Dont fall in love

Hong Kong
March 19, 2012 11:36pm CST
I think its better to love someone maybe 70% so that when they mess up, you wont have a heartbreak
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@SarahAlyx (181)
• United States
20 Mar 12
if you want to be with the person, love them 100%. if they mess up, you're supose to forgive them for the wrongs they've made. That's my opinion though (:
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@jgirap (210)
• India
20 Mar 12
yes i agree with your option as if we did it 70% love,then partner also start to get discourage ,so do it either 100% or directly 0%
• Hong Kong
21 Mar 12
My reason for this is often times when your girlfriend sees you love her too much, they sometimes take advantage of it, but i guess it all depends.
@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
21 Mar 12
This is what I always tell advises to my friends not to love 100%. I think, we still get hurt if we don't give our love to someone 100%.
@swirlz (3137)
• Philippines
21 Mar 12
If we still get hurt even if we don't love 100%, then why not love 100%?
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@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
21 Mar 12
I know! hahahaha Me myself can't be with someone if I don't love them 100%. I was just saying that I always kept telling my friends who had a heartbreak with their exes. :D
• Hong Kong
22 Mar 12
@ swrlz not giving 100% minimizes the damage of the heartbreak, @ chicgale the other person does not need to know, am just saying you keep it in your mind, your are the one who knows how much you are giving in, in-terms of trust and effort, you know it in the back of your mind, you give room for errors.
• United States
20 Mar 12
It should not be don't fall in love. It should be don't go in relationship with the wrong person. Feelings of love can never be controlled. They are natural. Measuring its amount is not easy. But yep, throwing the wrong person out of life is quite an intelligent thing to do. It saves us from a bad heartbreak.
• Hong Kong
22 Mar 12
Yep you have good point "dont go into a relationship with the bad person", but sometimes the ones that appear to be good, mess you up at the end, thats the reason why you will get the heartbreak in the first place, because you thought they were the right person, until you discoverer the other side, all am saying is give room for errors.
• United States
23 Mar 12
There is always a way to know that the person is wrong. Following the intuition is necessary. If right in the beginning intuition says something is amiss about the person it is better to just avoid him. Also many people say don't go by looks. Personality is the main thing. In real world, this does not work. If we cannot like a person right away probably we will never fall in love with them. What we do in this situation is to warm up to his behavior. One little hesitation in the beginning is enough to figure out that the future of the relationship is going to be a disaster. Men should not chase women who play hard to get and need to be lured first. Women should not say yes to men they dislike in the beginning. The attraction has to be mutual. If it is not the case then love is gonna cause heartbreak.
@Mashnn (4503)
20 Mar 12
I think whether you love someone 70% or even 100%, you will still get hurt after a breakup. Any breakup is painful to get through.
• Hong Kong
22 Mar 12
Yeah you will still get hurt, but my theory is if you don't give in completely, you will minimize the pain of the break-up, but am not sayin you should be expecting a break-up in your relationship, m just saying its better to protect your fragile heart.
@Mashnn (4503)
23 Mar 12
True, but that only happens if you do not love that person seriously but the minute you are truly in love, it is hard to resist falling in love fully.
• Philippines
20 Mar 12
if you are loving and hesitant and you cannot love the person a 100% it means you are not loving at all... love means unconditional... meaning you love the person for what he or she is... that is why we are hurt because we know that we are loving faithfully and sincerely... if she/he mess up it means its her/his problem for she/he doesnt know what she/he got.. it means they failed you and all you have to do is to let go.. at least in the end they lost not you.. for you have given your best and love them and they just mess up with it then they lost a gold... for they are busy looking for stones.. and you you can still find a deserving partner to love...
• Hong Kong
21 Mar 12
A lot of people take you for granted wen u give 100% i dont know why
@5mahi05 (667)
• India
20 Mar 12
Oh wow! So, how do you measure the amount of love that you can give a person. I totally don't agree with your point. I am sorry for that because, when you are in love, you expect someone to give you all the love in this world, but the other person will get only 70% of your love?! Well, do you call this love?! I don't call this love when you , measure the amount of feelings and emotions.
• Hong Kong
22 Mar 12
I don't know how to explain this, but I have fallen in love before, and I know the feeling, You don't want to think of anything else but the person you love, its like she controls you unknowingly, then suddenly you discover heart aching staff, m tellin you its painful. So my point is love her, but keep in mind that he/she is not perfect so don't expect too much out of them by giving all your trust, give room for mistakes and be ready to absorb them as they come.
• Australia
22 Mar 12
This is exactly how I feel! Currently in a relationship my self and it is pretty serious I do love the person and I do mean it but there is a part of me I will not let love. Almost like I am keeping my guard up. I long for someone that can break down the walls and I can be completely vulnerable to them. But I am glad there is someone out there that thinks the same I thought I was going crazy!
@bonding2 (219)
• South Africa
21 Mar 12
how much we fall in love is completely out of our control because this is entirely a mater of the heart . What guarantee do you have that you are not going to be the one to mess up . i suggest you love freely, when there is a problem you pick the pieces and move on . if you consider the weather you may not sow that's a popular saying
@obe212003 (2302)
• Philippines
20 Mar 12
Better to love 101%, gave your all to show your affection and sincerity, as this would reciprocate back 102%, lol! Giving less than 100% would only cause space and that space could be filled in by an outsider. What makes a relationship work is for each one to be 100% in order to make it whole.
@almond24 (1250)
• Hungary
20 Mar 12
Is that love? I don't know how to count the percentage of love, but if you love someone you probably expect them to love you 100%. Otherwise it can or will be be a good reason for a breakup that you didn't love each other enough (if we can't love with whole heart, why love at all)