When the Flu does not fly, my son's s till ill.

@Hatley (164629)
Garden Grove, California
March 24, 2012 5:24pm CST
Somehow the old saw, the best laid plans of mice and men oft go astray, feels appropriate right now. I just phoned my son to see how he wass doing and when he was coming to see me. He was down with the flu last week. he sounded awful, coughing and wheezing and I tolr him lets wait til next weekend as you sound just awful. I know he was not putting me off, as he's been wonderful coming to see me weekly these past three years. to make this into a real discussion whats your take on this winter's version of the flu.To me this years flu here in California seems worse than it has been for several years. I know I was ill all of January course I waited too long to go to the doctor. what worries me is my son is only 52 so has no insurance and though working is on as extra help so no health insurance there.He is too young for medicare too.I know I should not worry over him as hes an ad ult but moms see their ad ult kids as kids yet their kids.,Your take again, mus moms always worry about their ad ult kids?
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@Janey1966 (24127)
• Carlisle, England
24 Mar 12
Kids worry about their Mums just as much Hatley! In fact, Mum was sent home from work on Wednesday because she was coughing and spluttering all over the place. She'd already been off with one of those 48 hour bugs which is why she went back in..but I was so miffed on Tuesday night when she told me she was going back to work. I said, "You're joking aren't you Mum..you sound AWFUL!" Needless to say, I was right. She was sent home. In fact, according to her she's "never been right" since she had her flu jab. I told her that she should still have it next year because she WILL catch flu if she doesn't..do you know what I mean? It would just be her luck wouldn't it?
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@Hatley (164629)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Mar 12
hi you are ri ght of course. your poor mom. I used to do that too when Iwas working in the library and was sent home as Isounded so bad.I had one virus and was almost over when my roomie got sick and she gave me the real flu .I was so sick all of a sudden and it too k me most of Dec and all of January to get over it as it turned into walking pneumonia., My son said he finally had to stay homne from work as his boss was concerned for him. so I told him just stayh home and take care of yourself. a visit to me can wait in fact there are signs i n our lobby. visitors if you have the flu please postpone your visits here. so hopefu lly he can see me next weekend.'I just hope he takes really good care of himself.I had a flu shot in November but sadly this flu virus the doctor said is a different strain. well gee whiz why not have the strain of flu jab that is prevalent so we do not get sick huh? I still will get the flu shot as most of the time it did save me from flu and bronchitis that always hits me.
@Hatley (164629)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Mar 12
hi Janey I do hope they send her back home if she is really coughing nonstop.oh my when is Easter I have lost track of time lol I hope your lovely weather also continues. Today its raining here,cold, windy and looks like its going to continue raining off an on the rest of the day.
@Janey1966 (24127)
• Carlisle, England
26 Mar 12
Hi Hatley! I suppose it should warm up by now should it, where you are? I'm hopeless at worldwide weather. It seems all countries have their "weird months" and temperatures have broken records in SCOTLAND over weekend. Unheard of! Hope it warms up for you very soon.
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@AmbiePam (49557)
• United States
24 Mar 12
Your son is in the same predicament my dad was in. I was so worried about him. A couple of weeks ago he got a cold/flu type illness, and he was wheezing, coughing, had a sore throat, his ears hurt...and he had no health insurance. I was incredibly concerned. He took Mucinex which helped a lot. But he also got a presciption nasal steroid from my mother's doctor. He had to pay the cost of the prescription of course, but he didn't get charged for his own visit.
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@Hatley (164629)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Mar 12
hi AmbiePam he told me he is going to get some contrex and i know that helped me but I had picked up a second virus from my roomie ]just as I got over the first, and this one was the flu.He sounds just like I did with heavy coughThat was kind of my your mom's doctor to do that for him. I am so concerned for tho se who do not have healthinsurand,I have United Health Care gap insurance with medi care but the younger people are having it so tough. I am hoping in spite of all the static against Obama that the universal health care will go through,Canada has it I think England has it. all we have are incredibly expensive health plans here; we should be ashamed as a nation not to provide health care for all our citizens. hope I do not g t static for saying that.Here's hoping both your dad and my son will soon be well again.
26 Mar 12
It is a very very nice. I like it.
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26 Mar 12
It is so nice but it is very hard.
