His girlfriend asked for his Facebook password, should he give it to her?

Philippines
March 23, 2012 9:42am CST
She asked for his password, assuring him that it will be ok and she will not screw it up. She just wanted to see all the messages he has in the inbox. She said it doesn't mean that she dont trust him, its just that she wanted to read messages in the inbox. Is this a privacy issue? What will i advise to my friend?
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14 responses
@cupkitties (7176)
• United States
24 Mar 12
"She said it doesn't mean that she dont trust him" She's lying. People with severe trust issues always say things like that. That or the ever so infamous line "Its not that I don't trust you. I just don't trust him/her" when in reality it really is you that they don't trust. If he decides to show the messages, he doesn't need to give the password. He can just log in and then show them to her, but that definitely is a privacy issue.
@hestylim (1211)
• Indonesia
24 Mar 12
I agree with you. She is lying. If she trusts the guy she wouldnt ask about the facebook password.
@TheIzers (680)
23 Mar 12
She should not give the password to her boyfriend, if her boyfriend keep asking about the message she received on FB she should tell him that he needs to start learning to trust her.
• Philippines
24 Mar 12
But she keeps on crying and wanted to make sure that she'll be able to know more of his personal life in the past and settle it once and for all.
• Philippines
24 Mar 12
clearly the girl has trust issues. if you are confident that you do not have anything to hide in your facebook account give her the password and reassure her that you are faithful to her. it would put both of you at ease.
@shrmanoj (384)
24 Mar 12
No, password is a very essential thing and it can't be share to anyone even to the life partner. If his girlfriend doesn't trust him, it is a very bad condition.
@tagakolo (46)
• United States
24 Mar 12
she needs to respect his privacy because men needs that some women does not understand that their man need privacy.
@hestylim (1211)
• Indonesia
24 Mar 12
Hi Elidarrieta, Everyone has his own limit about privacy. Mine, I don't tell anyone, even my boy or whoever my facebook password. It is private for me. I don't like my boy to ask me about my facebook password. It is trust issue. I do the same with my boy. I dont want to know anything that hurt his privacy. Relationship is about trust. If you dont trust each other, you had better end the relationship.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
23 Mar 12
Personally, I think that it sounds like there is a seriois trust issue in this relationship and I do not think that it is right of her at all to ask for his facebook password. Now I am a married woman, but there is still no way that I would ever give my password to my husband. The reason that I wouldn't give my password to my hubby is because there have been some conversations that I have had on there that could easily be taken as something that they are not. In addition to that, even being in a relationship, I do still feel that people do still have a right to some kind of privacy.
@Faith1118 (112)
• Philippines
23 Mar 12
What you do not know will not hurt you? So for me it is up to you guys if ever you completely trust each other and doesn't have any problem sharing information then thats gonna be no problem, but if ever you have any even a bit of hesitations please do not do it just because you would like to please your partner it is not a trust issue but it is rather a willingness issue because if you are not comfortable sharing this things then do not force yourself because it might be an issue that you cant fix over night...so talk about it, and it should be a two traffic as they say " love is a give and take in any relationships".
@almond24 (1250)
• Hungary
23 Mar 12
I would not mind sharing my password with my boyfriend, but this should be voluntary... If she asks for it, then it's clear that she doesn't trust him. Why would she want to see his messages if she's not suspicious? But if even future employers can ask for your password, seems like privacy in facebook is non existent.
• Philippines
23 Mar 12
In my case I am not giving my PW to her because even though she's my girlfriend, It's still my personal thing. If we are married, then it's just ok. And why the hell it is under the 'Basketball' category..?
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
23 Mar 12
why she must ask her boyfriend pasword of facebook?? does she not trust her boyfriend??
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
23 Mar 12
I agree with the others. There is a trust issue here. I was just on another similar discussion where someone brought up another very important aspect in sharing passwords on sites such as this. Think about this....you are a friend of this guy. Now if you had a very personal problem that you wanted to discuss with him in a private message, would you be comfortable doing so knowing that she had access to read your personal e-mails?? Not only that, who knows who else she might share them with. And what about if they break up? She could do a lot of damage knowing all this. She is not only looking to invade his privacy but that of all of his friends. I would strongly advice him to not only refuse to give it to her but really question the relationship itself. I can't even imagine asking someone to let me read all their private mail even if we were married. The fact that he is even considering giving it to her would make me feel like I don't want to share anything too personal with him.
@Mashnn (4503)
23 Mar 12
She simply has trust issue. Why do she has to check his inbox if she really trust him? It is always good to give your partner some freedom or a space to breath unless he proves otherwise.
• Philippines
23 Mar 12
hi elidarrieta, There are things we should keep for ourselves and can't share it to our partner as for me if trust is really there no need to ask for the password. Even they are partners there still should be a privacy between them. happy mylotting