I'd give up everything ...

Vietnam
March 16, 2012 10:58pm CST
This is repeated from he was my sweetheart and now, when he's my husband. If we're normal and happy, I work very well. I make plans to save money, to improve the lives, to make better future for us etc...I also try studying to improve myself. However, if occurring an argument between us, I'll feel bored. I feel life is meaningless. I would give up everything...It seem that I'm crazy... I have tried to change this status. I have tried to optimistic and calm if I angry with my husband. But nothing change!
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16 responses
@SIMPLYD (84951)
• Philippines
17 Mar 12
Have you tried analyzing what is it that really makes you angry with your husband, my friend? Because if you do know, then maybe you could talk it over with him, so he would avoid it. Or maybe it is already in your system to be short fused? Because if you are short fused, you would always feel depressed after you have given an outburst and ruined the good relationship. You will feel guilty for bursting into anger.
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• Vietnam
19 Mar 12
Almost arguments are from me :D I realize that after I read your sharing! thank you. I think because I'm too sensitive. I'll discuss again with my husband!
@SIMPLYD (84951)
• Philippines
19 Mar 12
Oh, if the issue is from you, then you can very well apologize for being that way my friend. We have to always put it in our mind, that life is too short , so we should put off some petty concerns and just stay always.
@cerebellum (3871)
• United States
17 Mar 12
Every couple goes through this at one time or another. The first few years of marriage are the hardest. Your whole life changes and you have to adjust to having another person around that you are responsible to or for. Just give it time!
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• Vietnam
19 Mar 12
Thank you very much. Maybe you're right. We need much time.
• South Korea
17 Mar 12
quarrel with couples are very common, so i hope you dont make a decision when your angry or when feeling down.. There are many times that i do ask divorce to my hubby.. and i know it hurt him so much, and i promise to myself even though i am so angry i wont do it again..because when hes angry .. hes doing it too..haha.. I am very quite and i dont usually speak..everytime i am angry i just feel like im going to have a heart attack.. but even though how angry you are and bored to your relationship i think good COMMUNICATION could make a difference.. Just imagine your life after your divorce..and your children.. and the money and those pay you have to pay alone.. but if you find happiness while doing..and your still young and you feel like your missing something..maybe if theres a chance do it at the right timing.. who knows? you deserve to be better? But before thinking of what so ever try to talk to your husband first..let him know what you feel!! Good luck.. :)
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• Vietnam
19 Mar 12
Thank you for your sharing. I never think to divorce my husband. I only feel bore and I would give up. At time, life is bad with me :)
• India
27 Jun 12
In a couple’s life, there comes a time when we feel bored or feel that your relationship with your husband has hit a brick wall. Talk with your husband. I think you should let him know what you are feeling and discuss whatever is bothering you. I suggest you visit http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/29301411/ns/today-relationships/t/common-marriage-problems-solutions/#.T9fPG7Vo28E. At this website they discuss the 4 most common marriage problems. It might help you save your marriage.
@surekharathi (14134)
• India
19 Mar 12
YEs some time it is necessary to leave everything. Because some little bit arguments is common in between husband and wife. Yes saving is also necessary for future.
@stanley777 (7177)
• Philippines
18 Mar 12
I guess this almost happens to every couple. The first few years of marriage being together I think is the most difficult time, both couple must learn to adjust being two different persons and each have their own distinct character. I think you need to talked with your husband to settle things out before it gets worst.
@maratus (184)
• Indonesia
18 Mar 12
I thing Quarreling with couple even more husband is something usual and common. We life together sometimes we have different opinion and point of view about something. I think you should to be patient with your husband, try to persuade or talk to him calmly and softly. Every problems comes because the communication. SO, try to build good communication with your husband. I wish luck and the best for you...,
• Canada
17 Mar 12
these feelings are common when quarreling occurs between couples. Because we love the other person, we feel bad and sad when there is a fight with the person we love and care about. However, don't be too depressed about these things and just try and be optimistic and positive in life...
@free_man (7337)
• United States
17 Mar 12
Every couple has their moments to just speak in frustration. It wouldn't be normal if a couple didn't have the arguments some times. It isn't a good relationship if it is a constant argument though.
@adhyz82 (36262)
• Indonesia
17 Mar 12
calm down my friend..(i dont know your name..LOL..what is your name?/) sometimes in the household, there are conflict.. let it down..don`t fight or confront when you are still in anger situation.. calm down and talk from heart to heart when both of you had controlled your emotions.. not only you fight in marriage..
@lmpalco (89)
• Philippines
17 Mar 12
All couples tend to have the same qualrrels over and over again. SOme quarrel over money, other over keeping up appearances to impress the neighbors and still others over house hold tidiness. These quarrels rarely resolve; it is not uncommon. Self hugging, everyday tyranny and human needs analysis are the 3 main keys for understanding those repeated issues according to Steven Reiss. Or you should try to make some thing different!
• Singapore
17 Mar 12
Arguments with your partner are normal lad, you must accept things as well too, Maybe perhaps either one of you didn't get to understand each others situation? My suggestion is, find some time together, seat down together and discuss things out, settle what's need to be settled, what he agrees and disagrees and so do yours too. Make sure that both parties receive a fair share of the deal and most importantly, UNDERSTANDING. Life is not meaningless, Nature has its own way as such to make you realize that life is the best thing that you can have. And no lad, no one is crazy, it's about their minds that tell them so. Talk to him, talking things out always helps to clarify problems and misunderstandings from each other. alright? Take it slow and steady, one thing at a time. :)
@jhuddith (222)
• Philippines
17 Mar 12
Hi tkonlinevn, Disagreement or argument among couples is normal. Every now and then, we experience them. The only way to deal with them is to keep on talking to your partner, apologizing if there is a need to, and putting the issue in perspective. Indeed, what is important is to develop a dialogue with your partner with your particular set of irreconcilable differences. You keep talking about them and learn how to live with them. Please don't tend to give up everything. You must remember that arguments of disagreements are part of every healthy relationship. (,")
@airasheila (5458)
• Philippines
17 Mar 12
hi there tkonlinevn, being into a married life is not that easy. hence you really need to embrace everything. it does not matter if you are the wife nor the husband, as in both of you must be submissive to each other. embracing the traits of each other, good or bad, you need to accept. since you marry each other, it does mean that you will be each others arms thru thick and thin, no matter what, no matter when. hence, a little argument is a part of the situation, a thick and thin. and it is normal to encounter these things, as this will mold you to be more mature couple.
@WakeUpKitty (8706)
• Netherlands
17 Mar 12
If nothing changes you have to sit down and have a good chat with yourself. Ask yourself why you are bored. How you want or wanted to develop yourself. What you expect from life, your dreams, goals. What happened with them? Write it all down and also everything that is bothering and annoying you. Can you see one and the same line in all of this? Then there are 2 things you can do: stay and live your own life, chase your goals and make yourself happy and see if you husband is developing himself into the same direction (interests as you) or leave and live your life. No matter what you decide, your life is only yours. It's your journey and you have to live it and make the best out of it.
@aeiou78 (3457)
• Malaysia
17 Mar 12
It is very common to have some minor misunderstanding or arguments when a husband and wife are being together for long. As long as both of you are a committed couple, none of you should give up everything inclusive your relationship and the future of your family easily. For me especially in this oriental culture, I always tolerance and excuse my partner to maintain my family. Argument will be treated as a good period to exchange the opinions in between a husband and a wife. Always place your family and your children if you have, as your priority. Hoping you to have a happy and prosperous home.