How important is date night out for you as a parent.

By C
@ShyBear88 (18618)
United States
March 23, 2012 1:51pm CST
How important is going out on a date with her husband/wife/boyfriend/girlfriends/ or just friends for a night after you have kids? For me and my husband its really important. We spend all of our time and energy on our daughter. Every day of the week its with our daughter. We try every so many months to just go out the two of us. We don't have the money to afford a babysitter so we normally wait for when family is in town visiting. Which none of them mind taking our daughter for a few hours while we spend alone time outside of the house. We get plenty inside the house. We have a second baby on the way to show we found time in the house for alone time. I'm looking forward to tomorrow me and my husband are going out for our 2 year anniversary early. We had planned to do it early since family was only going to be here for a week and it turns out they are here till the end of April which is fine with me but we want to go out now and do something on our anniversary instead of a date. We are going to eat out at a nice play that we have been saving up to go to and to see the Hunger Game. Going tonight to pick up tickets for it.
3 responses
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
30 Mar 12
This is something that I wish Tom and I were able to do, but it is something that we don't have the opportunity to do nearly often enough. You see, we do have the two kids and it is difficult to find someone that is willing to watch the kids for several hours so that we are able to have a date with each other. Last year, when Tom was going through chemo, we did have every other Friday that we were able to spend together, but it wasn't something fun because of the fact that he was being poisoned while we were there.
@ShyBear88 (18618)
• United States
3 Apr 12
Me and my husband don't get to go that often either for a date night but we do make a habit of it when family is in town for them to take our daughter for a little bit while we go out. Pretty much they force us two and later on after wards we are thankful for it. Even if its just us going home watching tv together at least its something. Next year our family will have two kids to deal with while we are out for a little bit. We just had two date nights one for our anniversary and another because my husband grandparents wanted to keep our daughter for a night so we let him. We really didn't go out we just pretty much drove around for a bit and came home went to bed and slept in. This week my husband's mother is in town and she wants to watch our little girl for a little bit so I'm more then happy to let them have that time with her.
@WakeUpKitty (8706)
• Netherlands
23 Mar 12
To me it's not. If I go out I go out because I like to see a movie or play or like to go to the beache etc. This has nothing to do with doing this with my husband. With kids is fine too. More important to me is to have time for me, without kids. I have that time at home as well. My kids know when it's bedtime after that it's my time. If they can't sleep (yet) it's fine too but they do stay in their own rooms. I don't need to date my husband to be with him or talk to him outside the house I like my house. This all besides of the fact I don't have the money to go out frequently and it's seldom that great as I have in mind.
@ShyBear88 (18618)
• United States
23 Mar 12
I'm a stay at home so going out is some is a must in my house. We do plenty of things with our daughter so time to just be with each other is good for us. Especially at our ages right now with a toddler and another baby on the way. We get plenty of time in the house be still there are things that we just want to do buy ourselves. I got alone time at home when my daughter is sleeping/napping. But there are just things we can't do at home with a little kid running around. Like a nice quite dinner or seeing a movie. That is what I miss most going to the movies every now and then. Daughter not older enough for the movies. It's important for me and my husband and for some other couples. I would never want to send my kids to there room for bed and say don't get me its mommy/daddy time don't bother me. That just seems kind of selfish and if something happens then they feel as if they are bother us because something has happened. At home there is no time to ourselves like it should be my kids should feel if they need to wake me up at 2am for something then they can or to talk alone where others can't hear they can get that.
@cher913 (25890)
• Canada
23 Mar 12
i think it is super important to have that reconnection as a couple to have a datenight alone at least once in awhile.
@ShyBear88 (18618)
• United States
23 Mar 12
It is important to have one every now and then. Not ever weekend but every few months or every 4 weeks you go enjoy what little time you have by yourself because later down the line you'll have all the time you need to yourselves when your kids are all grown up. Its nice to just talk and not hear crying and screaming coming from your own kid or hearing mommy or daddy ever 5 seconds. But by the end of the night you miss all that annoying chatter coming from your kids and your ready for it to start back up again.