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@mentalward (14695)
• United States
25 Mar 12
Yep, we sure do! I have two sons, one with a great job and great insurance, the other without either. Even with my son with the job and insurance, I worry. He called me a few years ago and said "Mom, I think I need to go to the hospital." This is a man who never complains so I knew he was very sick. He had the flu, too. I rushed over, picked him up and took him to the hospital, then stayed by his side the entire 10 hours he was there receiving IV fluids. (He was seriously dehydrated.) He was 27 at the time but I felt no different than when he was 7 and sick. It's funny but my oldest son will be 31 in June and will be a first-time daddy in August. I find myself worrying about how he's going to handle fatherhood. He's proven himself to be a mature, responsible adult over and over, yet I still worry as if he was a little boy. I think it's just our nature to worry about our children, no matter how old they get. If your son has to go to the hospital like mine did, let him know he shouldn't worry about the bill. My youngest son had to go to the ER once and, when the bill came for around $1,000.00, I took him to the accounts department at the hospital where he explained that he had no income. They wanted him to get a statement from his brother, whom he is living with, as to his brother's taking care of him financially, then the hospital deleted the bill from his account. They were awfully nice about it. If you son tells them that he has no insurance and only makes so much, I bet they'll adjust the amount of the bill to one he can manage or even say he owes nothing. It's worth a shot, anyway. I hope your son is all better very soon. It's been awhile since I had the flu because I get a flu shot every year. The worst I've ever had from the shot was a headache so it's worth it to me to get that shot every year. I remember how it feels, though, and it's no fun to be sick with the flu!
@Hatley (164629)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Mar 12
I don' t think he got the flu shot bu t I did as they came arou nd here and were giving them free. still I came down with a different strain of flu according to mydoctor. I will tell my son about your sons visit to the hospital. He has no insurance and is working almost full time but as extra help so n o insurance from his employer.Also there are free clinics in Santa ana for poor people and he could use some antibiotics.I will remind him of those.he is pro ud but should mot be when its his health.
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@GardenGerty (100499)
• United States
25 Mar 12
Like you, I remember what it feels like to have the flu. I also understand that sometimes a different strain manages to find us. I hope Hatley's son gets any treatment he needs.
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@Hatley (164629)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Mar 12
hi thanks Garden Gerty I am doing to remiind him to swallow his pride and go to one of the free clinics in Santa Ana as they are manned by interns from the University of Irvine Ca medical school and they do know what they are doing too. they will not charge him and only cost would be prescription and he can get help on that too if he swallows his pride and goes to Welfare.Even if he is working almost full time he will be helped.
@jjzone44 (917)
• United States
24 Mar 12
Hi Hatley, Yes, real mothers always worry about their children, forever. I bought my mom for Mother's day a few years ago a statue of two hears, one large and one small, and the base reads "A Mother holds her son's heart forever". Truer words were never spoken.
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@Hatley (164629)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Mar 12
hi jjzone44 so right that is really true. that mujst have been 'reallyh a cut statue too. He has it bad as he finally stayed home from wo rk he told me part of this past week.He is not one to stay home from work unless hes really really feeling bad. I am the same wasy or rather I was the same way when i worked too. I was sent home when I had the flu many years back. reallyone should st ay home as going gives it to anyone whose resistenceis down a bit when you work while ill.
@jjzone44 (917)
• United States
25 Mar 12
Definitely if you have the Flu you should stay home, as it does risk others at your work-site. It also risks others in the co-workers families as well. Even if your resistance is good, or you've had the flu shot, it's possible to take the organism home, and pass it to others who are not so fortunate.
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@Hatley (164629)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Mar 12
yes this flu is reallyvery contagious and we all should stay home if ill as we can spread it to everyone coworkers and customers too.
• United States
25 Mar 12
Hatley, has your son ever considered going to the county health office? That's what I had to do for four or five years-and that was only for basic care! I currently am without insurance but I'm not familiar with the area so I'm not sure where to begin. As for your question about this winters flu season-yes it was awful! Everyone I knew was sick that I worked with-and of course I was sick too! Fortunately I gave in and was sick for Turkey Day. Took that time to recover. I hope your son feels better soon!
@Hatley (164629)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Mar 12
hi scorpio babes . a free clinic sponsored jointly bhy the county and by the University of Irvine is in Santa And . its in a raunchy section of town but is okay in the daytine,these interns'get the practice and will soon be doctors so they'would be able to help him. I will email him this as it w as so hard to talk to him on the phone he was coughing so much. I was sick all of January started with th e flu, moved to bronchitis then to walking pneumonia but a week of strong antibiotics and in March I felt great again. I was ill on Christmas Day and Newyears day and eve.
