Been heartbroken?? What stage are you already in??

@cyclopz (197)
Philippines
March 31, 2012 2:07pm CST
I guess everyone have experienced or is likely to experience a heartbreak even once in their lifetime. It's quite a common feeling that each could relate to one way or the other. Some were able to move on and others might still be trying, to some it may take days and months for others it may take a year or even more to recover. I believe that there are stages that people go through after experiencing a heartbreak and they are as follows: First is denial, a person might find it hard to accept a breakup especially when they have had their relationship for quite a long time and sometimes if the reason for the breakup is quite unreasonable it would be quite hard to accept. Symptoms for this stage might include a loss of appetite and too much thinking that may make sleeping at night time quite hard. Second is depression, after some time when the breakup have sink in to one's thought a person might feel quite depressed and sometimes it may vary in certain degrees depending on the person going through the situation. Some people migh feel depressed and would think of other things and activities to keep their mind busy and there are also some who would confine themselve a their home. This stage i think is the most delicate stage because it is at this stage where a person might lose his/her desire of going through life and as a result a person might have suicidal tendencies depending on how miserable they feel. Third stage is acceptance and recovery, if the person was able to overcome the second stage which is depression which some people were not able to overcome he/she would be able to accept the reality that there may be a reason why they were not meant to be. This would be the stage where the person might decide when he/she would go back to his/her normal life and find a new partner or either have a traumatic experience in entering a relationship again. Each stage varies depending on the person, some people might experience the frist and second stage for a number of months and the third stage for years depending on how fast a person would recover because each person is unique in his/her own way. Would you agree on this? Have you also been heartborken? Have you also gone through each of these stages? What stage are you already in?
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@lakantar (1575)
• Greece
31 Mar 12
I had been but It happened around 5 years ago so I'm not heartbroken anymore ;) I think it doesn't take more than a month for a guy in such occasions.
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@cyclopz (197)
• Philippines
1 Apr 12
I think the time it takes to recover depends really on the person and not on one's gender. I know some guys where it even took years to be able to move on and i think there are also some where it just takes a few month to move on.
@sajujohn (1009)
• India
2 Apr 12
Well,I'm in exact agree with your three stages of life after a heart break. Even though I have not been through the final stage, I feel the first two stages are exact as you have described. I don't when will I reach the third stage, but one thing I'm sure about it will be very hard for a person like me to experience that situation.
• Philippines
2 Apr 12
Well,every time i am hurts,it's a broken heart for me. If talking about relationship, i think once,and that was long time ago.But now, i have not,just hurts when i am fight with,and hurts.
@celticeagle (115555)
• Boise, Idaho
1 Apr 12
I have lived for sixty years and have known several heartbreaks of one level or another. Some I didn't know for long and so it wasn't as bad. I am sensitive and tend to feel more sooner. I had my last one in 2009. No more for me. I am in the last stage and have accepted that I won't go through this again.
• Philippines
1 Apr 12
That was so true. We are bound to experience heartache and pain as we journey in our life. I had been a part of those millions of people who have the experience of being heart broken. I had experience all of those stages. Therefore, I can say that I had passed the stage three, which I call stage four. Stage four is when a person already had been through the process, overcame the situation, and now enjoying life as a normal individual again. In general, I think that it is quite easy said than done. We can't really predict exactly where or what a person is feeling or undergoing at the moment. Things change, we change.
• United States
1 Apr 12
You left out an option in the third stage. The option I chose, never have another "romantic" relationship for the rest of your life. Over and over again, I kept getting my heart broken, so I decided the only way to insure that it never happened to me again, was to simply not make myself available ever again. So now I am safe from any more heart breaking experiences. I made that decision in 1993, and so it remains. I have not even dated anyone else in all that time since then. Now, I've become so set in my "single" ways, that I wouldn't even know how to date, nor do I have any desire to do so, anyway.
• India
1 Apr 12
yes, it is true that we feel a jolt when this situation arises of nothing. But I had anticipated that something bad is going on in the relationship and moreover after going through all the stages, I think it was more of a logical path. even though I am full recovered but I will still rue for what happened in the past. by the way the hardest part is the denial. The long you deny, the longer you will be in depression. So a newly heartbroken, I will say that accept the situation whatever it takes and do it conservatively as an experience of life. Have a nice day! everyone.........
• United States
31 Mar 12
I've had it broken once, but I'm long over it now. It takes some time. For some people it could take days or weeks, and for others it could take months or years. You do get over it eventually and you do learn to move on because you know that you are going to have to move on.
@blue65packer (11835)
• United States
31 Mar 12
I have not been a realtionship in years! I don't want to to be again! Relationships don't fit in my life and even if they do I don't want one! Men are to much hard work and I got my heartbroke to many times! All the guilt I went threw! Being told I was the blame for all the relationships failing! Feeling I was a no good person and I was the reason all my relationships went up in smoke! Growing up my family and society wanted me to get married and have kids! I wanted to be in love and be happy the rest of my life! It was not meant to be! I dated to many losers even though I never planned on it! I also am not my true self when I am in a realtionship! I have to be me! I have done alot of soul searching over the years and I know being alone is the best thing for me! The heck with love and all that crap!
@diillu (5130)
31 Mar 12
I have had a terrible heart break and it took me months to get over it. I went through all the stages that you have mentioned. It was hard for me to except the fact that my ex had cheated on me because of which our relationship came to an end. I tried telling myself worst things that he did to me so that it would be easier for me to move on but every thing was so difficult at the beginning of the break up. I couldn't eat and I couldn't sleep but thank god I had my best friends around me who constantly gave me company, took me out from my room and helped me recover. I owe my friends a lot for this one, because of constantly having my close friend around me for 24/7 it wasn't hard for me to over come my first heart break.