Would you like to be friend with your Ex?

Philippines
March 22, 2012 5:08am CST
If given a chance, would you prefer to be friends with your ex-boyfriend or girlfriend? Why or why not?
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15 responses
• Philippines
14 May 12
In my opinion, it depends. If they are worth the friendship then most probably I would definitely would love to stay friends with him. but if he is not the type who is no longer worth my time and attention, I wouldn't bother at all. They are called ex for a reason anyway.
@ShadowSky (221)
• Bulgaria
22 Apr 12
Well,I would like to be friends with my ex-boyfriend but it's downright impossible for me.It either turns out very awkward or there is too much tension between the two of us for it to work.My personal experience shows that friendship with an ex-boyfriend proves hard but if you make it work(I succeeded once) it pays more than ten fold.One of my best friends is an ex-boyfriend and there is nothing that can be compared to a friendship combined with the closeness of a romantic relationship.
@BigMoney25 (1107)
• Philippines
22 Apr 12
For me it's okay to just be friends with my ex but not the very close friend I mean it will just feel awkard in my part and I do not want to remember the good things that happened to us back then because I do not want to fall in love with her anymore. It's time to move on from those experiences and try to refocus my life.
• United States
1 Apr 12
There are a few that I wouldn't mind being friends with. The only reason why is because we started out as friends. I enjoyed the friendships that I shared with these people, but getting into a relationship ruined it. Once we broke up the friendship seemed to be gone too. I havn't spoken with these people in over 10 years so I don't think it will ever happen. However, given that I am married now, I would only be friends with my exes if I knew that my husband was 100% ok with it. I would not want to cause him to feel uncomfortable in any way.
@bubuth (1816)
• Philippines
29 Mar 12
I think it will depend on the situation like if i feel that i'm still in love on my ex or i feel that there is a possibility that i may fall in love again to him i will still not want him to be my friend because i know that i will not move on if he will be close to me bu if i already move on and i know that i will not fall to him again, it will be okay for me to be his friend because i know that i will not be hurt again.
24 Mar 12
Of course, If God commands that you love your enemies why not be friends with my ex-boyfriend whatever we have been through in the past we have to face it and try to leave it behind.We already have moved on and living our own life so I guess we should accept the fact that we are not really meant to be and be thankful that at least we are meant to be friends.
@samson1 (738)
• Jamaica
23 Mar 12
Not in particular. However, in a bid to be 'civil' and polite at all times, and despite the circumstances that cause the separation (or the end of your relationship with your ex- it is proper to conduct oneself with civility. True, it may become challenging to overcome the issues that caused pain and discomfort -as a result of ending of that relationship - but one should strive to overcome the disappointments/hurt and move on, without malice.
@tagakolo (46)
• United States
23 Mar 12
I'm not not really comfortable being friend with my ex.When i see him of course i smile and that's it.
@ShyBear88 (18070)
• United States
22 Mar 12
I don't mind being friends with my ex and my husband is the same way with his ex girlfriends. I think its every adult of people if they can put the past behind them and let happen in the past stay there and just be friends if you can.
@yanzalong (10174)
• Indonesia
22 Mar 12
There is no harm in making friend with someone you used to love provided you two forget what had happened and never mentioned why you two broke up.
@shadjee1 (604)
• Philippines
22 Mar 12
I am willing to be friends provided that I am over him already and the reason for our break up. If it may be because of a third party, like he cheated or something, I think I prefer not to anymore. It will only remind me of what he did. But if its something else like simply needs time and space, communication issues, i might be able to handle it as long as I don't have feeling with him anymore.
@Woody7189 (247)
• United States
22 Mar 12
There are a couple of my ex girlfriends that I would like to be friends with. It really depends on what sort of relationship you had and the reasons the relationship ended. A couple of my ex girlfriends we had a good, trusting relationship and really cared for each other a lot. In those cases I would like to remain friends. If the relationship ended bbecause of trust issues or such, then no I wouldn't really wish to remain as friends.
• Australia
22 Mar 12
Yes, I always try and be friends after. It can be awkward for a bit and jealousy can come into play a lot. But at the end of the day, you went out with them for a reason they must have been special to you so why cut them out of your life completely. I have an ex who is now my best friend and we have no issues, no hard feelings either.
@tipay26 (873)
• Philippines
22 Mar 12
I'm willing to be friends with my ex boyfriend given the time that I am over him.It's not wrong being friends with your ex but the problem is that you might get confused if you will be friends with them if you are not yet fully recovered from your break up.So to make things easy for both of us I guess it's best to be friends with him if I'm totally over him and I can stand seeing him again hahahah.
• Philippines
22 Mar 12
Subjective. I'm willing, only if I have moved on. Completely. When I know that I can see him and when I don't feel angry anymore whenever I think of him, that means I've moved on. But it doesn't mean that I have to call him and ask for friendship. Of course only if for some circumstances, we've crossed path, I would smile, respond casually and if he asked for friendship and I felt nothing for him, no love, no anger...then it's all good. I just find it ironic for people telling that they're friends right after they broke up. That's a facade. The only respect that we can give to ourselves is our time to heal, our time to forgive, let go and finally move on. It's not the person whose hurting you, it is you. If you are going through a break up and you're reading this...Do this. Give yourself some respect. It may hurt, but we humans have no other choice in life but to move forward. Peace ya'll:)