Did I have to ask permission to get the iPad?

@suspenseful (40316)
Canada
March 15, 2012 9:22am CST
As some of you know, I have been saving for the new iPad. Now before you all get yourselves into knots, I am the type of person who says, "I wish I could get ---- but it has not been invented yet." Now here was something whereby I would not need to put on my glasses to read, that Icould take along on a trip without getting out my macbook pro especially when they charge for an extra bag- and I could use the backpack to put in all my clothes instead of in a luggage bag and have the attendant throw it and wreck what is inside. Plus my living room tv is not working, so can use the iPad to view shows. Well there were other reasons besides someone else has it that is usually written about and meets with disapproval. Well finally I had more then enough to buy it, and decided to download the money to do so. Well then I gets a knock on the door, and I have to pay a fine because there were too many false alarms (actually no but they count even if the alarm is corrected a second ago, as a false alarm). I asked my church elder to look into it, since he knows that my husband was dying and we had the alarm on just in case someone came in when the home worker was there and being an evil man, h would beat them up, etc. Then I got a note from my son that I had to pay over $3,000 income tax. Well I kind of expected that. Then my sister-in-law has cancer, and my friends and I were going to drive out there in the summer, but ten my friend says she cannot go and why not use my air miles. I only had enough to go to P.E.I and she also figured maybe I should go right now. Then my music book was coming apart at the seams, and my singing teacher says for $1o you can get it fixed at Staples. Reminds me of when I was young and my foster parent said that why do you buy this, when you could have bought this? Also my father was the same way, Well I did order the iPad and not only that, I transferred the money into my credit card. So what would you do in the circumstances? Did you feel like I did, to before you bought something to ask "Do I have your permission to get ----(fill in something expensive that you saved for.) Tbis could be anything you saved up for and put the money specifically for that purpose.
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@sid556 (31005)
• United States
19 Mar 12
Hi suspenseful, Can't say that I've ever been in that position. I am single and independent. I think maybe my friends and kids have advised me when I'm purchasing a new 2nd hand car but I don't mind that. I like advice and opinions on something like that but ultimately in the end, the choice is mine alone. I don't buy many expensive items. I do like input when buying electronics or cars or anything. If I were to buy an I-pad, I'd ask around for opinions on the different makes and models. I would get on-line and reasearch differeont ones. If I were going to spend any great amount of money on any item, I would at least research it.
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
19 Mar 12
What I do not like is people saying you should not buy something because that they feel you do not need it . Yet they do not mind if someone else does, And I am like you in that I do my research and I buy things that last and only when I can pay in full. Of course I have to contend with those who think only rich people buy Apple products and the Windows people. Yes I am writing this on my new iPad and it is so much easier then on the iPhone.
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
20 Mar 12
Oh I agree with you on that...I work and it is MY money and it is no one's business if I need it or not. I listen to everyone's opinions and most especially those that have had experience with certain products. I listen to everyone, take into consideration who is offering up the advice. If someone is telling me that I don't "need" something, I would expect them to have other reasons for my not buying this beyond "you don't need it". Unless I'm asking them to buy it, it's not their place to decide what I need or don't need.
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
24 Mar 12
Trouble is not one of my friends said that I did not need it and I have been telling them that when I get the money I will buy one, but I am also waitiong for when it does what I want it to do. it a just that the suimms to appear in court or pay a fine or have a representative tell why the alarm went off, the magazne subscription being late and coming at the wrong time, and the income tax came all around the time the new Ipad appeared at Apple. It was if a little voice went into their heads, and told the post man to thorw away the magazine notice when it was due, told the alarm people to go and knock at A's door (me), and the income people to let me knw that I owe money because they felt this was a way to get money. It took me back to the tine when I had to justify a purchase. and to a time when only certain people like university students, etc could own technilogical stuff. I
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
15 Mar 12
never asked permision if I could buy something even from my hubby If I had the money saved for it I got it. like a puter then I won money to buy a desk
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@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
16 Mar 12
No I didnt buy for my hubby I bought for me He never touched it
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
17 Mar 12
I have a brother like that. He will not go near a computer. Makes things hard for me, because I either have to phone him and he is not the greatest conversationalist or write to him, and my hand writing is not that good, so I would have to type it on the computer, print it out, and guess what, there used to be a mail box just down the street and now it is at least four long blocks away past the two schools
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
17 Mar 12
People like that I would rather tolk on phone cant remeber the lst time I wrote a letter
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• Philippines
19 Mar 12
You wanted it and saved for it so I guess you don’t have to ask anybody permission to buy an item. Sometimes I feel like this, wanting to buy something and waiting till the money is there but holding back feeling I could use it for something else. I end up regretting when I go back and find the item gone from the shelf. Or I actually buy it and feel a pang of guilt for buying it. Or I hold on to the money saved until I could think of a more important use for the money only to find the money gone and not knowing how it went pfffft. At least, with your saved money spent on what you really wanted and craved for, you get the satisfaction of using the item and enjoying it. Sometimes, we need a treat for ourselves. Cheers, suspenseful.
