This is the right time!
March 30, 2012 3:47am CST
Thanks to all those who shared their ideas and thoughts about the previous discussions I've posted. And now, I came to a decision of telling my boyfriend about things on my past. But, the problem I have now is how to start the conversation with him. How to make him feel that I am really sorry about those things happened in the past or do I have to make him feel that way or I just need to be myself? Show him that I regret about what happened and that I tell him because I love him. Gosh! I am so confused and worried about the consequences after telling him everything! May be he won't accept me after it! Advise please.
• Legaspi, Philippines
31 Mar 12
I understand your situation right now. I know even your boyfriend don't want to see you like that. If you will be staying on that kind of situation for long, I'm sure you will get crazy. I don't want that to happen. Let go of yourself from that situation. Prepare yourself for the consequence. Explain to him that what you are going to do is for the benefit of your relationship. That if ever you will be living together in the future, you want him to accept you as you. Be positive. A problem without solution does not exist in this world (Haruei Suzumiya).
1 Apr 12
Hi Sis:) Thanks for all your comments! You are one of the persons here in myLot who encouraged me to do such thing as telling my boyfriend about the past. And now I am finally happy because I had already tell him about the past. Not everything, not in detailed but at least those things that he really need to know has finally been said. And I felt so lucky that he still accept me after knowing the truth and he said that he loves me more for being honest to him. And no matter what happened in the past, his love for me will never changed and fade an in fact, he will never leave me instead he will guide me through all the way. I am really happy. without all your advices, i wont feel this kind of happiness.
30 Mar 12
If you are sure you want to do this (can you live with his reaction, the consequences of it? Are you sure you can?) then the moment will come. Sooner or later you will talk about it and you can share what you want to share. You don't have to pick a date and time for that. Still ... I don't understand why you should tell him about what happend in the past eand the fact you regret it blah blah. If you are changed it was a good thing since it openened your eyes and made you a different person. As long as you are confused it's not the right time/moment since you also have to show you are changed. And yes big change he will dump you straight away. No matter if he said he is afraid to do something wrong or he did way worser things as you ever did in his past. But you can also see it this way: you will get to know the real boyfriend.
30 Mar 12
Hi. are you trying to say that it's not necessary for me to tell my boyfriend about the pasT? but what if h discovered it from other people? that would be a big problem on my part. you think i can keep that for the rest of my life? that is very hard.
22 Apr 12
Just tell it straight away and whatever his reaction may be, just accept it. There's no use in hiding things behind your beloved partner. And also not saying the truth is just plain lying. Whatever it is even if it's a white lie it is still a lie that deserve consequences. So face your fears my friend and after you have told what you have to say to your boyfriend it is always much more acceptable rather than not saying the truth.
30 Mar 12
well, just try to have a casual conversation first.. then you will know exactly when to tell him or when is the right time to say it... i know this is not easy for you but dont worry after telling it you'll feel free... and be strong and try to convince him...