Will You Still Be KIND With People UNKIND Of You?

@neildc (17254)
Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
March 15, 2012 9:44pm CST
Hiya myLotters and friends! Today we are again in the most miserable part of our lives regarding financial status. My wife is a bit frustrated with the salary I handed her after computing all the necessary amount of money for electricity, house rent, loans. Taking consideration of the school requirements which we believe needs more priority than other bills. So nothing has left now from my salary. With this, we decided to let Joana stop college and look for a job. We cannot support her studies and no one from the family and relatives are willing to give us aid. One of my office-mates then told me, how am I supposed to help this girl with her personal problems or mend with her life when she's not biologically my daughter and she's even unkind and disrespectful with me and her mother? I pray that she can get a job before school year finally ends this month. And hope that with the job she will get, she will get better as a person and most especially as a member of this family. Loving and caring for his parents and her siblings. ~~ NEILâ„¢~~
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33 responses
• Philippines
16 Mar 12
With this case, I say a big YES, You should be kind to that girl. She's not your biological daughter, she's disrespectful towards you and her own biological mother, then, she really needs help.If you will stop understanding and being kind to her who do you think will give her the understanding and care? I know it's not easy to take care of kids (what more with your step-daughter, not to mention her behavior), but, the reason why you are there, it is because God knows you can handle the situation.
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@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
16 Mar 12
that's exactly how i replied when being asked by an office-mate, who then will help her if not me? it's not really that easy to raise children. different stages, different attitudes. and people will always tell me, it's much harder to raise a step-child. i know, this will come to an end, soon.
• Jacksonville, Florida
16 Mar 12
I am so sorry your having such a hard time right now... =( I hate the feeling of not being able to pay all the bills its terrible. As for your question, my husband and I constantly help two people who are not nice to us at all. We do it because we love helping. Its nice helping and being kind even to those who sometimes dont really deserve it. Someday we will be rewarded in Heaven so we aren't worried about how they treat us. God is happy with what we have done...
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@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
16 Mar 12
yes, i really hate the situation we are in right now. what can we do? the oil price is getting higher everyday and pulling up the prices of all the things including the tuition fees. and our salary is always left behind. of course, i love to help. as long as i have to give, i do help when it's necessary to give. and it's a great feeling to see ourselves helping people and making them happy even for that time only. and i know, God is glorified when we are doing good things to other people.
@ybong007 (6659)
• Philippines
16 Mar 12
You're not alone in your misery Neil. I think husbands who are the sole earner and earns just enough share your predicament. why don't we tell our wives all at the same time to look for a job and give their own share instead of acting like a crocodile in a zoo waiting for the zoo keeper to shove down the whole chicken right in it's gaping mouth. But of course we wouldn't do that because that would hurt them big time and would definitely cause us all to sleep outside the "kulambo" .
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• Philippines
16 Mar 12
ahem... =) im a wife too and i know husbands predicament on this thing. finding a job and keeping the house clean and the children on the right is not a easy job to do. even if we wanted to help our husbands but sometimes it would not be that easy. the children growing up. i won't just like my children to be of care with the yayas and their grandparents because that is our sole obligation. but i husbands would also look to what we have suffered and sacrifice as well. =)
@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
16 Mar 12
ybong: do you mean we are on the same boat? oh yes, that we could not tell our wives and that will surely hurt them. my wife though maintains a small store to cater the basic daily requirements of the neighbors. she sells soap, detergent, powdered juice, cooking oil, and others. most of the time, we also get our needs from that small store, which eventually make the sale down. and though it earns a little, it's still not enough to fill the gap between paydays. jhelai: i understand about taking care of the children especially when they are still young. it's a lot different from getting a nanny for them or let grandma and grandpa take care of them. and as you said, it's us the parents has the sole obligation in taking care of the children. we just hold on, sacrifice and face the predicament till they get to the stage of being a dependent people.
