I hate my course

Philippines
March 28, 2012 3:56am CST
i am a 2nd yr college student, taking up Accounting Technology and a scholar. I didn't choose that course personally but my parents is. I am starting to have a hard time due to my scholarship. Last semester, i was out by the program for not having a GWPA of 85% . My parents were so angry and disappointed but what should i do? i am not good at it. I really want to tell them that i don't want to pursue this course anymore but i am afraid and i think it is too late to shift. what should i do?
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23 responses
29 Mar 12
oh its very bad that you not like that course but your parents like that for you. please do work now for that sweet.
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@dilrajj57 (1759)
• Pakistan
29 Mar 12
how much you care for study in your study time what course you were to like?
• Philippines
29 Mar 12
You have to pursue it, finish it. Even you are kicked out from your scholarship, do the math, 2 years are left to struggle for the major subjects, or 4 years of open subjects that creates confusions. Plus there is no such thing as easy course if we talk about majors. Plus whose paying your tuition? Plus you will have difficulty asking financial help with you parent when you shift to other course they don't like. It's a bit awkward, but we have face it, its reality. You are not paying your own tuition fee, they are. Just learn to like it. The parent knows best than you are. If you watched "3 idiots", it maybe right, but its a fantasy to choose your own with your parent disagree. But, if it makes your life colorful when you have gap with your parents, then go ahead SHIFT. Its just a matter of choice between fantasy and reality. Its a part of being a human that makes decisions.
• Philippines
29 Mar 12
Just a follow up, open this to your parents. Maybe they'll understand. There's no other person in the world that understand you most. Just open it, if they don't they might understand if you will be screwed in your subjects.
@Metatronik (5911)
• Pasay, Philippines
28 Mar 12
In the first place what is your choice? I mean what course do you want? Why do they have to get mad if you failed the subject which is hard for you? Why did they force you to take the Accounting Technology?
• Philippines
2 May 12
in the first place my choice is to be a doctor and i already taken an entrance exam in Med. Tech. At first they agreed to it, i don't know what happened or what comes in their mind that they suddenly don't agree.. :( i am a scholar, that's why i am not allowed to fail. they said accounting technology is the best course because you could get a job easily.
• China
28 Mar 12
The vice verse,Im interested in Accounting while my major is optics engineering.What makes you dislike it?There must be a reason of the hatred.Maybe you have some other fascinating major which is not supported by your parents.For learning is a tedious and tough process which discourage lots of people from success,you are actually refusing to get advanced education, neither Accounting nor any else. Before you make a change you should take into consideration of what you wanna do ,to compare. may it's helpful.
• Philippines
2 May 12
I dislike it because i really hate MATH and i am not good at it. The truth is i've always wanted to be a doctor ever since i am in high school but my parents don't agree with me because they said i can't handle the pressure. .
@Loverbear (4928)
• United States
9 Apr 12
You need to talk to your parents. Let them know that you aren't really great at accounting technology. Not everyone is! The lack of interest in this line of endeavor is showing in your grades. If you have to stay in this endeavor, you need to find someone to help you study and understand the information. Accounting isn't the easiest classwork to understand and absorb so that you can remember it. It is obvious that your interests lie elsewhere.
@CTHanum (8254)
• Malaysia
30 Mar 12
Hi effin! It is not too late to shift or change course. I guess you still have another year right? It is up to you to pursue or not to. If you think you can take the pressure for another year then continue with it. Otherwise it is better to talk about your interest rather than following your parents choice.(^^)
@meozard22 (872)
• Philippines
30 Mar 12
From the very start you shouldn't have let your parents decide what course you are to choose because it is your life. You are the one who knows what you want, your interest, and what you think is good for your own life. You should be mature enough to decide for yourself and fight for your decision. At the end, when you choose what you want, you wouldn't have a hard time studying and you'll just enjoy. I understand if your parents are strict with that matter but you should fight for your decision. I guess its still not too late to choose what you want
@Zer0Stats (1316)
• India
29 Mar 12
Get off of the internet and study.Best of luck!
@carmelanirel (20979)
• United States
29 Mar 12
I think perhaps you and your parents have a different idea of what you want to major in. I am also assuming you live in a culture where the children follow parents advice, unlike in America, we choose what we want and that could be why you are struggling. I can't really tell you what to do, because your culture is different, but maybe if you sit down with your parents and tell them the truth, it isn't your interest, so you are not doing well. If they want to see you do better in school, they can agree to allow you to change your major and it isn't too late to do that now, because I am in my second year too, though I love my major, I just hate some of the math and science classes I have to take..
@Vvance (280)
• United States
29 Mar 12
You really have to tell your parents about it, effinmuffin! I know someone who is in similar situation. Most people who do what their parents say end up utter failures in life. Parents think they know what you want, but not as well as you. They only look at how well-paying the job is, and decide accordingly. But you can't make a singer paint masterpieces, can you? And a painter sing melodies? All the truly great personalities always followed their hearts. That was why they became successful.
