Rude son

March 25, 2012 1:01pm CST
My 12 years old boy is rude and non-compliant. He is having problems transitioning from one activity to another and will sometimes have a complete breakdown. What can I do?
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• Pamplona, Spain
25 Mar 12
Hiya Rozeena, Can you not speak with his Teachers? Are they open to talking one to one about your Son´s Education. I mean I ask that because I don´t know how your Education System might work. If he is having such problems he is probably fearful about something in particular or might be afraid he cannot handle what is going to be new to him? I know when I went to the Senior School it seemed so daunting and fearsome and hostile but after two Weeks I had settled in and did well. Could be the way things happen with him again I don´t know and I am only guessing really. A lot of twelve year olds are like that now I feel they have lost their confidence for a while and they just need time to regain it with help and support.xxx
25 Mar 12
Thanks for the response every time I receive a call from school ,His class teacher constantly complains about him. He is very quiet in class, he never asks questions the question if he doesn't understand his lessons keeps silent in class.
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• Pamplona, Spain
26 Mar 12
Hiya Rozeena, He might well have a learning problem of some kind. I had a Niece suffering with Dyslexia to a certain degree and now she is much much better than she was in learning. At the start they thought she was just being difficult and because she did not say anything either they thought she was being a bit stand offish and the Teacher she had did not help much either. He might find it really hard to talk about it you know. I had a great problems with Maths at one time but I was not fortunate enough to have anyone to talk to about it as the Maths Teacher was very strict and severe that Teacher could not believe that you had a problem in learning. Luckily I had an Angel of a Teacher in Maths afterwards and he came to my rescue and I also learned really a lot with that one so much patience. Never called me any names or anything just kept showing me the way over and over till I finally got it. We were doing Maths that were way above our Age Group and they did not praise us instead the opposite. If it had not been for that Teacher I would not have got through the Year as your whole Grade was based on your good Work in Maths which I find totally unfair.xxx
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• United States
16 May 12
don't give in to what he wants. Do your thing. If he behaves then do something he "enjoys" doing. Just be the boss you supply his food to survive I don't think it is difficult to teach respect.
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@Hatley (164652)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Jul 12
daniel what if it not disrespect but a real learning disorder. he should be tested for autism and other learning disabilities. also a melt down sounds very much like autism.
@Hatley (164652)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Jul 12
Rozeena he sounds autistic and should be tested for that and other learning disabilities. if he is having a hard time learning or moving from one thing to another its because he has some problem what seems like rudeness might be fear and autism. get him some tests and some help . a complete breakdown sounds like autism.