I wish I could save my sister

@davaome (1828)
Philippines
March 19, 2012 8:26pm CST
I don't want to believe it but my sister is in rehab because the doctor said she needed to be treated immediately. My sister is a Store manager of a popular fast food chain in my country and she just transferred to our hometown to work on her new workplace last january, and by the time she transferred I started to stay with her to help out with the house while I'm still reviewing for my bar exam. and ever since she transferred, she has been in and out from the hospital, it was like every week, and every time it was different, first it was because of depression, then the next week she collapsed, then she had overdose from the anti-depressant medicine, and just 2 weeks ago, she got into a car accident, then while she was in the hospital, she encountered a problem with the father of her daughter and his current partner and I don't really want to go into details but, she was planning commit suicide in the hospital, and she was not really on her right mind that time, the doctor said she must start to have preventive measures because, she wasn't yet in the state of being "crazy" but she is showing signs that it could be permanent. So we admitted her to rehab for her to realize how important her life is and atleast to try saving her before it's too late. We(family) are not allowed to visit her until she fully recovers. Tomorrow will be her daughter's culmination day, and I will act as the guardian. and my niece doesn't have a clue what is happening to her mom, all I could say to her was that her mom went for a business trip. Stress, stress STRESS!!!! Nothing I can do but to pray and just keep the house and my niece safe until she comes back.
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@Lhenni (1245)
• Philippines
20 Mar 12
It's really a big matter your family is in! Glad your sister has a family like you (and the rest!) friend... Stress is really driving you all that wanted the best for your sister... well, good luck and hoping a positive outcome! Life is good still my friend! We can find reasons why things happens, right?!
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@davaome (1828)
• Philippines
20 Mar 12
I just want to keep hoping and think positive during these times, hopefully everything will be fine. When all of this is done, I'm sure Life is still good. reason? right now, I don't want a reason why this is happening, just want to make my sister feel better first then, I'll think about why... thanks friend
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@Lhenni (1245)
• Philippines
20 Mar 12
I know what you're feeling this time davaome... and my heart is with you. I will do the same if I'm in your situation. I love my family and wanted only the best for them through thick and thin... Mt best wishes my friend!
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@bonding2 (219)
• South Africa
20 Mar 12
i wish your sister a speedy recovery ,it is true what they say ,when loved one are sick we are also sick ,i know that the stress of your sisters sickness will also have its toll on you but all you need to do is pray for her and find out what could be the possible causes of the depression. This will go a long way in making her heal fast
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@Dominique25 (9473)
• United States
20 Mar 12
I'm sorry to hear that your sister is going through all of that. It is a lot for her and you to deal with.I'm glad that she is getting the help she needs. I hope that she will be able to see how much her life means to her family especially her daughter.I know that their have been times in my life when I was severely depressed and didn't see any positive aspect of my life. I'm still at times dealing with this. So i can sympathize with what depression can do to a person. A key thing for her is to want to apply and accept the help she is given. So if anything does happen to your sister remember that you did do all you can. A person has to be willing to help themselves.
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@dazzledlady (1619)
• Philippines
20 Mar 12
Totally stressful! Just continue praying and be the guardian to your niece. I hope your sister recovers and realize that it is not the end of the world when you fall. You can still stand up and move on. When she gets out of rehab or when you are allowed to visit her, make her feel welcome and accepted. That she is not alone in this world and she can count on you. I think people go into depression because they feel they are alone and makes the burden more heavier.
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@chiyosan (30198)
• Philippines
20 Mar 12
I thought it is important that she is in the comfort of her family, the people who loves her and will always be there for her no matter what? I wonder why it is not allowed for her to see all of her family especially her daughter... I hope that she gets well and recovers fast from the depression that she was in. I bet she was really having a hard time coping up with daily life and the stress and some other problems she is faced with. I hope you will still not give up and keep on supporting her until she is well enough to be on her own. I pray for your family and her to be well.
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@SIMPLYD (88551)
• Philippines
20 Mar 12
Oh what a very sad thing to happen to your sister. AT least now that she's in rehab, she has a chance of getting well again. Just bear not seeing her for a long time, as the doctor said. Meantime, it's a good thing that you act in behalf of your sister. In my opinion, i think when your sister's child will be old enough to understand the situation, she should be told about her mother's condition and be assured that she will get well in the future.
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@davaome (1828)
• Philippines
20 Mar 12
I think so too, that my niece isn't old enough to understand the situation yet, but hopefully my sister can recover before my niece starts wondering where did her mom go.
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@SIMPLYD (88551)
• Philippines
20 Mar 12
Just persevere in prayer and it will be given to you, my friend.
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@franne32 (695)
• Philippines
20 Mar 12
I hope that your sister recovers soon and that all will be well. Your situation is truly stressful but it is great that your sister has you and your family to support her. You are already saving your sister in a way because of your love for her. It just wouldn't take overnight for her to change but I do wish she will realize that a lot of people around her care for her and she is not alone in this.
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@davaome (1828)
• Philippines
20 Mar 12
My problem in the future would be when I have to work, I don't really know who will take care of my niece while I'm working, hopefully either the partner of my sister or my niece's biological father will also help out. I do wish that she will recover as soon as possible
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@Hatley (164347)
• Garden Grove, California
20 Mar 12
hi davaome taking care of your niece and praying for your sister, then being there when your sister gets well, thats really all you as a really loving brother can do. I will send my prayers too that sne will get well soon and come home to her little girl and her worried brother.I can only imagine how tough this is on you but as my own doctor tells me just hang in there. Hopefully things will get better soon. Its sad that her ex husband had to come and upset her while she was in the hospital following a car wreck People can be so mean and so insensitive. I am hoping all the best for you, your sister and your little niece. hugs from hatley
@stanley777 (7251)
• Philippines
9 Apr 12
I hope she gets well soon. I am not really sure what rehab centers there do to their patients but I think loved ones should be able to see the patient, maybe it can help. What is really the problem? WHy is she s depressed? Maybe if you know the rt of it, you can help her.
@Sunset50 (1397)
• United States
21 Mar 12
Your niece needs you right now, she is lucky to have s caring uncle. When she questions you about her mother, let her know her mom is in the hospital because she needed to rest. Let her know she has a good doctor and you will be there until the doctor lets her mom come home. Maybe your family or friends will help you when they can. Just take it one step at a time and it will all work out for all of you. My prayers are with you and your family.
@telmesh (1793)
20 Mar 12
What you and your family is going through is vary difficult to know that your sister is in a bad way healthwise and there is nothing you can do but leave it to the professionals. Hopefully it will not be long when you can visit and give her as much support as you can, which I know you will. I can see from what you have written that you love your sister and her daughter and will do your very best for them even though it is making it difficult for your own career. Your sister will when she feels better and her mind is able to sort things out feel guilty for the trouble she will feel she has caused that will be the thing that will be difficult to overcome. Be strong and carry on doing what is necessary as you are, all the best to you all.