I need to fight this!

Philippines
April 1, 2012 10:58pm CST
Hi mylotters. just want to get some advice from you. I'm currently having this feeling of coldness in my husband. Since we started working in different company. I used to go to office by 8:30 am to 5:30pm every monday to friday and until 2pm every saturday. we have a little boy (10 months old) he's aunt is taking care of him. my husband has a rotating schedule every week since he works in a resto bar. the first week, he was scheduled 10am-7pm so we still had time to chat with each other. but then he's day off is monday and mine was sunday so we haven't been together in one day. 2nd week was 4:30 pm until 1:30 am that's very bad. you know what i feel. he comes home, we were sleeping, we where about to go he was sleeping. darn! 3rd week, 10am-2pm then 7pm-12am split schedule broken time. that's very very bad. you know we hadn't have a chance to be together for long. and now i'm feeling cold with him. i'm lacking some stuffs lol! what will i do? i know i need to sacrifice bu how long will i? we were not going out for almost a month now. as well as the baby he's not seeing his father much unless he's still awake when his father comes home. share some advice mylot friends.
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@shylade (3137)
• Philippines
3 Apr 12
well, the solution is find time so you can spend it together. if you have a holiday vacation this week then better. you can have it even a day and talk about how you feel. be open to him and vice versa. a realtionship needs an open communication. text or call each other often during breaks. leave a note for your husband saying how you missed him. stuffs like that. he is working fro your family and you too, so you are sacrificing something and we can't avoid that. i hope you can talk or have sometime together.
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@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
2 Apr 12
i know your feeling it was happening to my sister and her husband it was called the sacrifice i do hope your baby will understand their parents effort for her...are you kids a girl or a boy?
• Philippines
2 Apr 12
we have a son. well i hope the kid would know someday that we need to sacrifice for him to give him good future. working both is really a big sacrifice. i'm wondering what if i resign in my work LOL!
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
4 Apr 12
wow.. its a great decision if you want to resign from your office.. you must consult with your husband
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
2 Apr 12
wow that is tough. Well maybe take time to just talk to him even for a minute, or a few minutes...sacrifice a little before you sleep especially when you see him there...or when you see him just kiss him right away or hug him, maybe he needs that too.
• Philippines
2 Apr 12
actually i do sacrifice sometime chatting with him when he arrives but sometimes i'm too tired and sleepy. but i do kiss him before i sleep deeply. as well as him he do kiss me before he goes to sleep and sometimes asks me if i want to have midnight snacks. but i just hate it when he watches T.V first before he goes to our room to check me and the baby.
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
2 Apr 12
ohh then maybe it is just his way of unwinding for a while..guys are often like that..my hubby is that way too.. maybe plan ahead for a date where you two will do nothing for that day but just be together
• China
2 Apr 12
Talk to husband about this. Normally husband are not so sensitive as wife when they concentrated on work.You both can talk and find ways to enjoy family day even one day every week or twice a month in this case. It is up to you both.
• Philippines
2 Apr 12
it's so true that husbands are not that sensitive regarding this. tomorrow he is planning to go out since it's his day off and he said they'll pick me up together with our baby after my work and have a date since it's my birthday tomorrow. I think i need to talk to him seriously regarding this matter. thank you very much to your advice.
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
6 Apr 12
I think there is no problem with if you really love that man(your husband) Love is patient and never cold as you said... If there's a time to talk with your husband. Talk about the situation so that you may settle something to embolden your relationship because it's hard to make a decision that someday you regret about it...
@asdomencil (4276)
• Philippines
3 Apr 12
Sometimes, in a relastionship you need to sacrifice. In your situation, you need to understand both sides because you two are working for your family. You need to talk to regarding this matter. Tell him what you really feel. Being open to your partner is the best thing in a relationship especially married ones. Even you are not seeing each other, you must show your partner how you really love him.
@johndur (3049)
• Pasig, Philippines
2 Apr 12
hmmm looks like there is problem with scheduling..anyway im sure there will be a time that will come for both of you to be alone with each other..just be patient and wait for it or might as well tell your husband that you need some heat because you are feeling cold.im sure he can find a way to warm you up....good luck...