Will all virgins bleed and feel pain having $ex for the first time??

I'm just really curious, did some reading up on the subject matter and got some answers but would like to hear what you my very well educated mylotters have to say on the subject. I attempted with a past boyfriend some years years ago, and by attempted I mean clothes came off but my mind wasn't into it and so I was apparently quite tense cause I recall hearing him saying repeatedly for me to open my legs and relax, too loosen up, I recall him trying to put his "stuff" in me and pain and then I pushed him off of me. There was no attempt after that with anybody else for me. I was in my early twenties back then I'm now 34. I didnt see any blood, but I do recall pain, I can't say how much if any of his pen!$ was up in me, it's honestly all a blur. So I'm curious, eager to hear what you guys have to say, 'cause I plan to get married at some point in time of my life but I'm not looking forward to having $ex.