@ybong007 (6659)
• Philippines
16 Mar 12
Got your point Jhelai and we do understand them but there are times when you're short on budget and the wives complain that it's giving them headache and made us feel as if it is entirely our fault. It's OK if you're hearing this when you're on a good mood but when hearing this after having a bad day some naughty thoughts normally come across our minds like, "do you want me to rob a bank?", "Are you sorry now that you married me?" or "why don't you get a job yourself?" but those thoughts are better left unsaid, either you'll hear silence or a "di kasi marunong mag budget" reply. @neil, very much so. Good for you that you store is still alive and kicking. We did that already but we have to let it go not because it's not earning but my wife just can't handle when people make "utang" and don't pay on time . I bought a pedicab but she's just letting it rot just to teach her brother a lesson for not taking care of it properly, etc etc...
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@franne32 (696)
• Philippines
16 Mar 12
Although she is not your biological daughter, she is still basically your daughter because of her mother. She has to learn to contribute to the family because of your current financial status. You don't have to be unkind to her. You and your wife just have to be honest with her but still reassure her that you both love her. It's not my place to say these things but it's just an advice and it's up to you what is the most appropriate decision to make.
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@sanofer (525)
• India
16 Mar 12
the advice given by you is really good. even though that girl is not her biological daughter,she is like his daughter only. he has to take care of her and he should not be unkind to her.if he and his wife shows the best love towards their daughter,that small girl will change for sure.
• Philippines
16 Mar 12
she would truly, surely change as long as you won't let her left out. guide her in the right path. be a father that you are to her and let her feel that she is loved as always even if she is unkind and respectful. be patient my friend and pray. all is well in the end. =)
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@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
16 Mar 12
franne: of course i do love her. i treat her together with her older brother as my own children, both of them, as how i treat my own biological children. if ever i do some unkindness sometimes, that's only my way of letting them know they are doing wrong, to correct their mistakes. they could be unkind with me and disrespectful to us but that really makes us ignore them or take them for granted. sanofer: like i said, we love her and i treat her the same as how i treat my own biological children. if ever i do or show unkindness to them at times, that only to let them know that they did something wrong and so, to correct them, to discipline them. jhelai: i keep on praying and hoping that someday soon, she will change and get matured. and with the job she will find, i know it will help a lot to make her a better person, better sister and daughter.
@sanofer (525)
• India
16 Mar 12
education is the only thing you can give to the future generation these days. even though she is not your biological daughter and she is disrespect to you,you should take care of her as now. she is younger than you and she needs time to understand you. if you give her better education and if she will be in the good position,she will be really thankful to you. other people around us always say wrong things about our family problems. so don't consider people who involve in your family problem. But you said you are financially not good. so ask your daughter to do some part time jobs. you spend half money for her education and she will take care of the rest. don't get angry on her even though she is not good towards you. one day she will realize your care.
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• Philippines
16 Mar 12
true. though your daughter is not your biological daughter and she is disrespectful and unkind still you have been her parents and its our obligation to take care of her well being especially her education. you can ask her to help out but don't put her in a situation that she won't be able to go to school because it is our obligation as parents to let our children go to school up to the time that they may be able to stand up on their own. and graduate. do think about it friend. it not good to be unkind to unkind people. it won't do you any good. do help her in any way you still could to make her, hopefully someday a better person.
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@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
16 Mar 12
sanofer: we were actually thinking about summer jobs. but summer jobs don't stay for long. i understand what you mean, and we really tried so hard to support her. but at this point, we could no longer continue to finance her studies. if she found a job this time, as i am trying my best to get the recommendation letters from good sources, she can save some of her will be salary for her to continue schooling someday. jhelai: to tell you straight now, our office lacks one staff. she resigned for some reason. next week, another staff will take a leave and get ready for her delivery. by next month, another one will take a long leave to prepare for the bar exams. that means, we need people here. and so i tried to recommend my daughter to fill the vacant position. it's actually not a permanent position, job order that is. but if she will only do good with the people here, and with the present city leaders, she will not lose the job easily. i know about this job order personnel as when i came her for the first time, they were already here, and still here for years.