@doccerz (46)
• Philippines
29 Mar 12
Do tell them. Otherwise, you'll be hating the years that you're gonna spend in college. And it's not too late. You're only in your 2nd year, doll. You're probably taking up majority of the basic subjects, still, and those will be credited once you shifted to another course. Don't worry about the accounting subjects you've already taken up. Go ahead and shift to the course you want since you will excel there more and it will help you maintain your scholarship. You'd only be getting mediocre grades if you're doing something you don't want.
@asdomencil (4276)
• Philippines
29 Mar 12
Just want to add. I watch and Indian Movie entitled "3 Idiots". There is one there that really loves photography and passed the scholarship program by a known photographer in Panama. However, his parents wants him to pursue engineering. After examinations he always at the bottom of the class. His friend gave him advice that he should follow what is in his heart. One day, he went home and as to his surprise, his parents have a gift for him, a laptop. He conquered his fear and explained his parents that he cannot use it anymore because he really loves photography. His parents understood him and returned the laptop in exchange of a camera.
@asdomencil (4276)
• Philippines
28 Mar 12
You are still on your 2nd year. It is not yet late to change course. Perhaps there are some subjects that will be credited if you shifted to the course you really like. Your GWPA went down because you are not that good in subjects for Accounting Technology. You should talk to your parents about it. Tell them that you are not really happy with what you are now and you are taking hard time to increase your GWPA and retain your scholarship. Perhaps, shifting to another course you like will retain your scholarship and will make your successful in the future. You can use this reason in explaining your parents. I know they will understand you. Just to share, during my elementary and high school days, my parents wants me to take accounting or engineering, however, I decided to pursue chemistry when I was about to finish high school. My parents just let me took what I want. They said that it will be hard for me to pursue the course that they want if I don't like it.
• Philippines
28 Mar 12
I feel sorry for you. That must be a very hard situation. I don't know if talking to them will change the situation but you can always try and convince them. Sometimes parents' expectations of us are really unreasonable and they are the ones who actually give us a hard time achieving something. Some of my friends who were in that situation shifted to the course they want and they didn't tell their parents. So the parents just knew about it when they are already about to graduate.
@Marvz18 (106)
• Philippines
28 Mar 12
Things happen for a reason... Maybe it is a sign that you should pursue your own dreams... You should talk to your parents about this... Expect them to be unhappy and disappointed since parents want only the best for there child. You should be prepared for that kind of reaction from your parents since it is just normal for them to act that way but I am sure eventually they will listen and understand you if you can show them that if you shift course you should be able to maintain a scholarship. It is better to tell them now than later when you already lost your drive to study and eventually flunk... Good Luck and God Bless...Take Care...:D
@lkabue (12)
• Kenya
28 Mar 12
My advice to you is first analyze your reasons as to why you hate the course in the first place.If deep with you you are convinced that this isn't the right course for you,please do yourself a favour and inform your parents about your desire to ditch the course.There is nothing as difficult as going through life wondering what if....this may turn out to be your situation 5 10 years down the line.It will further lead to your resenting your parents which is not healthy at all.So its better to "disappoint" them now rather than resenting them later for the rest of your working life having stuck to a wrong career choice.
@Ganjzi (53)
• Philippines
28 Mar 12
I understand how you feel. I was in that situation. I was an BS Accountancy student during my first year in college. I shifted to another course after one school year. I am now a licensed High School Teacher. What I did was I told my parents that I am like a fish in the sand when I am in BS Accountancy, I told them that it is not the field where in I can see myself excelling years from now. I told them that after a year, I realized that what I want to be for the rest of my life, and that is to be teacher. I think it is not yet late to shift, but you have to hurry. After you finish the second year, talk to your parents, tell them that you do not want to be someone you do not like to be, tell them that they have to trust you in doing one of the most important decisions in your life, which is to choose what you want to be, or what profession you want to excel in the future. Your future depends on this decision making.
@SinfulRose (3518)
• Davao, Philippines
28 Mar 12
You're still in seconds year and it is still understandable why you would choose another course. Do not be afraid to tell your parents about this since your course do not hold your interest. There is nothing wrong also at not being good at something but there's something not right with forcing yourself to take up something you do not like. Do not stress over about this kind of thing. This is not a problem at all but it will be if you let it.
@humairaku (2039)
• Indonesia
28 Mar 12
like you said that it's too late to stop all of this. so it's better for you to do what you've started. maybe you are not too good now but you may be an expert someday. dont stop trying and attempting to be the best. though this course is your parents' choice but you should take responsible in it. why? cos you had accepted it. i mean if you didnt like it why did you tell to your parent that you didnt like this course? i know maybe the situation at that time was not as easy as i say but we should do what we get. if not, how life would that be? a very old quote said 'if you dont get what you love, so love what you get'..i hope you can be better in the future so you wont let your patents down again..good luck..:)
@kharlav (1673)
• Philippines
28 Mar 12
Being in the second year is never too late to shift. Why don't you take the shot in telling your parents about what you really want? There's no harm in trying. They wont kill you anyway. They might get disappointed for a while but in time they will be okay with it. Just tell them the truth. Try, rather than not do anything about it and suffer and regret about it for the rest of your life. You would have wasted more if you wont try.