busy boyfriend..

Philippines
March 28, 2012 11:30am CST
hi..do you think i am a bad girlfriend?? if i am get angry to my boyfriend because he don't text me because he is so busy with their business..but i am not asked him to text me every seconds or every minutes just want him to text if i am okey just like that..for i will feel i am important to him or he loves me...
8 responses
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
28 Mar 12
i think you make him is so far away from you why do you must do like that?? he is man and you must understand him.. you can do like that if he seems make an affair with somebody else and ignore you.. he works and its for his future..
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
31 Mar 12
what about you Tamosree??
• India
30 Mar 12
You are right my friend. Have a nice day.
@Polgara (31)
• Germany
28 Mar 12
Putting to much pressure on your boyfriend will not help you, or him, or your relationship. If he already has pressure at his work, he needs to be free of the pressure in his private life, and it is up to you to make it for him. You can tell him that you would like to receive some nice message once or twice a day when you don´t see each other, but don´t make more pressure to him. If you make more pressure, he will run away, believe me. I´d been in similar situations. When I finally realized how important peace and silence is to most of men, everything in my relationship, and later marriage, went much better. Busy men need to feel good at home, and they don´t want to hear nagging or critics or something like that, they need a supportive woman, and if you can give that to your boyfriend, he will definitely love you and appreciate you even more. It takes times for emotional and sentimental girls to understand one important fact about men: if he doesn´t text you today, it doesn´t mean he doesn´t love you, or that he has forgotten about you. Also, if he feels relaxed when he is with you, believe me, when he goes to work and is under pressure, he will think something like: Oh, I wished I could be by her side right now, she makes me feel so peaceful and relaxed...
• Philippines
28 Mar 12
maybe i am make pressure to my boyfriend but it's already 1 week he can't text..but for now i will not text him ...its up to him if he text me....
• Philippines
29 Mar 12
I really don't see the whole point of this issue of "texting" and "calling" thing. If you want to talk to your partner or ask him how he is, then instead of waiting for a call/text, why don't YOU call or text him instead? Rather than mandating/demanding/asking him "Why haven't you texted or called me?!" isn't it better to say "How are you doing? I miss you already"? Better yet, put yourself in his shoes. Supposedly that you're too busy with everything and you don't have time to send a message or call or something then you will receive a text message or call from your partner asking or demanding you for a reason on why you haven't called? Personally, I would appreciate it if my partner would call/text me on his own accord and not because I hold him to do so.
@thezone (9394)
• Ireland
15 Jul 12
It would do my head in to be honest!
• India
30 Mar 12
Hello friend, No I don't think you are a bad girlfriend. If your boy friend was busy in work then he think of your future. So you are a lucky girl friend. Best of luck for your future and have a nice day.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
31 Mar 12
but why it seems she did not think she is lucky girl??
• India
15 Jul 12
Some girls tend to be more affectionate and it is normal. Women tend to feel the care and admiration that at times gentlemen seem to forget maybe due to a busy schedule. It is all about priorities and your boyfriend might not be able to balance and sort it out yet.
@nyssa102 (748)
• United States
6 Aug 12
Everyone is different. For me, I like to know that the man I love is busy and enjoying life. If we have a real life (not online) relationship, where we are committed to one another, then I have no problem with him being busy with his life because I want to see what he can achieve, I want to support his achievements in this world. If he's with me, that's all I need to know. We have each other, now we can go on and achieve our life's goals. So I am kind of like that in that regards. I really enjoy seeing my fella spread his wings and fly! If I make demands he can't do that and making demands will TIRE ME OUT! LOL. I can't demand things, it exhausts me, because I find it useless and silly. It just means that I am the one who should be finding more things to do, if that is the case. But everyone is different. I'm actually built, emotionally, for a man who is career driven. My way of loving a man is to be there. I like being there and part of that is being a pillar in case he needs someone to lean on. I'm into gaming and computer art, so Im usually immersed in my life all the time anyway. But yeah, it's all about temperment. Try to see it as you loving him by being proud of his accomplishments and taking the time to make some accomplishments of your own he can be proud of :)
@keihimekawa (2009)
• Philippines
29 Mar 12
Maybe he's not the type who text people all the time? My ex used to be like that but I'm not the type who "requires" my partner to send text messages or call me every time. How long have you been in a relationship with your partner? Sometimes, guys find it annoying whenever girls nags/asks them to send them text messages every time. If you REALLY want to talk with your partner, then, instead of waiting for him to text/call you, why don't you take the initiative of calling/texting him? With your last sentence, does that mean you feel less important and less loved just because he didn't text you? Not to be offensive or something but don't you find that reasoning a bit shallow?
• Philippines
14 May 12
I do not think that you are a bad girlfriend because you want your boyfriend to text you. IT can only be bad if you want him to text you from time to time even if you know how busy he is with his work. I also appreciate it if my boyfriend would take time texting me despite his busy schedule. But I wouldn't put up a fight with him if he won't text me for a while because of his work.