• Philippines
16 Mar 12
neildc: do let her try and just explain and make her understand the situation and everything that must be said and must be done. hope that she would cooperate and help the family. it's not easy in her part because who knows she might come up with many invalid reasons why she ended up out of school. but it's worth a try friend. hope it would all turn up right. i will pray for your success. =)
• Philippines
16 Mar 12
unkindness cannot be paid off by being unkind to someone or somebody else as well. for me, a good solution would be to understand her more and be patient. even if she is not your biological daughter, do make her feel that she is also one of your own. don't make her felt left out, let her understand your situation. she is already big enough to understand you and your wife. the problem of your family, she must have to know about it because she is part of it. but don't let her feel unwanted and don't let her stop schooling. but she can help out. you can find ways. always let her feel that you love her and that you and your wife would always be there for her. help her grow in a right way. so that hopefully someday she could be a better person. jheLai
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@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
16 Mar 12
i know it will not make the situation better. but i am also human and i also get hurt. i could not just easily take it for granted, being disrespected by the girl that you take care for years, since she was 2. understand her is much harder for me, because i believe she is the most normal and should be the most matured among her siblings. she's old and big enough as you said, to understand the situation. it's just that disappointing, you know. but i never lose hope so i resort to patience. we love her the same way we love her when she was still 2. and we have never let her feel she is unwanted. but we cannot just force ourselves, my work. my salary can only get to that level. and i don't know when it will get higher. with patience, hope and prayers, someday i know we will see her become a better person.
• Philippines
16 Mar 12
i do hope with the love, patience and prayers for her, she would realize how her family love her so much. that being bad is not a good resort of whatever bad things she had in mind for her family. do have more patience my friend. yes i know it would be irritating and hurtful sometimes but what can we do but to still be there for her no matter what. but if lessons must be learned from her then do it. let her know that what she is doing is wrong. and hope that someday she will get out of it and be a better person, daughter and sibling that she must be.
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@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
16 Mar 12
i will say this again, i'll keep holding on that hope, that someday she will realize her mistakes and become a better person.
@Hatley (164755)
• Garden Grove, California
16 Mar 12
neildc my mom told me when I was a little girl that two wrongs will never make a right. She is your step daughter and you sound like a great dad.you know just what you can and cannot do with the salary yo u make. Joana like a lot of American kids now days can work and can get some federal help here in the US towards paying college expenses some have gone on work study programs where they work part time. go to college part time. it may take a little longer b ut they get their degrees.Working might strighten out some of the problems you have had with her and she will mature more this way.I do not know of course what type of financial aid one can get in the Philipiones for young people going to college also there are a lot of scholarships in the Us that most people do not know about unless tey ask those in the know. with some maturity I hope she will begin to see the care you have for her as her stepfather and start to appreciate it too.Seems all over even here in the Us prices are so much higher than wages and salaries and the economy is really rotten. A lotof young people have worked then gone for ahwile then worked and finally got their degrees. and too sometimes people do not need four year of college to get a job or even a career too/
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@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
16 Mar 12
i have always been a father to both the children for more than 16 years. i have always love them the way i love my own children. i have never showed them they are different from my own and treat them as my own too. i know i did the best that i know to be their father and it's really frustrating and disappointing when you are not treat nice. it's nice to know about the grants from the government. yes it will take time to get the degree but it will soon come. but here in our country, it's not that easy to get aid from the government and that's why more people are undergraduate or never been to college. underemployment and unemployment are also growing fast each time school year ends. i really really hope, once she find a job, that work will change her. someday she will definitely change and hope it will be better and not worse.
@SIMPLYD (78114)
• Philippines
16 Mar 12
Well, my friend i think you are not alone in your financial crisis. Mostly, ordinary employees are like that. My husband and i also experienced that, specially when our daughter was still in her BS Bio class at UP. She is a scholar ng bayan only, so we still have to pay her tuition although , with some discount. Whenever the time comes for her tuition, we would always borrow money from either our parents. So, when bonus time or 13th month comes it will just be pambayad utang. I persevered in praying and when she graduated she got a full scholarship in St. Luke's for medicine. Now she's on it but still we have to pay for her allowance and lodging in Manila. But i must admit , we are at least not that financially constraint like that anymore, because my husband and i both have jobs. But as to your non-biological daughter, just be gentle to her and help her find a job. When she finds a job, she can already help herself go through College. I just hope she will change and realize that you love her despite her being not your biological daughter. Does she know about it?
