Do you get support from family and friends on your decisions?

@2004cqui (2823)
United States
March 13, 2012 9:01am CST
I knew my husband was supportive of me but this surprises me. He's known about my candle and gift venture as a business for almost a year. Yesterday he brought it up in conversation and had some great ideas how to make it fly! He wants to "go shopping" with me one day and check out some of these ideas and see if I like them! I couldn't believe how he presented this to me. It was like I was in charge and he was just an interested party. He'd ask me "what do you think about....." Then he told me about some of the ideas he learned in Boy Scouts" and asked me if I wanted to try them! I knew he'd want to help but? Before marriage I knew the qualities I wanted in a husband. I never thought I'd find a guy with all the qualities I was looking for, but it did! This is the payoff. I know my sons will be interested as well. Family business? Just might be! I forgot just how supportive my husband was!
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18 responses
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
18 Mar 12
I have the worse partner I think because she never support me in whatever things that I open up to her...the worse also was put me down till my business close. Now, I've done my best to manage my life
@2004cqui (2823)
• United States
18 Mar 12
This is what it was like for me growing up. I kept things to myself and went my own way. Doing that made my family say I was stubborn. There was no pleasing them. My husband was in a grumpy mood when he heard I was running a business. He said something like "delusions of grandeur". In now tell him every month how many months I've been running my business and making money. He doesn't say anything because he knows I've stuck up for myself and will continue to rub it in! HA!
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
18 Mar 12
Well, just do what you the best things you make to run a business, my friend. Just show to them that you have a great potential...for me I didn't success because my partner ruin my life and still try to live a descent life today. It's really hard no one understand us and support what good plan we want to do in life. But your still lucky because your husband support you...
@Runite (307)
• United States
16 Mar 12
I never get support from my 'friends'. And I don't converse much with my family.
@2004cqui (2823)
• United States
18 Mar 12
Whether you do or not, if you've got a good idea, take it and run!
@Faith1118 (112)
• Philippines
16 Mar 12
I share the same sentiments, sometimes we tend to forget little things that our husbands gave us...simple things even like making sure that we eat at the right time, even asking as if we re okay, I sometimes forget that my husband is my partner and not just another person in my life. I love my husband sooooo much but sometimes I tend to forget to even thank him of the things he do for me specially if he think that I am not feeling well or if he think that I am having some problems that I am not telling him...we'll you can always say your thank you in so many different ways like having dinner with him in a restaurant unplanned or just cook for him hehehe that what I am gonna do in the next days.
@2004cqui (2823)
• United States
18 Mar 12
Good cooking and hot looks is pretty much all a man needs.............except (hehehehehe) Sorry, just had to say it.
• Philippines
15 Mar 12
I'd get support from my friends & some relatives but never from my parents.
@bellis716 (4806)
• United States
15 Mar 12
He's a keeper.
@2004cqui (2823)
• United States
15 Mar 12
He's 90% keeper. The other 10% I like to through out the door!!!!!!!!!;)
• United States
14 Mar 12
Give that man a huge hug and be sure you show as much interest in the things he cares about. Sounds to me like the two of you have one of those marriages that will last forever. Hugs, Maggie
@2004cqui (2823)
• United States
14 Mar 12
Oh ya! I help him out all the time, to the point of becoming the accidental secretary to him. His office is in our home. I think so, we both went into this with our eyes wide open.
@meozard22 (872)
• Philippines
14 Mar 12
that was very good for you. For me, I also get support from my family whatever I want to do. It's because they trust me a lot. They know that what I would do is something good for me and I would never make anything that could break their trust on me.
@2004cqui (2823)
• United States
14 Mar 12
Never got support from my family! I became successful anyway. They were both shocked and disappointed. But I always had their house key.
• Philippines
14 Mar 12
yes, my family is very supportive but i have the feeling to decide on my own so sometimes i do not bother them to help me. a mix advices sometimes drive me in confusion. so i decide to make it on my own. some members are so interested to know what happen while other seem not enthusiastic to know whatever happen or changes they just nod and then care to do there things.
@2004cqui (2823)
• United States
14 Mar 12
Time to clean out the old and start anew!
@agent807 (719)
• United States
14 Mar 12
I don't have much of a support system. My friends and family meet everything I do with ridicule, criticism, and question all of my decisions. It's as if I can't be trusted to do things on my own. Unfortunately, I have let that guide me, which has held me back from doing a lot of things that I wanted to try. They won't like it, but now, it's time to ignore these people in the quest to make myself a better person, and find a new set of friends, ones who are more encouraging and supportive.
@2004cqui (2823)
• United States
14 Mar 12
My parents are gone now, but how many times I heard the words "pipe dream" from them I can't count. My friends usually ask me if they can try some for free or if I could teach them how. I don't have that kind of time.