• United States
25 Mar 12
Sadly most free things, like health clinics, come with things we do not like. The office I used to go to was 45 minutes from my home(s) in Jersey, but I was still a patient after I moved. I had a GREAT doctor there but I'm just not in a position to drive 2+ hours each way to see her :( The closer office is in a pretty bad area but I'm not sure I could see her on my day off.
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• United States
25 Mar 12
Oh, and to answer your question about us mothers always worrying about our children? When my mother was dying at the hospital, one evening I took my daughter (then 8) with me to visit her. My mom was having a rough night so my focus shifted from my daughter. I settled mom when she started pushing me away, pointing toward the door. She had noticed I was wobbling from fatigue plus my daughter had laid her head down on the bed within my moms reach, falling asleep. My mother as sick as she was was more worried about us than about herself. I think it was the last time we saw her.
@lakantar (1575)
• Greece
25 Mar 12
Well I think it is logic for mums to worry about their kids at any part of their lives (maybe it's their way of showing their love to their kids) as soon as there isn't interfering with their (adult) kid's lives.
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@lakantar (1575)
• Greece
25 Mar 12
Well if it is just a flu then it has to do it's circle :) I had a flu since last saturday probably the same with your son, I was coughing a lot I had a sore throat and barely some fever sometimes, but after lots of tea and some light painkillers yesterday I was better. So if he is feeling sick for like one or two days so far I think it's logic that a person's body needs sometime to get over a flu :)
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@Hatley (164629)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Mar 12
hi lakantar its been hanging on too long and I emailed him this norning to s eek one of the free clinics inSanta Ana as they are manned by interns from the Univ of C al Irvine medical school so they do know what they are doing. I think he needs som' antibiotics now as he must have bronchitis and that needs antibiotics to clear it up.
• India
26 Mar 12
I am in Japan, and I have seen many children suffering from Flu. But, it is cured with antibiotics in one or 2 weeks. Every child coming to hospital having fever is tested for flu. My son, a month before got a viral fever but, tested for flu. But, luckily, he was not having flu. For parents, their kids are always children irrespective of their age :-) Kids are their world and nothing becomes important when parents see their kids suffering with pains.
25 Mar 12
Hi Hatley, so sorry your son has this freadful flu and cold, I uderstand why you worry so, I would tell him to drink pelnty of water and eat orangers, also pure orange drink is good, he can try honey and lemon too as he cannot offord medications, its best he try all this, he should be fine and well to see see you next week or the next, you take care. Love and hugs always. Tamara
@Hatley (164629)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Mar 12
hi tamara Yes I will tell him all that. also I emailed him to remember there is a free clinic in Santa A na, not in a good place in town, but it is manned by interns from the University of California medical school. so they do know what they are doing and he should get checked out and get a prescription for antibiotics for the bronchitis he has. I hope. hesounded awful. I know he does not like that area of Santa Ana but the doctors at the free clinic are good and if he goes in the daytime he should be fine.Santa Ana once was a really beautiful city now since its predomninately illegal Mexicans who came here broke the city has fallen into ruins, streets are breaking up, potholes galore, a lot of businesses left and the buildings are boarded up. the streets no longer are swept. they just let it go to ruin, the crime used to be low no more its highest in the whole damned state,
26 Mar 12
Hi Hatley, that is such a shame, what is the goverment doing about it? nothing!!! I imagine,we have the same problems with illegal immergrants as well from all over, its not nice. You just take care and hope your son will get his meds soon, love always. Tamara xxxx
• China
25 Mar 12
No matter how old the son is,he is always a son in the eyes of Mum.I am 63 and am a grandfather ,but My mother who is 91 often treats me as child .Sorry to learn that your son fell ill.Why is he too young to have insurance at the age of 52? I am glad to learn a old saw,"the best-laid plans of mice and men often go awry."
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@Hatley (164629)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Mar 12
hi chang here i n the US health insurance for those not old enou gh for medicare is obscenely high now and my son just cannot afford it as he is only working part time but there is a free clinic in 'santa ana where he lives that he can go to so I emailed him to remember that clinic and go get checked out and get some antibiotics you need for that bronchitis you have.Our president is trying to put through Universal health care like so many others have in other countries so all can afford medical care.I hope he gets it through so all can have medical care not just those rich people.
• China
26 Mar 12
They say that the free clinics offer healthcare on a free or very low-cost basis.If they can cure people of flu which is different from the common cold.Hope it won't be long before Universal health care get put through.
