Do you get jealous of posts with a lot of responces?

United States
March 23, 2012 2:18am CST
Honestly, I do. It kinda sucks when you see someone with 12 comments when you only have 4 or something like that. I don't reply to many of the topics with 10 or more responces. Sometimes I do, if it's a really intrestiing one. But to me when I see a post with a lot of comments I think to myself "They are doing pretty well on their own." and don't post. Normally I search for the ones with very few replies. Especially if they've been there for more than 6 hours. I would rather help out someone with very few posts than somebody with very many. Is that bad?
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@bostonphil (4397)
• United States
25 Mar 12
I do not get jealous but I do sometimes feel frustrated. I have begun what i thought were very good and deep discussions receiving only one or two responses. Then I will see a discussion that is lightweight and or superficial. And that discussion has gotten 15 plus responses. However most of my discussions are about current events or politics. Those do not seem to be popular topics. I sometimes respond to discussions that have no or very few responses but only if it interests me and or I feel that i can add something.
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@allknowing (61550)
• India
25 Mar 12
This site also offers an opportunity to socialise and that is what happens when one gets responses from all those friends, regardless how trivial a topic may be. It is the bond one creates here with other users that plays a big role.
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@Hatley (164757)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Mar 12
hi bostonphil and all knowing know one thing I hatley will always respond to those who respond to me so do not be jealous as I was new and I had few responses then made friends and got more responses to my own discussions.I am saying I kind of earned my way up so to speak. lol socializeing is a big part of it so my topics might not be mindblowing but they are human and as such will appeal to some p eople
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• United States
25 Mar 12
I do not get jealous but I do get frustrated. I have many friends on mylot but I do not just respond to discussion of friends because they are friends. I respond to discussions that interest me and when I feel that I have something to contribute. I expect others to do the same. If my discussion does not interest a mylotter and or the mylotter feels that he or she has nothing to contribute, I do not expect them to respond. I am older than most mylotters and I have different interests than many. That is what makes the world go round but I do put a lot of effort in creating good discussions and I feel frustrated when I get only two or three responses. There have been times when I felt certain that I would get 10 to 12 responses and got only one or two.
@alberello (4755)
• Italy
23 Mar 12
Well, I do not watch so many answers that have been assigned to an individual topic. I comment when I find an interesting subject where I want to express my opinion inherently to it. I'm not jealous at all, even if no-one responded to my threads. Basically in this site are open every day hundreds of threads of all types. We have to see how many of these are more or less concrete.
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• United States
23 Mar 12
It has nothing to do with mony. I just like getting a lot of feedback.
@sishy7 (27667)
• Australia
23 Mar 12
I don't get jealous because I am not really trying to get a lot of responses on my discussions. As for replying, I do more on those with few responses because I don't have anything else to say after so many responses before me. I'd get into some long posts if I see a response that I can add some comment to.
• United States
24 Mar 12
I sound like a horrible person. It is easier to comment on fewer posts but I am normaly able to keep up. Sometimes there is no responce to give even if it's only one responce (though I do try)
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@sishy7 (27667)
• Australia
24 Mar 12
You acknowledged every single responses here, so I don't see how you could be horrible or selfish at all. I think what you're feeling & doing is perfectly fine. What's your opinion on this situation though? I've seen discussion starters who comment to every single responses except one. It's not like it's the last response either which he/she may not get to it yet. All responses above & below the skipped one were commented, so it looks like that particular response is purposely ignored. There could be any reason why is that so; but won't you think that would make that responder who were skipped wondering what could possibly be wrong with the response?
• United States
24 Mar 12
If I don't respond it's usually two or more because then it is not like I'm singling someone one out. If there is only one where there really is no responce I try hard to make one up. Sometimes there is nothing to say. Nothing is wrong with the comment, it's just that it might not be something that there is no real reponce to.
@shebacs (178)
• Philippines
23 Mar 12
Yes, I do too. I have threads that I thought had topic. But sadly, no one want to talk or post about it. And then some reported a thread of mine to be a game or poll type discussion when I was merely asking people what their favorite movie scene or line were. Apparently asking people their favorites are not suitable in MyLot. Oh well, lesson learned.
@shebacs (178)
• Philippines
23 Mar 12
^^ I meant threads that I thought had good topics.
• United States
24 Mar 12
That's so stupid. They shouldn't be deleting your post because you asked for someones opinion.
@shebacs (178)
• Philippines
24 Mar 12
Well, what can you do, MyLot has rules and regulations. Let's just follow them.