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@SIMPLYD (78114)
• Philippines
16 Mar 12
SO now i understand that she's your stepdaughter. No wonder she feels that way with you. She's like that because she cannot accept that his father has his own family now. She's bitter with life so that's why she does things to annoy you. At least, you are a kind stepfather to her because even if you incur debts because of her studies, you have sent her to college. SO, i maybe she should really understand that you are now his father, and she should respect you. A reprimand maybe should be done to her, by her own mother, not you.
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@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
16 Mar 12
i am not sure if the is correct to say she is bitter with life and so she annoys me. when she understand well the situation both of her parents, and why they split up. besides, when they first met, there was no excitement on her. she's not even showing excitement to meet her brothers with her father. i don't know. it's just like a show of appreciation to the one who raised you. but all seems to be the opposite of what we expect from someone who is a normal person and with a bright minds. well, i guess time will really come for her to realize what me and her mother did to raise them all.
@SIMPLYD (78114)
• Philippines
16 Mar 12
Is she an only child of her mother to her father? Yes, time will come when she will finally realize how much sacrifices you also gave for her sake.
@SomeCowgirl (32271)
• United States
16 Mar 12
Kidness kills. We often forget that sometimes even through the pain of an unkind person and their words, the best thing to be is kind in return. It throws them off, and maybe makes them realize that the behavior they've been exhibiting is unfavorable. I am hoping that your step-daughter will grow up with her knew found responsibilities. I am hoping she won't need to quit school however, and be able to have a part time job to help supplement the income of the household and the cost of her going to school. Good Luck.
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@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
16 Mar 12
if i am really able to sustain with the expenses, i won't let her stop and look for a job. but i am not so there is something to be sacrificed and some to sacrifice.
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@SomeCowgirl (32271)
• United States
16 Mar 12
Well I understand it, you must do what you can to survive and be able to keep a roof on your head. Maybe the "school of life" will teach her responsibility and respect.
@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
16 Mar 12
i hope and pray for that.
@Metatronik (5910)
• Pasay, Philippines
16 Mar 12
In your situation it could be still easy to help someone you love even if that person is not even your biological daughter. Now she must realize that she needs to get a job to help herself as well. This could be a challenge for her in order for her to change in her attitude. To answer your topic itself, well to be HONEST with you. I am not really inspired in helping or to be kind with people who are UNKIND of me. I am a type of person that is vengeful and not easy to forgive. So most of the time when I am helping other people then I am bias with that in the sense that I am judging them. That is really me.
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@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
16 Mar 12
i agree with that, and who would help her if not me. actually, i am someone who is also like you who is not easy to forget though i am not vengeful. and it's not really inspiring to help unkind people. i understand you for being bias in that sense.
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• Pasay, Philippines
17 Mar 12
Thank you for understanding my point. It is very challenging on how you wanted to help other people then when it will come to a point that you will be the one who is need then they refused to help you.
@sid556 (31006)
• United States
16 Mar 12
Awww yes...step-children!! You are pulling off the hardest thing right now. Not only are you very stressed financially, you are dealing with a child (a grown child) who does not appreciate your efforts to help her and treats you with disrespect but also is not your own biologically. OUCH! Yes, you should continue to treat her with respect and kindness. Why? Well, for one, you are setting an example of how you want her to treat you. Hopefully, she will get it one day. Secondly, you love her mother and her mother, I'm sure is also stressed and needs you. Arguing with the daughter will only add to the stress. I don't think you should have to tolerate her disrespect either. It's a tough spot you are in. Does the mother back you? This girl needs to get a job and be responsible if not attending school.
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@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
16 Mar 12
setting an example doesn't work with her. and so as the talking. most of the time i let my wife talk and me to walk away. of course, i still have the love and care for her, as when i married their mom, together i love them too. it's really a stressful situation i am in now.
