SHOULD I SAY YES to HIM?HEEELP!!
@iamladydianne (37)
March 20, 2012 1:50am CST
There is a guy; we have known each other for just 4 months. By the time that we became friends, he likes me already. after a month of being friends, he courted me. As days passed by, I got emotionally attached to him. I really like him now and I am happy with him. But suddenly, he moved to another city and he's now far from me. But we still have communication. I don't know what happened to me because I suddenly decided to let him stop courting me and never contact me again. And I really regretted it. That is why after 1 day, I texted him and now we're back to old things. But right now, I am really confused if I am willing enough to wait for him and if I should say YES because he was once a PLAYBOY..AND I AM REALLY AFRAID TO GET HURT..what should I do?HELP!
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15 responses
@robelleriosa (29)
• Canada
20 Mar 12
If the guy really loves you then you are lucky. As what i've heard, when a playboy learns to love, they love deeply. Of course, I understand that your confused because of his past but you have to take the risk if you love him. Just don't give all your love to him so that when time comes that you have to make your separate ways, you won't get hurt too much.
Hope I was able to help.. :)
@robelleriosa (29)
• Canada
21 Mar 12
you wouldn't know if it will be a failure if you won't try. When will you take your risk? When he's gone tired waiting? you can always talk to him and clarify things. you can tell him about your feelings but explain to him that you can't say "yes" yet. From there, maybe you can start a new and better relationship. Just always pray and ask HIS guidance. I'm sure you'll come up to a right decision.
@iamladydianne (37)
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21 Mar 12
THANK YOU..really, thank a lot.. Yes, I know that someday I will regret it if I will not take a risk. What if he's really serious and all and I just neglected him,I'm gonna regret it,right?But now, I can really feel that he is serious. You know, his family knows about our situation and I am so ashamed on what I did to him. But its for his own good. So that he can focus on his review for the licensure exam.
@iamladydianne (37)
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20 Mar 12
Yes, maybe i judged him because of his past. But now, I am not that brave enough to take a risk.. if I will say yes to him, then he will be my first. I don't want my first to be a failure.
@nyang1984 (464)
• Philippines
20 Mar 12
if you love him give him the chance. and you just said he was "once" a playboy maybe now he's not the one you knew before.
in my 27 years of existence i also loved a playboy before and we've been together for 4 years. but we didn't end up together. 
@nyang1984 (464)
• Philippines
21 Mar 12
yes! that's true my dear. and that relationship was the longest ever, i mean my partner now we've been together for 2 years and then we decided to get married.
i know how you feel that you're afraid of taking the risk and get hurt at the end. love is such a wonderful feeling but don't give everything, spare love and respect for yourself..
Good Luck
@iamladydianne (37)
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21 Mar 12
Yes, love is really about taking a risk. its really true that when we give love, spare for our ownselves in order to protect us from hurting too much. Its really a big goodluck to us because there is no assurance for both of us but still I am hoping for the best. THANK YOU :)
@iamladydianne (37)
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20 Mar 12
really? yeah,. right now, he is always saying that he's TOTALLY CHANGED and that is because of me.. how I really wish he will not go back to being a playboy..
@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
21 Mar 12
Maybe you should wait and see for a little bit. He might have outgrown being a playboy but you should give it a bit of time to make sure.
@iamladydianne (37)
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21 Mar 12
Yes, I'm gonna wait until July.. Maybe that time, I'm certain about my feelings for him.. :)
@no_ming (137)
• Philippines
20 Mar 12
You are the one must decide, if you really love him and he really loves you then don't waste your time.. Loving a person means accepting him/her whoever she/he is and you will do anything for her/him just to make him/her happy..Love means respect and understand if both partners don't have like that kind of attitude then they are not meant to be..
@iamladydianne (37)
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20 Mar 12
thank you very much no_ming77 .. you helped a lot.. I was really confused but now I am learning to accept him whoever he is.. thank yo very much :))
@SharingLove (76)
• India
21 Mar 12
As ming said you are right person to judge your boy friend, so that you can to decide yourself :) Its simple for me to give advice but you have to take so many days to judge your boy friend and decide your life :)
All the best
@KpucTuaH (4)
• Romania
21 Mar 12
Why not say yes to him.. right now i`m with girl who is student in other city .. we are together about 6 months or maybe more .. i dont count them , but this is not important , if you`re feeling good with him if you are happy , if you can talk with him about hours and hours, if you feel that he is your soulmate i can tell you that the distance doesnt matter :)
@iamladydianne (37)
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21 Mar 12
yes, they said having a long distance relationship is really challenging and worth it if the relationship will really work. But now, I have to distance myself or limit the communication because he is preparing for the licensure exam for nurses..it's for his own good anyways.. :))
@manisan_ako (43)
• Philippines
21 Mar 12
hi, don't trust your heart totally. consult your mind and ask for comments from friends of your suitor. nowadays, it's difficult to give your trust to someone. especially if you're going to have a long distance relationship. just be careful, it's not easy to get hurt.
