Couples or Married People using one Account

Indonesia
March 30, 2012 7:15am CST
When a person really in love, it feel like they want to share everything. One of thing they want to share is facebook account. I see a few couples and a few married people using one facebook account for themselves. They use it to interact with both of their friend. Although it is seem romantic for both of them, but for me this is kinda annoying. Because some time i don't know whose the one who making status, whose the one who comment on my status. It also make me really careful when i talk to them in chat because i cannot be sure which one they are. In the end, i rarely communicated with people like them in facebook. Off course, what i feel might be different from all of you? What do you feel about this kind of people? Did you ever found people like this. Thanks for sharing it with us
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11 responses
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
2 Apr 12
While there are some situations where I think that it is right to have one account, like in terms of the fact that my husband and I share one checking account, I do still think that there are some times that we need to have accounts of our own. Yes, I do have some friends that do share one facebook account, but that would never be something that would be a viable option for me. I think that it is important to have my own facebook account because of the fact that I do still have friends that I don't share with my husband. Plus, I don't really want him to have the opportunity to read all of the messages that I've had on my facebook account.
• Indonesia
2 Apr 12
Yes dorannmwin, it is very true. We have thing that we want other people don't know, especially thing that our friend trust us with it. So i think it should be wise if we have a different account from our partner. That way we could have our own space to fill with our friend.
• United States
1 Apr 12
I like having a seperate account from my husband. I grew up in another state so I have friends that he has never met. I couldn't imagine him being on the account trying to talk to some of my friends that he doesn't know. I think it would be really awkward for everyone. I have some friends on my list who share their account with their significant other. To be honest, it is really annoying. I will get on there thinking that I am talking to one person just to find out that it was the other one. I perfer for everyone to have their own account so you know exactly who you are talking to. It's not that I want to hide anything from anyone's significant other, but there are things that my female friends and I may have talked about that their husband really doesn't care about.
• Indonesia
1 Apr 12
Thanks for sharing brittneyD, i agree with you, I perfer for everyone to have their own account so you know exactly who you are talking to. Some man actually want to talk with their friend too, without their wife knowing about it. I am glad you willing to participate in this discussion BrittneyD.
• United States
31 Mar 12
For married couple, I guess it is fine. But yes, it is natural for all those who were married before Facebook was born. For others, I guess it should be different. I really don't think boyfriend and girlfriend should share a common Facebook. They are not married. From experiences I can tell that Facebook can be quite annoying in a relationship. I had one friend who got her boyfriend's Facebook password. Every time they argued she sent obscene messages to his friends about him. There was another time when she deleted his friends out of anger. That is why, I always say that boyfriend and girlfriend should never share the same credit card and passwords of their social networking accounts. I don't have a friend who lets her husband use her Facebook. But if they really go towards that direction I would be glad if they let us all know about it. Then of course, I will use email accounts instead of Facebook to message them. There are lots of topics that should remain between friends of the same gender. I would be quite angry if I hear that my friend's husband read about them in my messages.
• Indonesia
1 Apr 12
Well yes divineathena, you are very right about "There are lots of topics that should remain between friends of the same gender.". People with the same gender usually have thing that they want to talk about only between them. Off course using other method of communication will be the better way if we met a person like this. Thanks for your respond divineathena.
@shylade (3132)
• Philippines
31 Mar 12
my husband and i have separate accounts in email, twitter and fb account and in mylot too . i don't get the idea of having one account because it can be confusing not only for our friends but also for both of us. even couples deserve some privacy with each other. i mean, couples have different thoughts and sometimes they differ in what they likes. so i would prefer if couples will have different Fb account rather than sharing in one.
• Indonesia
31 Mar 12
Yes i agree with you, even couples deserve some privacy with each other. they do have different thoughts and sometimes they differ in what they likes. So some time, they need something that they use only by them. Facebook account is one of them. Thanks shylade for your comment.
@Cherish14 (2693)
• Philippines
31 Mar 12
i have my own facebook account, so does my boyfriend. i respect his privacy when it comes to things like that. yeah i see some of my friends sharing one account with their husband/wife or boyfriend/girlfriend, and yes it confuses me too who is making a status update heheh
• Indonesia
31 Mar 12
Well yes, good for you if you do that. I think even couples should have privacy. They should have a way to talk with their friend where their partner knowing. It will make the couples feel that their have their own space in live and it should be refreshing their relationship.