@celticeagle (118651)
• Boise, Idaho
25 Mar 12
I think we moms always worry about our kids. I have committed to helping my daughter raise my grandson. With her bi-polar and developemental problems I don't what would happen if I wasn't here. When she goes off on her own she gets into all kinds of problems. Goes off her meds.
@Hatley (164629)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Mar 12
hi celticeagle you really are the one =they depend on.People with bi polar often need more help from their relatives and friendsl.I worked under a bipolar boss who was up one days and we were the best crew she ever had,okay but the next day or two , we were the worst crew and she felt like firing us all. she had refused to take her medication that would even out her emotions.
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@celticeagle (118651)
• Boise, Idaho
26 Mar 12
Finding the right medication for a certain individual is a feet in itself. THen to have them feel better for awhile and go off of it is very normal. Happens alot. I am the one my daughter depends on and I feel cheated sometimes. My granddaughter refuses to take any meds. I really hate being around her. She is hyper, manic and lies and is just weird in her behaviour. And she tells me 'I don't know why you don't like me'. Where do I begin?
@youless (92319)
• Guangzhou, China
26 Mar 12
Here we have a saying: We will keep worring about our children even if they are already 99 years old. I can understand your feeling since I am also a mom. Lately the flu is serious here. It seems many people have caught a flu in these days and the hospitals are quite busy. Since the flu spreads in the air, so sometimes it is hard to avoid when it is in the crowded public place. Perhaps the best way is to have more outdoor activities and therefore you are strong enough to prevent the flu. If you are weak already, of course it is easier to catch the flu. I love China
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@Hatley (164629)
• Garden Grove, California
29 Mar 12
hi youless I did s end him an email suggesting he get checked out by the free clinic as its manned by interns from the medical school of University of Ca at Irvine. he has not responded but hes probably back at work now hopefully l did not phone him but will if he does not answer my emails. lol the flu has been really bad here too and a lot of people had flu shots but this the doctor told me is a different strain.
@lynboobsy11 (11346)
• Philippines
25 Mar 12
Moms is always a moms no matter what age or what status they are. I still believe they need us even where not there to make them babies but to help them through reminders and tips on what to avoid and to do, they make them happy as well. But if there a chance to be with them the more care they will feel about us. Mothers touch is still the best care we can give them. I hope he get well soon.
@Hatley (164629)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Mar 12
hi lynboobsy yes indeed.I just emailed him about the free clinics in Santa ana where he lives. they are manned by interns from the University of Cal Irvine medical college. they can check him out and prescribe antibiotics for the bronchitis he sounds like he has.
@shibham (17025)
• India
25 Mar 12
Hi Hatley... I think this is a universal issue and the main reason of such flu is global warming. I am also suffering from the same and the main cause is dust. Here the sky is dusty wholly and you cant see the blue color of sky, so just imagine how hectic the life is going to be. Let him to drink pure water as much as he can and take sufficient rest so that he can easily be able to set himself with the climate. Have a nice time.
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@Hatley (164629)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Mar 12
hi shibham he has no insurance and health insurance cost are incredily hight here,he is too young foir mecic are but there is a free clinic in 'Santa Ana manned by interns from the Univ of Calif at Irvine medical school. They can check him out and prescribe somehting for his bronchitisl
@louievill (18966)
• Philippines
25 Mar 12
hi, think parents and not just moms worry about their kids even if they are adults already, I'm the same age as your son and my mother worries when we children are not fine, the same way she worries about all her grand children, I also worry when mom is not well or fine and so does my wife, think it's got nothing to do with age, it's got more to do with love. Excuse me, but does he not have a family of he's own? Just asking and you don't really have to answer that one friend
@Hatley (164629)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Mar 12
oh louievill do I ever wish he would marry but he does not want to and at 52 I do not think its going to happen either. I would have loved having grandkids bu t any way I just emailed him to remind'ghin there is a free clinic in S anta /ana manned by interns from Univ of Irvine Ca school of Med so he can go there and be seen and hopefully get prescription for antibiotics too.
• Philippines
25 Mar 12
I know moms always worry about their kids, no matter what their kids age is, married or not, mother's always stays as mothers to their kids. Here in our country, this climate changed also affecting many people's health. Just now, the sun shine too hot, then suddenly rain starts pouring by lunch time. But one of my friend who lives just near my place says it's not raining in their area and the sun shines too bright (ugh) I am having headache this past few days as well.