@iamladydianne (37)
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21 Mar 12
Yes, luckily, I am friends with his friends. They are helping me about him. They are advising him also to treat me seriously and don't include me in his collections. His friends are on my side. :)
@katie4720011 (218)
• United States
20 Mar 12
I do not believe that I would rush into anything if I were you. You have not really known him for that long. Why did he move to another city if I might ask. Also you need to ask yourself if he was once a playboy is he really not a playboy anymore or is he being truthful in saying that he is not. I think as I said earlier that you should not rush into anything until you are absolutely sure that he has changed.
@iamladydianne (37)
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20 Mar 12
he moved there because he is helping his father on their business. but he was suppose to come back this march but it was extended until july.. He said that he's really TOTALLY CHANGED and he is VERY SERIOUS now and I can feel it that he is really serious. His parents knew about our situation and they are helping us also..
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
20 Mar 12
Take your time before you do jump in. The courting process is where you could very well define a person's intentions, and hopefully his sincerity. But on the other hand, if what you think you feel is right and good, and really want to be happy with him, then say yes.
@iamladydianne (37)
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20 Mar 12
yes, that is why I am giving him the chance again. But right now, I am trying to get to know him more. I am trying to test him if he's really changed and serious. ")
@sjvg1976 (41132)
• Delhi, India
20 Mar 12
Hello Dianne,
This is a situation where no one can help you its only you who can decide if you want to be his friend or not.
But its really a surprise for me why you suddenly stopped talking to him.There may be a reason for everything its not that one morning you wake up deciding that you are not going to talk to a person.
I must say analyse first then conclude for anything.
But its really a surprise for me why you suddenly stopped talking to him.There may be a reason for everything its not that one morning you wake up deciding that you are not going to talk to a person.
I must say analyse first then conclude for anything.@iamladydianne (37)
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20 Mar 12
yeah, maybe I was just tired that night. and I am so pissed because of how he acted. He was always jealous even though he is not yet my boyfriend.Maybe that's one of the reason why I decided to stop talking to him.
@Tamosree1993 (1525)
• India
20 Mar 12
i think you talk to him once again.
then you realise your feelings. then you came out with your problems.
i think it helps you.
good luck for your life. have a nice day.
@iamladydianne (37)
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20 Mar 12
thank you.. I am waiting for him now to come back.. Maybe I will figure it out when he come back.. but really thanks a lot.. :))
@god_is_good (683)
• Philippines
21 Mar 12
When the trumpet of love has sounded, it seems that only a few can resist. It is normal for a man or woman to have a special feeling towards the opposite gender. However, a lot of people got hurt because they let their emotion make the decision for them. Nowadays, it is easy for a person to say yes to somebody without thinking the pros and cons. I believe that you are already in a stage where you can think and feel for yourself. If you think you are worth and he's worth to be together, then summon all the courage that you can muster and make the decision, then never regret.
@iamladydianne (37)
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21 Mar 12
thank you very much.. Yes, you are right. I am old enough to know and realize what I really feel for him. But right now, you know, I can really feel the effort that he's doing for me. Though he's far, he is trying his best and I really appreciate it..
@jessielyn11 (11)
• Thailand
20 Mar 12
Y not? But you must be ready to face all the trials.. If the "IF" will come. Good luck..
@iamladydianne (37)
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20 Mar 12
thanks a lot..I am trying now and I am loving it and I am happy.. :))
@blaqwynter (218)
• Canada
26 Mar 12
Follow your heart. Despite that once he was a "playboy" he may have changed his ways. I know, I know, once a cheater always a cheater right? Wrong! People change as they begin to realize that there actually is "good" out there instead of dwelling on the past, and feeling as if they have to beat you to the punch when it comes to hurting someone. I been there, I had guys cheat on me left, right, and center. It hurt me a lot, and then I began doing it. Its not fun, nor pretty. I changed my ways when I realized that I had someone who truely loved me, when it was too late! Again; go with what your heart tells you. Some long distance relationships do last. :-)
@honest_efforts100 (1607)
• India
6 Jul 12
I think you should say no. If you get hurt now from the beginning that’s easier to bear.When the relation is close to long time then you get hurt more.Beecause he was a playboy and you also getting afraid of him.Its tough for you to left him as you emotionally involved but in future you might be happy
@soulist (2985)
• United States
26 Mar 12
This is something you need to decide on yourself. Do you want to take the risk of getting heart broken by this guy because he was a player in the past? Or do you think he loves you enough that he wouldn't play around? Do you want to try to make it work out and see each other as much as you can? Or do you want to try to find someone who is closer to you and isn't a playboy? Those are the things that you need to answer yourself.
