just ignore this person. Like you said, I don't need a person who remember me when they need something from me.
• South Korea
13 Mar 12
Im so glad you did it..and I hope you will not another one.. :)
@rashima (72)
• India
13 Mar 12
Yes, there are people who exploit my friendship and sometimes I get the same feeling as you've felt. But there are some occasions when I approached some of my old friends (whom I almost forgot) for help, and I thought that they might have felt what I used to feel about my other friends who come for help to me only when they needed. And I understood that it's all a part of life and there's nothing wrong when people approach me only in need, because everyone of us are really busy in our daily life and don't have much of time to think about everyone and interact casually and routinely to avoid such feelings. But if I'm sure that a person is so selfish and wants use me for their needs, I'll try to avoid them.
• South Korea
13 Mar 12
Yes I do approach people that I knew could help me too..but I do make sure I give something in return and showed them that I really appreciate it..but in my case they are begging me to do something illegal for them!! and its just pissed me off.. knowing that they think i am that easy and stupid to actually do it for them...
• Valdosta, Georgia
12 Mar 12
I don't think your wrong at all. I have been dealing with this issue for a long time. I have now finally got some people out of my life that were like this. We shouldn't deal with these kind of people because all it does is hurt ourselves in the long run. The stress it gave me was not worth it. There are a few others I still need to weed out but that will take a little longer. I think we need to protect ourselves because no one else will do it for us.
• South Korea
13 Mar 12
Yes it takes time.. I just hope we could totally manage to stay or to not get involve with those kind of people again.. I really do hate wasting my time and giving my effort without them really appreciating it..
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
12 Mar 12
I had this for years too. So I started to delete them all out of my life. Good news is I feel way more happy, these kind people only give you stress. The other good news is I can be me again (which makes me happy too).
• South Korea
12 Mar 12
Omg..Congratulations to you.. Im so glad you did it and your happy.. now I am imagining doing it.. I mean I will only live once and I dont wanna use my time just bugging myself into others problem.. I just dont think it will be easy though.. but I know I can do it...
@deodavid (4150)
• Philippines
12 Mar 12
Hi there Princess8881, That is the right way to do it girl. I never do stuff for other people that are not either my family member or my girlfriend. I would never do anything to endanger me in the process of providing help towards my friends. And besides i am really not a very helpful person i should say... Take care now cute one...
• South Korea
12 Mar 12
haha I guess it feels good sometimes not to be that soft.. Dont worry I getting there.. and even though I will help them I will make sure they know my limit.. :)
• Trinidad And Tobago
12 Mar 12
My dear you're not wrong to feel how you feel, and you're not being selfish either. There's something called self preservation and that's exactly what you're doing. You've to look out for yourself first, because those same users won't come to your assistance if ever you need it. Furthermore I advise you to stay away, you're trying to do that and I applaud you for taking that step. In one of my recent discussions, a mylotter aptly referred to those type of people as "takers", you don't need people like that in your life. I've had quite a few of those, and it's made me feel really bad that they would only talk to me when they want something, so I CUT THEM OFF. Be around people who can add value to your life, and vice versa. Let them call you mean or selfish, that's their problem, bottomline is they're the fake friends and you deserve to be treated better than that :) So keep your head up, brush them off your shoulders and keep moving on. You're doing the right thing :).
• South Korea
12 Mar 12
thank you.. Ive been feeling bad lately because of it.. I mean they could be really deceiving..and sometimes I just find it so hard to say no.. I usually try to help as much as I can but I do have a mind though and im not that stupid not to know they just wanna use me.. As long as the help they needed will not have negative impact on me why not right? Im just not really into those things I know I will really regret later..specially doing something illegal..
@rozilynf (140)
12 Mar 12
hi cez.. you know what i already encounter a person like that, its not sound really bad, but your right about that.. we must be careful a person especially to those have a bad intension, people like that MAKE ME SO SICK! i used to have a friends like that, even now i do have a friends like that they just want me to become friends because they benefits.. i observe them and all of them is not a real friend they just calling me when they need something from me.. i actually used to treat them every i'm with them, but i think its too much! they just want me because of that.. its really bad): so i decided to make a few but real friend.. than to have a bouquet of friends but have something but intension and they want.. i don't know what they likes that, i do be better to all of them, but i also observe that others their are backstabbers.. so i must be careful in people who i meet.. you too you should be careful, and choice a right friend :)
• South Korea
12 Mar 12
ahaha right.. sometimes they are really convincing.. and yes i do hate people who talk behind your back just because they didnt get something they need on you.. hhmmm i just dont know what to do to them sometimes its so hard to to completely take them out of your life..