@ShepherdSpy (8562)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
24 Mar 12
Firstly, I must say it's good that you'd concentrate on helping out those discussions with only a few responses to boost them a bit,but I'd also think You may be shooting yourself in the foot by passing over some of the more popular discussions..if You're interested in getting lots of responses yourself,you'll need a good discussion starter for your own item,and being recognised by a lot of people who might then in turn help out on your discussions doesn't hurt,either..so,popular,longer discussions can help get your input seen by those many people reading through the list of responses..Do you add many people as Mylot "Friends" whose discussions you've enjoyed reading or whose responses you enjoy getting? As you know,Those people's discussions get "Flagged" for you to see,so if you're on their list,that gets you out there being seen too..Good luck with more responses!
• United States
24 Mar 12
I don't ignore posts with lots of responces. If I like the subject and have something to say then I will respond no matter how many responces there are. Also when a post gets a bunch of responces how do I know if the person even bothered to read mine.You're more likely to be ignored if you're one of fifteen than if you are one of four.
@mysdianait (64064)
• Italy
24 Mar 12
"You're more likely to be ignored if you're one of fifteen than if you are one of four" That will depend on who started the topic. Some of us read and comment back to every single response, even with back and forth comments, no matter how many pages of responses there are. We don't start many though because one at a time is enough to keep us interested.
• United States
24 Mar 12
That is true. I usually post a lot because I don't tend to get a lot of responces so I can manage them all pretty well. But right now I've got five topics going that seem to keep getting responces. Two have over a dozen and keep growing. I love getting feedback from as many people as I can but I'm not used to this amount so keeping up with all five is very difficult. Actually just keeping up with the two biggest ones.
@allknowing (61550)
• India
24 Mar 12
There are reasons why some get many responses and some don't. The main reason is that they have worked hard to keep a good list of friends and they are constantly in touch with each other. One needs to work here to be able to be noticed. Another reason is that the topic gets the attention and hence many responses. When I see so many responses to topics I do feel that I too should get but no 'green' feeling!. I have also had the joy of getting as many as 77 responses. At the end of the day it is your total activity here that gets rewarded.
• United States
24 Mar 12
77 for one post? Did you ask if anyone wanted a dollar? What was it. Go you though.
@allknowing (61550)
• India
24 Mar 12
There are other users here who have received many more and that is routine with them but mine is a rare occurrence!. No I did not offer dollars
• United States
24 Mar 12
Are you sure? Cuz if you offered me a dollar I would totally say yes.
@Hatley (164757)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Mar 12
hi babystaffster no ind eed I do not. I have lots of respnses now onalmost anything I write. I was never here to be in a contest with anyone but myself.I never envy people or feel jealous as those are emotions that make one ill and also stop us from doing our own best work.work on the quality of your own discussions and you will be amazed at how the number of responses you will get . Make friends and try to respond to all their discussions so that you will have people who will always respond to your own discussions. No helping others is never bad but if you are jealous ofme say a as I always get a goodly amount of responses realize I was new once and had my share of few responses so I have worked to get to where I am. do not be afraid to respond to me as I will always respond back to those who respondto me. [
• United States
26 Mar 12
It doesn't take a profound affect on me. I'm a little jealous, ya, but I don't spend my day thinking about it.
• United States
26 Mar 12
The post probably makes me sound more jealous than I actualy am. And while I'm more likely to go with the posts with few responces I don't ignore the others unless I have no intrest in them at all (that goes for every discussion.)
@tonyllenium (6266)
• Italy
23 Mar 12
no ima not jelous at all..in many cases you can notice that some usual discussions as 'which is your favourite fast food?' or other gains much responses so because they are quick and simple so may be some discussions a little bit complicated will gain less responses so in many cases if you open quality discussions you can gain less but it is not bad...
• United States
24 Mar 12
I'm more talking about a lot of comnments for very trivial posts,. Like "what's your favorite hamburger?" or something. If it's a good post I respond no matter how many people did.
• United States
24 Mar 12
That sounded bad, they are all good posts. I meant ones that get my intrest.
@mysdianait (64064)
• Italy
24 Mar 12
I admire those who find and propose a topic for discussionin a way that it rhen receives many response. I admire those who keep going back and commenting on all of those responses too, not leaving anyone out. I don't start many discussions but often when I do, they will receive many responses. I can assure you that it is then difficult to keep up with them, especially when you have offline things to deal with too.
• United States
24 Mar 12
I would like to respond to everyones comments but I don't always have something to say in return. I do read them all though.