• India
31 Mar 12
me and my husband share different accounts. Infact we have never thought about sharing one account. It is not that we are not romantic, however, we respect each other space. we have a very open relation and we dont mind sharing the password if required. However we dont have one account for any website. but yes we know few couples sharing one account who try to kind of show their affections for each other by responding on behalf of each other.
• Indonesia
1 Apr 12
Oh i see shwetat195. Well yes, space is what relationship always need. If you don't have any space between the two of you, then it will damaging your relationship. It will make you feel suffocated and in the end, ruin the fun of having a good relationship. Thanks for your respond.
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@shooie (4984)
• United States
30 Mar 12
I say to each their own and if this works for them more power to them. As for being careful talking or typing to them because you don't know which one you are talking to well I feel if you have to watch what you say then it really didn't need to be said in the first place. My husbaand and I have different accounts but if he ever wanted to get one to share and us close our seperate ones down no problem. We don't have anything to hide from each other. We have different accounts because a lot of my friends are from my home state California and are Ministers and church people and his not so much...lol I see it this way, If you can't say it to him then it doesn't need to be said to me or vise versa.
• Indonesia
30 Mar 12
Well it is about privacy. It is not about a secret about that couples, it is more about my secret. When you have a friend, you want to talk to them about many thing. About the past, about a jokes, about thing that we talk on private before. I don't want to talk about something private with my friend wife.
@humairaku (2038)
• Indonesia
30 Mar 12
I dont have friend who use one Facebook account. Which I know is some if my friends share their password not use it together. if I have friend who uses same Facebook account, I think my feeling is like you that it'not nice at all having contact with them cos we should ask or guess which is online now. and it's quite bothering I think. moreover what people do thing like that. dont they know that every person deserves to get their own privacy. i'm married but I dont share my Facebook password with my husband. we keep all kind of password by our own cos we realized that we have privacy. not for bad purpose but like what I said before that every one deserves to get their privacy to express our respect.
• Indonesia
30 Mar 12
Well yes, some couples share their password, and some actually use the same account for two people. But i do still prefer couples who share their account than couple that share their password. At least, when you met couples that share their account, you realize that you will not have privacy with them. But for couples who shared their password, you don't know that some one actually checking your message to their partner and you will have your valuable information read by them.
• United States
30 Mar 12
I agree it could be hard to tell whose who but usually for my friends they end it with their name so you can tell whose who. I myself don't share accounts with my boyfriend but we can't since his friends are different as mine. If both spouses/boyfriend/girlfriend had the same circle of friends then it would be easy for the both to share.
• Indonesia
30 Mar 12
Well it is okay if they do that. Since you know who make the status and then you can decide what to comment. But off course, it is still hard to sent private message to them since you don't know who hold the account at that times. Off course when you chat with them, one of them will still see what you are talking about.
@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
30 Mar 12
this nice. So because these people show that they trust and rely on each other not EU jealous of crap. So they create their common acquaintances, and this makes them not skopoyni makes them think they can cheat the other and to scourge. for me this is one way to know with whom you communicate my husband and what his writing with others so we have no secrets. nice day!
• Indonesia
30 Mar 12
Well off course it is good for both of them, but the effect is only for them. For people in their friend list, it is not give them good effect. Not every one want to share everything that they talk about to their friend wife / husband. In most cases, they usually find another way when they want to talk in private with people that using this kind of account.
@dazzledlady (1618)
• Philippines
31 Mar 12
Yes, as a matter of fact I have a situation where I send a private message to my friend thinking it was her who is online at that time and got embarrass in the end because I got a message from got account telling me that it was her boyfriend who's online. :( annoying and it is kind of uncomfortable because I cannot simply blurt things out towards my friend, she might not be the one using the account and if it is her I will have the doubts already. I think a couple should have an individual account. If they want to share to the world their happiness and the events in thier lives then they should create another account to share with. I think that would be great than having your personal account shared by your partner.
• Indonesia
31 Mar 12
Well yes, that is the problem that i talk about. So if you know a person whose sharing their account, don't give them your secret, don't make a jokes that might be okay for your friend, but might offend their partner. Thanks for responding in this discussion.