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@Hatley (164629)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Mar 12
hi angelgee yes the climate canreally a ffect ones health too. here it cold, and windy and raining which does not'help my soinwith his flu and bronchitis either. I emailed him to remind him there are f ree clinics in Santa ' ana where he could be'looked at by an intern from Univ of Irvine Ca and ho pefully have antibiotics prescribed at half price.
@yanzalong (10198)
• Indonesia
25 Mar 12
I think every mom feels the same way about their children regardless of their age. You are right about your son, still feel pity on having come down with a flue. Moms have more compassion for their children than fathers, I think. Happy mylotting and have a nice weekend Hatley my dear mylotter.
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@GardenGerty (100499)
• United States
25 Mar 12
I have not really known anyone with the flu. Where I was working there was a lot of a stomach bug that just would not go away. You son is probably not resting enough to get well. I am sure he does not want to make any bills since he is not in a really secure position, but he needs to do what he can to take care of himself and get better. Yes, we continue to worry about our kids.
@Hatley (164629)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Mar 12
Hi GardenGerty there are sever al free clinics in Santa Ana where he works and klives for poor people and even if he is working almostoi full time he still qualifies and they can get him a lower price on prescriptions. run by interns brom the University of Irvine ca and these men are almost fu ll fledged doctors so they can treat the flu.I know he will not like the idea but its time to get some help for himself.So I continue to worry but will email him and remind him of the free c linics.
@babystar1 (4236)
• United States
25 Mar 12
Hi Hatley. so sorry to hear about your son hope he gets better soon. The flu can sometimes last a while. My son is also dont have insurance when he gets sick he has to try to fight it off with over the counter medicines. About a month ago he had a head ache so bad he drove himself to the em room. the dr on duty had to give him a shot for a migraine headache.He did not get a bill in the mail yet. I know it will be high
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@Hatley (164629)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Mar 12
hi baby star why is it that a nation like our US is not having the universal health care most other big nations have. we have so many wiothjout insurance and getting sick is a real poblem for them but I think my son has forgot there are some free clinics in Santa Ana run by interns from the U of Irvine Medical school so they know what they are doing I am going to email him that info. Y ou know I had a headache one time that was so bad I went to the Er and they gave me a shot of something that finally stopped it.I hope he gets better soon too and goes for some help in Santa ana.
@bunnybon7 (36881)
• Holiday, Florida
24 Mar 12
absolutely. i still see all mine as kids and my youngest is 32 and im most worried over him right now also. yes, this years flu strain epidemic is unbeleivably long and bad, we had it going on in this house since end of December and finally got rid of it around beginning of this month. seemed like every time one got over it, another in the house had it
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@Hatley (164629)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Mar 12
hi bunnybon first I got it in Target just before Christmas as people arou nd me were coughing then got over this virus and my roomie got scick theh I picke dup the real flu just overnight the next da y I was so sick and gotworse and worse til I went to the docotor. by then I had walking pneumonia so got a weeks worth of antibiotics and by the first of March I was finally well.and what frosts me is I had the flu shot in November.the doctor said I had a different stran of flu.oh great. so now my son has it.One person here probabluy passed it ont o another then Kathy got sick and I got it from here.I hope next year is not as bad. lol
@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
24 Mar 12
It doesn't seem to have been that bad in North Carolina. I had a cold maybe twice, and a coworker had the same thing maybe twice but that is it. I never seem to get sick though so the fact that I had it twice in one year was odd. Also I usually have summer colds and not winter ones. I can understand your worry over him. Everyone knows that a mother will always worry over their babies, whether they are 2 months old or 75 years old. I can't say I completely understand it but then again I am not a mother. If it gets any worse I would suggest a visit to the doctor's office for him, I know he has no insurance but he could go to a primecare and they may be able to make payments with him, or even the health department.
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@Hatley (164629)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Mar 12
ou know thats right here in Santa ana there are several free clinic manned by interns from the University of Irvine hospital so he could at least get some prescriptions for the flu.I went to them for a long time untill I qualified for medicare and United Health care for seniors Ever care,I will email him about that. thaks much.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
30 Mar 12
I have still got several years until my children will be adults, but I do know that I will always worry about them because of the fact that they are my children. I also see that my mother still worries about my siblings and myself and we are all grown now. When we are struggling, she will help us out to the best of her ability and she is also one of the people in the world that I feel the most comfortable talking to. I really think that worrying about your children, regardless of their age is just a part of being a mother.
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