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
19 Mar 12
The thing is that I saved for it but I was brought up with you should have used the money for something else. Mind you no one told me that I should not get the iPad, but it seems that what I was told in the past still affects me ,
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
24 Mar 12
So stop listening to your past and listen to YOU. You want it, you saved for it and you should get it...you won't regret it. I think I'm starting to really get what you are saying. I was brought up to "save" and not spend on frivilous things and for the most part, I don't. I'm very frugal. I have to be in this economy. I very rarely buy things that I could live without and for the simple reason that I want them. On a smaller scale, I recently bought a purse that I fell in love with and at a higher end store. It really wasn't that much money but I just never do that. I usually make my purses or get them 2nd hand. I felt so guilty and the thing is, my daughter was so happy that I bought it. She doesn't feel so bad when I spend on her if I sometimes spend on myself. I never feel like this when I splurge on her. I call buy the Ipad and have fun with it!
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
24 Mar 12
It would have been better if that voice that I suspect comes from the unknown told me, "you really should have asked the alarm company if the batteries are perpetual or do they need changing?" but it did not. Or if it said you really should put more then $@5 a month away for your income tax," but it zeroed on the ipad. I know what you are talking about purses. I really love leather purse that are of good quality, but I can only afford those that are sort of crappy and they only last a few years. Now I have to look for one that will carry my ipad and doubt that there will be many in the thrift stores.
@KrauseHome (35034)
• United States
24 Mar 12
Personally I think many times people are always tending to make excuses when buying something nice that they have been saving for as you have been doing, and end up using the money for something else, and then feeling guilty for doing so. I know I have done this... Saved for something, and then something happens and I end up not getting or doing the thing I was so wanting to do. I think you did the Best thing by getting this, and in the long run will really be much happier. Don't let the other things bother you, as everything always has it's place.
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
24 Mar 12
I could do this when my husband was alive. He was suffwring from ALS during the last few years of his life and before that it was helping the family. So I really wanted to get this Ipad and I made sure I put enough ahead so tht when it came available, I would pay the whole price instead of putting it on credit. Sure didnot lke the idea of that home alarm fine. I hope I do not have to pay it. I do not mind the income tax or the other things, but it s that fine for the false alarm that upsets me the most.
@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
5 Apr 12
I do think it was the timing. Now I have advice from the income tax people to pay my taxes in the installment plan. Now my sons say wait until the end of the year and pay it in one lump sum, because to me, paying in installments means that you are bad at managing money even though the income tax people say that it is like you are the employer an d paying the taxes as you make the money. Still having everythng come at once is not that nice. And on top of that, I llost some weight and need more clothes. I did manage to scrape enoough for one pair of jeans and two shirts, but do not take a stock size so would not find anyhting in the thrift stores.
@dragon54u (31617)
• United States
15 Mar 12
My trouble usually come after I spend money, not before. I always wish I hadn't spent it because sure enough, when I buy something for myself that I really want, some disaster happens that would really be helped by that money I spent. So I rarely spend anything, although I would love to have an iPad! I, too, would love to read without my glasses and have enough back lighting to see, etc. The good news is that my son has one and when I move to be with my kids I'll be able to share his. That will let me find out if I'd like to have my own. Enjoy your new toy! Everyone I know that has one, loves it.
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
15 Mar 12
I get that too, so before I buy something I have to justify it. I really do not want to do it, because it is no one else's business whether I use it for reading books or playing Angry Birds or whether I watch movies on it - mind you not the latter because I cannot see looking at a small screen all day Besides I did not get a small portable Tv -figure they are just for near sighted people. Also because of this fine, I have to put money aside for that as well as the monthly extra money income tax before the deductions go through. That means I cannot stock up on toilet paper, or whatever and have to use the cheapest. Luckily there was a sale a few weeks ago on frozen fruits and vegetables, so that is all right. Now I have to make sure I stay home all day until it arrives. The next thing s the new iPhone 5. I hope it comes when my contact runs out. The new Tv will take a while to save for, about a year or so.
@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
7 Apr 12
Oh the Ipad came, I'm loving it. The thing is with that everything coming at once, the income tax bill, that fine that I hope not to pay, losing weight and needing more clothes, and the income tax people suggesting or hinting very loudly that I have to pay in installments, and me wondeirng whether I should do that or save the money and risk having the interest tax is making me rather reticent on letting my friends see me use it. There are a couple of far sighted people in our church, I could easiy have said to them, "here I have that chapter on my ipad,: but because of that man comoing with the summpns, I felt rather wary of doing so. So he did make me feel a little guilty.
@offkey (313)
• United States
15 Mar 12
I think sometimes you have to do something for your self, and you seem really overwhelmed. You have a lot going on in your life, a lot of stresses, you saved up for it, and thought about it over time, it wasn't purchase on a whim. I don't believe that you should have asked permission.
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