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@Christoph56 (1508)
• Canada
24 Mar 12
Well, it looks like this kind of post is one that gets loads of responses! I'm guessing it's one of the bigger ones that you've had. I feel a bit of the same way as you do, when a post already has a bunch of comments, then I don't really need to add anything on... I don't feel like I'm helping so much, because everything has already been said... however, the ones that get the most comments, are popular for a reason. They have the more intriguing ideas behind them, and that's why so many are posting... I'm posting to this one, though, more to help you get the largest amount of responses possible :) Happy mylotting!
• United States
24 Mar 12
I love the irony. This is the most I've ever gotten and honestly, it's kind of hard to keep up with.
@atwilson (540)
• Indonesia
24 Mar 12
i am not jelous. It is not bad. Just participate in each user. it should be fair.
• United States
24 Mar 12
I don't completely ignore posts. I look at the subject before the number of responces.
• Philippines
24 Mar 12
I haven't started too many discussion. I only posted since I came back after a year of absence here in mylot. I maybe feel a little upset to see my topic with less responds, but there is nothing we can do about it. Just enjoy mylotting and make friends, that way, more comments on your next topic. :)
• United States
24 Mar 12
Welcome back:) I tend to be on and off with this site. I'll spend every day on it and then leave it for months before coming back and start the cycle again.
@TheIzers (680)
24 Mar 12
No, not really. I honestly don't really care how many response a discussion got. usually I just pick a discussion based on what question is interest me not based on how many response they get.
• United States
24 Mar 12
I still respond if it sparks my intrest.
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
24 Mar 12
I reply to almost all discussions that interests me regardless of how many responses they have. Users do not earn even though they have like 10 or 50 replies... you earn when you give...so even though that person have one reply, and if you reply to that you earn..but if you ignore it, then you won't be earning lol. But again i do not care how many responses they have.. as long as it is worth replying for.
• United States
24 Mar 12
If the post intrests me I will reply no matter how many responces there are.
• Philippines
24 Mar 12
Hi, that's very kind of you. Yes, I get jealous of people who started discussion with responses that takes up to 4 o 5 pages. Like you, I don't reply to them too. I feel like if I replied to them, they don't notice my response anymore because they don't comment on each response anymore because it's just too many. So I just comment on discussions with just one or two pages like this.
• United States
24 Mar 12
See, that's my thought too. I'm glad there is someone else who feels this way:)
@cher913 (25893)
• Canada
23 Mar 12
no, i don't think it is bad but it really doesn't bother me at all, as long as i have one.
• United States
24 Mar 12
I'm still happy if I get only one responce. It would be cool to have more but it's nice to know that at least one person cared about what I had to say.
@Olleenz (3400)
• Indonesia
23 Mar 12
Nope, I'm not jealous. My English is weak and I'm also slow typing too .... It mean if I got a lot of responses in my discussion, I'm gonna feel guilty to my all responders because I can't comment back as soon as I can.
• United States
24 Mar 12
I'll admit it is easier to comment to fewer people. I just like hearing lots of opinions from diffrent people.
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@tatzkie23 (773)
• Philippines
23 Mar 12
Nope i don't. Because i rarely post my own discussion. LOL. But anyways, i respond to any discussion that interest me whether they have lots of comments or nothing at all. As long as i have my opinion or story to tell. If i can, i would respond to every discussions here, but it will take a lot of time and effort. LOL.
• United States
24 Mar 12
I post lots of discussions cuz I often think of something and want to hear peoples views or find out if annyone agrees. And I like attention. I'm a horrible, selfish person:(
• India
23 Mar 12
I also in your boat. i too get jealous of seeing post with many responses. I think how this post got this much comments. but, i don;t think it is bad as jealous is inevitable we can't avoid it. it's a matter of time will come at that moment... I think many will jealous about your post :) :)
• United States
24 Mar 12
Lol, thanks:)
@topffer (33151)
• France
23 Mar 12
I am certainly not jealous of these posts. I am a bit discouraged when one of my discussions receives too much responses : I am a slow responder and I do my best to comment everybody. I think that a discussion with 3 responders, if there is a lot of interaction, can be as good as a discussion with 50 responders. I have good memories of some discussions involving only a few members. I respond to a discussion when I find it interesting, and I don't care about the number of responses already given. I don't think it is bad, but I don't understand why you are depriving yourself of entering in a discussion that you find "really interesting" just because you think it has got too much responses. Maybe are you too lazy to read all the comments before giving your own response ? Beware : laziness and jealousy are capital sins.
• United States
24 Mar 12
As I said, if I find the subject intresting I will comment. I just commented on a post will 40 responces because I was intrested in the question. But ya, it is a whole lot easier to respond to three people then it is to 15.