@jricky1 (6809)
• China
14 Mar 12
I was interested by such topic and my parents and friends are just so supportive and i love them being so nice.They respect what decisions i've been made.Life is so great that you do have such great people caring you and take care of your dream.Have a nice day.
@2004cqui (2823)
• United States
14 Mar 12
My parents were never very supportive of my decisions unless they came up with a decision and I followed it. They didn't appreciate when I made my own and went my own way. I became quite successful all by myself, much to their supprise.
@jillhill (37386)
• United States
13 Mar 12
Good for you! I have never had alot of support from anyone..until lately. I make cards and surprisingly my son is one of my biggest supporters and he loves my cards...he is just tickled to get one..and tells me to keep on....my daughters are also very supportive but when I was married...forget it. Anything I tried he made fun of...and it hurt big time....you are one lucky girl!
@2004cqui (2823)
• United States
13 Mar 12
We have our warts, believe me! It's a good thing you kicked that guy to the curb. Men are like a box of chocolates......... They say women are fickle, I don't think they took a good look at men. I'm sorry that had to happen to you. Walk on and enjoy.
• United States
13 Mar 12
Yes, in fact, when I got accepted to Grad School, my family was actually super proud of me. They want me to go to Grad School because I would be the first person in the family to do so. My own step-father was skeptical at first, but now, he's actually glad that I am doing it. My mother says I have much of my father in me because he too went to Grad School, and she told me that if he could do it, then she knows that I can do it.
@2004cqui (2823)
• United States
13 Mar 12
That is so cool! Please don't hog the IQ! Send some to our house;)
@rozilynf (140)
13 Mar 12
Hi there, your so lucky to have a husband like him.. i can say that he is perfectly fit for you, sometimes my family and my friends supporting me, but sometimes its not.. maybe just my best friend, from grades school to colleges until now, i am so lucky to have a friends like her, and may be you are very supportive also, your good enough keep going, wish you more luck(: i miss it being surprise the things i want then someone buy it from me.. its really a good feeling that i can wow, and am happy...
@2004cqui (2823)
• United States
13 Mar 12
We both have our own "warts" believe me. He can be wild and wooly at times and I don't go as fast and organized as he does. But I, like you value honesty and trust! Thanks for your kind words.
@choybel (5059)
• Philippines
13 Mar 12
Lucky you! It's really nice to have good support and appreciation in things you are very much interested in. I know I have my family's support on many matters and I could get support from friends as well whenever it interests them. All in all, I could say I have had my share of supports and concerns.
@2004cqui (2823)
• United States
13 Mar 12
Good for you choy! I was shocked when he started to come up with all these ideas!
@WakeUpKitty (8707)
• Netherlands
13 Mar 12
I think it depends on what it is if my family (my case my kids) are supporting me and/or my friends. Most do or at least they don't tell me I should not do it. It's fine with them as long as I feel happy with it or find it a great idea. And even if they are not willing to help out they do have creative/great ideas too to make it work. If I use it is up to me. Great to hear your husband is so supporting! Enjoy the shopping.
@2004cqui (2823)
• United States
13 Mar 12
Thank you Wake! So often my ideas had been shot down by my family only to leave them surprised that I became independent and very successful. One of my children find some of my decisions are wrong only to be wrong themselves. My oldest son is very supportive.
13 Mar 12
My family and many of my friends have always been quick to shoot down my ideas and tell me I am wrong for my decisions. I am so used to this that I am in shock when my boyfriend actually acts interested in what I am doing or tells me that he thinks I can do something. It's amazing what just 1 person truly believing in you can help you accomplish. I believe the world would be much better if everyone would give their loved ones a little positive push rather than be cynical.
@2004cqui (2823)
• United States
13 Mar 12
Wow! I can relate so much to what you just said! May we rock on!
@donsky14 (5963)
• Philippines
13 Mar 12
Its good that your husband supports you in your business...it makes it more inspiring to do. My husband and family supports me in the things that I do..specially if they know that its the right thing that I'm doing. But if its not..then most likely they're against it.
@2004cqui (2823)
• United States
13 Mar 12
Throughout my childhood I was told by my mother I can't do this or can't do that. Since then all my decisions have been made without asking other peoples opinion! I ended up doing exactly the opposite of her opinion, became very successful and moved out. Much to her disliking! She said I'd be back in 6 months. Its been 32 years.
@harini23 (84)
• India
13 Mar 12
I will get support from my family only on my decisions.Because every decision i make,first i will ask permission from my family and i will ask them to give suggestions also.If my decision is wrong,then they will suggest me that your decision is wrong,u can change it like this etc.So my family takes major role in taking decisions of mine.
@2004cqui (2823)
• United States
13 Mar 12
That's great that you can do that! I guess I don't want to ask family what their thoughts are because they are busy running their own lives. I guess I should.