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@sid556 (31006)
• United States
17 Mar 12
Yes, it really is. When I got with my youngest daughter's father, he had 2 children and I had 3 from a previous marriage so together we had six, all of whom lived with us full time. I did a lot of reading on blended families and I really thought that we were strong enough to overcome the odds. We were not. I could see his side but I did not agree with how he dealt with it. The daughter he was having problems with was much younger than yours. She was 10 at the time. I never went against him in front of my daughter and I never ignored her being disrespectful to him or anyone....it just wasn't acceptable behavior. If she is an adult and I am thinking that she must be then you need to talk this out with your wife. It is NOT ok for her to be disrespectful to you in your home. If she is not going to school then she needs to find a job. If she can't do the rules then she needs to move out...her choice. its called tough love. The problem is that your wife might not agree on this?? I don't know your full situation but I do know that it is a hard spot to be in. I will say that sometimes I felt very torn between him and my child because his way was not MY way of dealing with discipline. I think you are dealing with it in the right way. My question would be is she at least doing "something" about her daughter's disrespect even if it is not what you would do? Is she acknowledging it? I ask because. I did. I hated that my daughter was disrespectful towards him and what I hated was that I would get out of work and both of them would be waiting for me like a pair of pitbulls attacking me with their side of the story of some incident that I did not even witness and I was just tossed in the middle.
• India
16 Mar 12
Hi neildc, You're doing a great job. Ultimately, your selfless parenting counts. Financial worries are often temporary and you'll eventually realize good times and bad times follow with surprising regularity in life, but with your level of maturity and wisdom, there is nothing like bad circumstance. Yet, whether or not she's your biological daughter, if you had taken the same decision with your biological daughter, I would appreciate your decision as ethical on the basis of Kantian morality.
@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
16 Mar 12
i guess the only reason for this is, i am not able and i will not force myself nor do bad things that will destroy my personality, just to give what they want. i still believe it's the parents' responsibility if not an obligation to send them to school and they (the children) have the rights to education. but doing something that is against the law of God, the law of man and the law of nature, is against my principles.
• India
17 Mar 12
I have absolutely no doubt that you're gem of a person. Keep up the good things in life.
@Vvance (280)
• United States
16 Mar 12
The Sun shines on both good and evil, predator and prey, powerful and weak, polite and rude. That is we should all emulate. I believe that we should all be kind and friendly to everyone, especially those who are not the same to others. If not, how would you be different from the individual who is unkind to you?? Eventually, they will understand their idiocy and change their ways. If you try and fight back, the struggle will only last longer. In the case of your step daughter, please continue exactly what you are doing. Treat her as well as you can, and do whatever you think is best for her. Do not rage at her because of her behavior. This is probably just a phase she is going through. She will come around, in time, and realize the generosity you showed her. Just keep doing the best you can, and have faith that you will be just fine. Best of luck, and I hope you solve this dilemma soon !! Please do ask for any help or advice you require here on myLot, and I'm sure everyone here will support you.
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@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
17 Mar 12
i love that wisdom you shared here. thanks for that. i try to be nice with her and i just hope i won't lose patience. i however keep reaching out for her, my wife knows about it. anyway, i continue to hold on with that hope that soon she will change. with mylot, i always believe i have friends like you that whenever we feel dismayed with our lives, you are there to support and give us comfort.
@Runite (307)
• United States
16 Mar 12
I would never be kind to them since they were unkind to me. I really don't want to know they're actually a good person or not, it all matters about first impression. They were the one who decided not to be kind with you and that is a indicator that they don't want to be friends with you so why bother?
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@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
17 Mar 12
i understand you when it's about friends but how about those people near you say, a member of your first family or relatives?
• United States
16 Mar 12
In my opinion, biology does not make a family - love, acceptance and being together makes a family - so if you have helped to raise this girl, then she is your daughter. Of course we should be kind and respectful to our children, even if they do not do the same to us in return. First, it is setting a good example. Second, children (especially teenagers and young adults) often act out and do not always treat us kindly, but that does not mean that they do not love us. They are going through a lot of changes physically, mentally, emotionally and environmentally (changing schools, leaving behind old friend, trying to make new friends, etc.), and they do not always know how to handle the stress or express themselves properly, so often the ones that they are closest to (such as parents) are the ones that they take things out on - it is not right, but it does happen. On the other hand, if you are having problems financially, then I think asking her to get a job and help pay for her own tuition is perfectly acceptable. It takes some of the strain off of you financially and also teaches her responsibility and the value of money.
