My best friend cheated me for money

Malaysia
April 1, 2012 6:26am CST
Hi, My childhood friend who share with me many things for the past 35 years cheated me on some work project we did last year together.The amount is not a big deal for me but hurt the of cheating something behind is unbearable. I just couldn't understand why money still overriding and kills many relationship..... Its very sad and i don't know how to over come this situation. succes2me
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16 responses
@pandora22 (869)
• Romania
1 Apr 12
the saddest thing in life is to be cheated by people that you love and you will have to get up and go on.the only one that really lost is your friend because he may have won some money but he lost you.friendship and love have no price.
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@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
1 Apr 12
I agree with you pandora. :-)
• Malaysia
2 Apr 12
I totally agree with you. You can earn money back but the friend you lost is lost forever even they come back it will not be the same again.. success2me
@lakantar (1575)
• Greece
1 Apr 12
It's sad when things like this happens. I hope you can work things out though it isn't easily forgive when a friend betrays.
• Malaysia
2 Apr 12
Thank you for the post.. Life must go on
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@lakantar (1575)
• Greece
4 Apr 12
Yes it must go on instead of torturing yourself about something that isn't your fault :)
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
1 Apr 12
thats the bad options from him.. why he must cheat his best friend only for a money and of course it was hard for you trust him anymore
• Malaysia
2 Apr 12
Money can make a man into beast i guess.... Thanks for your post.. Please add me as your friend that can trust. Success2me
• United States
1 Apr 12
It really hurts being cheated by a friend you have had for a long time. Friendships should be built on a foundation of honesty and trust. You shouldn't even have to think twice as to whether a true friend will be honest with you or if you can trust them. If they decide to cheat you, then they aren't your true friend. They possibly have also cheated you in the past and you just didn't know it. It's very hurtful when you discover you have been cheated though. The best thing to do is to talk to that friend and confront him or her, straight out ask them why they did what they did. Secondly, you don't deserve to have a friend like that. You should part ways with them and find other friends, people who will actually be honest with you that you know for sure that you can trust.
• Malaysia
2 Apr 12
Thank you for the post appreciate very much. Have a nice day. Lets get good friends. Please add me as your friend list.
@TheIzers (680)
1 Apr 12
I can definitely understand your situation because I am facing the same problem, up to the point I still can not reach my friend and I don't think I can get get back either my friendship or my money. Both of them just gone, dissapear..puff like ninja majic . However, I hope you have better luck than I do, hopefully your friend will come back for some explanation and your money too. It is sad.
• Malaysia
2 Apr 12
Thank you for your kind words. Hope your friend also come back to you. I know it will not be the same again. lets see what is fated to see and face in lite path. Success2me
@sid556 (31018)
• United States
1 Apr 12
You have to reach a point where the friendship itself is more important to you than the money you lost. I know it is the cheating part that bothers you most. talk to your friend about that and find out WHY this happened. It is possible that you may just have to remember the friendship with fondness and realize that she has grown into a person that you no longer care to be close friends with.
• Malaysia
2 Apr 12
That's a good idea to find out what really went wrong. Thank you for the advice. will look into it.He is hiding from me but i will go all out to find out the real situation that make him do that. Thanks Success2me
• United States
1 Apr 12
I went through this with a childhood friend as well and it is now fine with me. she paid me $300 of the $700 she owes me so i figure when i get it it will be fine. you will get over it in time when you let it go.
• Malaysia
2 Apr 12
Thank you for your kind word. Will you trust her 100% as you did before?
@abby1221 (71)
11 Apr 12
Ouch..that's a really uncomfortable situation to have to deal with. I always say that friends and money don't mix -or friends and work...friends and living together...lol. First and foremost, have you talked with this friend to find out the truth of the situation or is your information coming from another source? That could make a huge difference. Providing that you already know the truth and you know it for fact, I would then think of having a talk with the friend and seeing why the did it is a good idea. Perhaps they were going through really tough times financially that you weren't aware of. Even though that's not an excuse and it was still very wrong to do, at least then you'd have peace of mind that it wasn't a malicious attack on you. Lastly, you just have to think about how important the friendship is to you. You've been friends for a really long time, so are all of those years of trust simply gone because of this unfortunate incident? It's your call at the end of the day. I wish you the best of luck!!
@meozard22 (872)
• Philippines
3 Apr 12
that must be very sad.. But you have to move on and let go because that person don't deserve to be a real friend..
@lynboobsy11 (11347)
• Philippines
2 Apr 12
That's really sad having a friend that you knew that you can trust but at the end still money is the reason for the lost of that trust. I've been trough to that many friends had cheated or betrayed me because of money. After realizing that they only take advantage being good to them. But that is life we can choose friends and learn from our mistakes. Cheers don't be so upset friends like that does not deserve a friend like you. Anyway she is the who lost not you.
@megamatt (14333)
• United States
2 Apr 12
That is really bad when something like this happens, when someone you thought was a friend, had cheated you. You never look at the person the same way ever again right in your life. Money should not get involved in any kind of friendships, because it is really just something that is just going to absolutely destroy a lot of friendships like you would not believe. It is a really bad thing when a friendship breaks apart, no matter what the circumstances. It is even worse when money tends to really jump beyond two friends, really breaking them apart. The thing is, it causes the trust issues to develop and that is really just not anything that will rather work. The best thing is to never let money get involved. Of course it is not the money a lot of the times, but the fact that you got cheated and if you can trust the person on other non-monetary things.
2 Apr 12
This is where I throw in my two cents... I feel that you must break off your relationship with he/she. If you cannot break off your relationship with a friend who is a cheater there are boundaries you need to set. Don't live vicariously through their infidelities ... make it known that you do not want to hear about their cheating, otherwise you're sending a message that you approve of their behavoir on some level.
@derek_a (10903)
2 Apr 12
I know exactly how you must be feeling. It happened to me a few times. I think I was probably taking somebody at their word because if I make a promise, I always do my utmost to keep that promise. I have been in business with others before and have found people trying to cheat me. It is upsetting first because they must think I am stupid not to see what is going on, and secondly, that they would actually do that.. I have always forgiven and let go, but I am in business by myself now, and won't take on a partner again. Mind you, it won't be long before I retire anyway, as I am in semi-retirement now, for just another year or so. _Derek
• India
2 Apr 12
It happens. You are usually cheated by your near and dear one. His requirement of money may be more than your friendship. Think positively and ignore such things. But be careful in future while relying on this man. Remember that old story which teaches us that by cheated you with few dollars he saved precious millions, the would be loss. Take care.
@camalich (1119)
• Spain
1 Apr 12
It sad to be cheated and even worse if it is by a friend. A few weeks ago a friend from work cheated me becaus of about $20!!! I couldn't believe it :( He won't get another chance to do so.
• Netherlands
1 Apr 12
It's a pity to hear this. The meaning of trust can really be affected by these kind of small things. It doesn't matter what amount of money or whatever object this is about, because what really matters is the act. It matters much more what people do than what they do it for. I'm sorry to hear that you got cheated on jsut for money, because people should know better that such a good friend, you do not want to lose. No matter for what amount of money you will get for it.