My BF is leaving to work abroad, I don't really believe in LDR but I love him!

March 15, 2012 4:18am CST
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 6 months now. I know it's a short span of time but we are inlove, I feel his sincerity and I'm sure he feels mine. Since we started dating, it was clear to us that our first priority is career. I am already a Registered Nurse but I'm planning to enroll in a law school this June and I'm already hired in a law firm as a legal assistant. To be a lawyer was my dream since I was in grade school. I want to be a career woman. I want to be independent and successful. Meanwhile, I am inlove..and my boyfriend is leaving to work abroad. I dunno, I'm really not a believer of long distance relationships. I've been hurt badly before, fell inlove deeply with a guy who promised me lasting love but left me broken.. so now I'm just afraid to dream of a great love life again. But I really love him. I don't know if our relationship would survive. What should I do? What should I think? I love him..but I don't want to be hurt..so I'm afraid to expect that he'll come back for me even though he said he will. He loves me and I'm sure of that. I'm just afraid of the future...
2 responses
• Philippines
15 Mar 12
i have already experience this kind of relationship and after all, its not that bad. however, it still depends on how you handle relationships like this. many factors such as communication, decision-making and many more affects why long distance relationships works and fails. but, always remember that distance is never a reason for people to fall out of love. it's never a means as well to end an existing relationship just because both of you are apart from each other. LDR is just one way of how far your love for each other can go through, despite the distance you have. remember that in a relationship, no matter how in-love you are with each other, its not really necessary for you to be together always. i hope i have helped you. good day! :)
16 Mar 12
Thank you so much. Yes, you have helped me. I once even thought of letting go of the relationship instead so just to avoid the waiting agony(no guarantee). But yes, I guess I just need to trust him, our relationship, that no matter what happens, where we go.. we will survive even apart..and that we don't need to be together always especially now that we're both dependent to our families. I'm just scared of losing him at the same time losing myself again because of the pain which I think, I can no longer bare another heart ache again..
@chicgale (2983)
• Philippines
15 Mar 12
If you really love each other, you have to trust each other. Long distance relationship is OK as long as you always communicate each other thru chatting, emails, and phone calls.