Jealousy

I don't think that you need to wrap up your head around this jealousy thing. I don't know the details why you say your parents are jealous of you. However, being jealous of your kids when they do good to a point where you are doing something to hurt them or showing your disgust, is always a bad kind of jealousy and I agree with you that its not good. There is a godly jealousy when you are challenged to do good because you see the good thing in what others are doing. As you said, "you feel that your parents are jealous of you." Did you really ask them and know for sure that they are jealous? Feelings sometimes or most of the time is deceitful. If we base it all on feelings, it may lead us to feeling frustrated. Anyway, a great day ahead.

It is quite common for one parent or the other to be jealous because of the attention paid a child by their spouse. I can see how young parents might become jealous when they see their parents paying more attention to the grandchildren than they ever did to them.

My parents weren't really jealous of me, as they wanted me to do the best I could with my life etc. I have known my sister to be jealous from time to time when we were kids, but that stopped happening once we grew up and moved into homes of our own. Sometimes I hear of a father being jealous of his son who takes over the family business, but I think that is more the thing of movies than real life, as I know many people who have taken over their father's business and their fathers wanted it to be that way. _Derek

You can't wrap your head around it because it isn't logical. My life was totally opposite. My parents told me I couldn't achieve nearly what they've achieved. When I became very successful my mother tried to undermine me. Then tried to undermine my husband as well. Strange, but true. I never tried to "wrap my head around any of it". It's not logical!

Well if you have kids the answer is simple it is because you have more then your parents did when they where age as you but I don't think parents are really jelouse but instead wish they got to do what you do or had what you had and you wouldn't have had those things if your parents could afford it or find it.

What would have made your parents jealous about you? Would have gone against their wishes and they you accomplished something out of that? I know they are parents who are abit jealous especially to their daughters if they have a great relationship with their father but I haven't come across both parents being jealous unless if one ot them is a step parent.

I know exactly what you mean because I know my mother was jealous of me and what I was able to achieve in life. Her jealousy was so evident that she would feign being sick whenever I would get a job these past few years when she was still alive. It became very traumatic for me, because I wanted to work to provide for myself but my work suffered because I needed to take care of her. It became a vicious cycle and I could only stay six to eight months in a job for the past six years. I never got to finish college since I had to work after high school. She always thought very little of me and always wrote me off as a failure even before I could start. When I was able to prove that I could succeed at work even without a formal education, she first started a shame campaign on me. She would redden and bow her head when asked what my work was and it was always in front of me. I wasn't even doing anything bad at that time, and I was working as a manager for a fast food restaurant! And yet she felt ashamed and told everyone that I had no breeding anymore because of the people I worked with. I love my mother and I just feel sad that she never felt that I was able to do anything good in her eyes. But I have never let that affect me because if I did, I would never be able to do the things that I was able to do in life.

Hi,in my opinion, parents won't be jealousy on their kids. On the contrary, they all expect their kids have much better future. In fact, too many parents put too much expectation on their kids. and which can bring too much pressure on their childen. Kids are the hope of their parents. there is no reason to jealousy of them.

Maybe you just misunderstood them, why will they be jealous of you when you are their child. They must be happy if you've chosen to have kids, after all they are their grand children and grandparents love their grand kids much. They must be proud if you have better opportunities, than them after all you are just starting and they're already done.

In general, I think that parents want their children to have more things, be better people and get more opportunities than they had when they were growing up ... at least that is how most of the parents that I know are. Of course, there are still limits, because we do not want our children to be too spoiled and not know how to fend for themselves - there needs to be some balance there.

I don't know, but I guess most parents wants their children to be successful in life. If some parents have been successful in their lives, most of them wished the same thing too with their children and if it could be possible they want their children to do better. I hope I'm wrong, maybe you have misinterpret their feelings for you as jealousy.

We cant avoid persons character.If they have jealous, then let them go and dont mind them.

though it is difficult for me accept that parent wud be jealous , however, since u feel so i wud advice you to ignore such activities which diverts u from doing ur work....i m sure u r doing a grt job for someone to be jealous of u, however u shud not pay heed to such things as it might affect ur performance....god has made u a privlge one...so thank god and live life happily....

sometimes parents are too busy to notice that they were already hurting they're children.. same in return..busy also to notice that the were jealous to there children unbelievably...incredibly they almost harm them and do this unlawfully..parents are just parents...another creature..a HUMAN.no ones perfect in handling things especially in parenting...

Maybe its not jealousy but as much as being a little disappointed in them-selves or even that you haven't gone the way they had in mind for you, its a hard one to know, parents can have a mind set to how they what theirs to grow, I couldn't imagine parents being jealous of their kids, maybe even fear they will lose you...

I haven't experienced this myself but I did have a friend whose parents exhibited a lot of what seemed to be jealousy towards her. She married someone who was affluent and she had a lot of things her parents could never hope to have. She was able to travel frequently, lived in a big home, etc. Personally, I don't think her parents were jealous of the material things she had... I think they were "jealous" that she did absolutely nothing to earn any of them. Her parents were hardworking, "salt of the earth" people and they worked hard every day of their lives to support their family and to lead a good life. Their daughter never lifted a finger to help around the house, she didn't complete her education and never got a job because she "married rich"... I'm not sure if you could say they were jealous... I think they were more "disappointed" in the type of person she became.

My mother was a bit jealous of my older sister because she was my dad's favorite and he gave into everything she wanted...if we went on a trip alot of times she called the shots...where we would eat etc. So I don't blame my mom...but not jealous of me for sure. The problem with my older sister actually caused problems for my parents...

I don't have an answer for you - but I can see it happening. They should be happy for you, not jealous of you, but no one is perfect (especially not parents). I guess the best thing you can do is keep doing whatever it is you're doing and ignore it?

I felt that somehow my mother was jealous of me when I was a kid. I'm an only child, and i had lots of fun with my dad. We'd always joke around, and although I wasn't spoiled in any way, I alwas favored my dad because he hardly gets mad at me. When my mom sess me joking around with my dad, or running off to go with him in the grocery store, she would reprimand me and start her litany of life lessons, most of which have nothing to do with what I've been doing for he day. She always made me feel miserable when I was having fun or being happy. I don't mean to make her sound bad, or make her look stupid. It's just that I sort of understand this to be somthing she wishes she could do with me more but since she already ruined the mood, she might as well plow forward and be in a bitter mood. She'd make up for it though by buying me stuff when I asked for it as long it's something all the other kids have, or something I've been wanting for a very long time.

I want my kids to have the best of everything, more opportunities than I ever had or took advantage of. If anything I am guilty of encouraging them to follow their dreams and not give up. I was jeolous of a sibling growing up because they got all my fathers attention and myself and my other siblings didn't get much attention from him. My mother and the rest of us were very close. I think I have tried or over compensated for what I felt I needed as a kid and didn't get from my parents. Hopefully I have sidestepped that jeolousy feeling down the road I have taken.