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@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
16 Mar 12
you have a great opinion here friend. and i believe in everything that you said, especially the composition of a family. biologically or not, she is my daughter. but the truth is always asked most of the time, when we have to introduce us both to people considering the surnames we have aren't the same. she bears her father's. as i said in the other box, if i am only able to sustain with the expenses, i won't let her stop college. i love to see my children finish and get a degree. and it will be a pride of mine if i am the one and not other people or the children will persevere and work for their schooling. i just keep my patience and keep holding on the hope, that with the job she will find, she gets matured and change for the better.
@savypat (20247)
• United States
16 Mar 12
Many times in close relationships we are enablers of others behavior. Years from now you may look back and see that by protecting and supporting this girl you and your wife have allowed her behavior. She may also look back and see that this is what was happening and thank you for stopping when you did. This doesn't make what you are doing now any less painful and of course it doesn't say that she will now mature and start a positive, productive life. If babies only came with directions for their care written on their behinds, life as a parent would be so much easier. What we do know is at sometime we must take responsibility for our own actions and the results. Blessings to all
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@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
16 Mar 12
what we can do now with situation is to wait and see. hope and pray time will come with her to change and be a better person.
@anne25penn (3310)
• Philippines
16 Mar 12
I know how hard it is to come by with money these days. But with regard to your stepdaughter not going to college and finding work, I think this is best if she volunteers for it. There is nothing wrong with children getting a job to help with the family finances, but this should not be imposed. I have posted on some discussions how my mother always thought of me as a burden. Instead of seeing that in a negative light, I took it more as a challenge and started work as soon as I was legally able. That was twenty years ago where here in our country, even a janitorial position needed a backer or a diploma. I lied about my age (I was only seventeen then) just to get that job at a fast food chain. There is nothing kids today need to worry about in terms of getting a job that will just pay the bills. And that is the BPO or call center industry. Had this kind of job existed in my time, I would not hesitate in applying and supporting myself. There is always an answer or solution to all the problems that we have. Hang in there a little more, my friend.
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@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
16 Mar 12
actually, she is the one who is really eager to look for a job. it's not once that she applied for jollibee. lately she told us, she will again apply for a job with another store branch and then a summer job. in our office, we are already lacking one personnel. one will leave next week to prepare for her delivery and another one will also be leaving to prepare for the bar exams. our boss told us to look for persons to fill up the place of those three. so i recommended my daughter. but we are still looking for some backers from the higher posts. hopefully by next week, we will get good results. at first, my boss don't agree with something like a summer job, she don't want to have students as when school opens again, we the position will be vacated again and so the work will get affected. when our daughter heard about this, she said, if that is the case, she will then stop going to school if she can get the job.
@ifa225 (11099)
• Indonesia
16 Mar 12
Hi Neild sad to her that Joana is unkind and disrespecting u and ur wife however, someday i believe that she will realized how kind both of u and she will pay for what she had done and make it better i try to be kind even there is some person unkind with me. cause i know that i do that for my own sake, not for anyone. no one will pay for my bad that i had made but me, that is why i always try to be kind
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@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
16 Mar 12
that's really sad and disappointing and frustrating on the part of the parents. we could never imagine how she grew up this way. but i still hope someday she will realize her mistakes and change for the better.
@celticeagle (117158)
• Boise, Idaho
17 Mar 12
I certainly hope that these things happen for you. I think that people sometimes are too leniant and let people walk all over them. In that respect a person or family needs to set up some very serious boundaries. Counseling or books can help you with these issues.
• Philippines
17 Mar 12
I appreciate and admire you so much for your love and the concern you have for your family and your Joana. I may not know the exact circumstance happening to you with regard to your financial situation, but I know that it's not only you but many people around the world. There may even be many who are in a worst condition that what you are in. We had been groomed by our parents and our government to go to school and when we graduate, find a job. That is what is programmed in our minds. However, when our backs are against the wall because our finances are low and debts are high, I hope that we use our minds to think of a better way than continue to do our job, and continue to receive the same amount, month after month. My brother, there is a better way. A better way to improve our finances. The question is, "are we open for other opportunities?"
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