What do you think about people who drink and smoke too much?
By Aja103654
@Aja103654 (5646)
Philippines
April 2, 2012 7:13pm CST
Last weekend, my high school friend came back to my country from the USA. We have finished college now, so he invited all our high school classmates and I to have a reunion. Too bad only a few were able to come.
The reunion was supposed to be exclusively just for people who are part of our high school, but then one of us brought along his 'barkada' or friends who are not supposed to be included. Some of his friends were not that bad but some of them were really annoying and disrespectful. Since my friend from the USA is paying for all the food and the accommodations, it's really a bad thing to bring people who are not supposed to be in that event.
Not only did they appear unwanted, they also didn't help prepare the barbecue nor did they offer to help. When they arrived, they immediately went for booze, drank most of it, smoked a lot of cigarette and talked with their own group of friends, treating us as if we were slaves or not there at all. They even insulted my friend who was paying for everything. How thick could they get? Did they think they were queens and kings?
I wanted to murder them, they are so annoying, why do people like them exist? How would you feel if there were people like them who did the same thing to you? Wouldn't you be mad?
The reunion would have been better without it. A little drinking and some smoke would have been fine, but they did that for like 24 hours. They even sang at the karaoke until dawn the others who were trying to sleep couldn't sleep at all. Since the area we stayed was open, nothing can block their noise. They even ask as for coins and money so they can buy more booze, smoke and can sing more.
I directly told them I won't give them a single cent so they won't be able to sing again and so that i can sleep. -sigh- In our next reunion, i pray that they won't be there to join. They just mess things up and think about their own enjoyment without considering other people's welfare.
If you have friends like this... well, i'm not saying they are entirely evil, but they definitely are not good and it probably would be best to stay away from this people who abuse you and your pocket.
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14 responses
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
3 Apr 12
Well my friend, somebody from your group should be courageous enough to tell your former classmate who brought along his friends, of how the group felt about it.
One has to be honest enough to tell him what the group felt of him bringing in his own group. If he apologize and promised not to do it again next time, maybe your group can invite him again.
But if he gets offended, then don't ever invite him again for another gathering. 
Some people have no shame indeed, and your friend is one of them. 
Some people have no shame indeed, and your friend is one of them. 1 person likes this
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
10 Apr 12
It's a good thing that host told him about it. And it's also good that the guest took it well, without a violent reaction. 
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
4 Apr 12
The host already told him about that. Thankfully for them, the host is a really nice and understanding person. After confronting the annoying group, the host went to our group(the one who didn't drink and smoke too much and who were pretty much annoyed by the other group's existence) and he told us he didn't want to hang around with those people.
@vertu007 (683)
• Romania
3 Apr 12
I have friends that drink, but they really are ok, they never act selfish or anything. I know them since we were little and we're pretty close. I think I only have one friend that smokes and she's not much of a problem.
I told her to quit many times, she doesn't really listen.
It's her life but nothing good can come from that habit.
I know a man who quit everything last week : booze, smoking and drinking coffee.
His explanation:" Vices do not control me !!!."
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@Keola12 (799)
• United States
3 Apr 12
If I was you, I would have kicked these unwanted guests out, particularly since they were taking adavantage of you and your friend with regard to both your kindness.
@Tamosree1993 (1525)
• India
4 Apr 12
Hello friend,
It is true. I think they are punished by governer.
Have a nice day.
@meticulo (1286)
• United States
3 Apr 12
There are just people like that who are so damn insensitive to the feelings of others. They tend to annoy us even more if we get mad. How unfortunate for them to live a life that they have. It seems to me that they are living like they are the only ones in the world. It's really sad to have an intruder like that.
They were not invited in the first place. They should have behaved well enough. They were so disrespectful and I hate them for being that. I really understood your feelings.I would have burst into anger if I was in your place. But then we would appear a loser if we did that.
So I guess people like that should be ignored instead. If you happen to meet them or people like them again just don't mind them. Don't give them even a single spare of your time. It's useless dealing with them.
Cheer up! Be happy! Don't mind them!
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@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
4 Apr 12
At least from that experience i was able to learn a valuable lessons. Beware of gate crashers and prepare for them whenever we have parties.
Actually it was the first time our party was gate crashed. in our past reunions it was just us, and it was fun.
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@marguicha (215405)
• Chile
3 Apr 12
I think that the guilty one was the one who brought his friends. That was a shame and he should have taken care of his pals. Maybe you (all of you) should have talked with him so that he could tell his friends to leave.
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@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
4 Apr 12
hehe, i would prefer giving him a kick to his groin. he deserved it. 
@Lisona (177)
•
3 Apr 12
I don't know about other countries but here in Scotland we call these kind of unwanted guests "Gate Crashers". Yep it happens no matter where you are. You should have kindly told them to leave as you were not partying (little white lie), but it works. Or next time unplug the karaoke machine saying its late would you please leave. Simples and if they didn't, call the police. Its just plain rude and bad mannered, but obivously they were steaming drunk. Next time hire a couple of big boys to throw them out..hahahaha
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
10 Apr 12
That's really infuriating! The nerve of those people! I would have castigated the one who brought those people along. What was that person thinking? Wasn't it clear to him that the event was only for your batch in high school? And didn't he feel any hesitation in bringing along friends when he knows that only one person is spending for the event? I would have felt annoyed to those people but I would have felt more infuriated with the one who brought them along. 
For me, it would be okay to bring along friends AS LONG AS he asked permission from the group and as long as he knows what kind of people he would bring and that should be people who can interact nicely with the group. Not the kind of people your batch mate brought along. It's the same with me, a little smoking is okay, heavy drinking and singing are okay with me, as long as everyone in the group is enjoying and not only a few people, not only the outsiders.
For me, it would be okay to bring along friends AS LONG AS he asked permission from the group and as long as he knows what kind of people he would bring and that should be people who can interact nicely with the group. Not the kind of people your batch mate brought along. It's the same with me, a little smoking is okay, heavy drinking and singing are okay with me, as long as everyone in the group is enjoying and not only a few people, not only the outsiders.
@pergammano (7682)
• Canada
3 Apr 12
Sadly, you were exposed to the real world! Often, the most wonderful of times are "de-railed" by the uninvited, by many whom are just looking for another party to disrupt!
I concur with Marguicha...wouldn't it have been possible for "all of you that did not appreciate this intrusion" to approach the person that invited this group..and have him/her have the "sabateurs" leave..or take control of them?
@pergammano (7682)
• Canada
4 Apr 12
I do understand, princess...but it is something to keep in mind, when planning another outing! Realistically, it would not hurt, for you, and other friends whom where not happy...take this person aside, NOW! And voice your displeasure of his/her performance in inviting these rascals..that nearly ruined your nice party!
When camping in the cold..we always have HOt Chocolate with Vodka! It's Good! LOL! Take care.
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
11 Apr 12
it's a shame because our group were not the one to decide what drinks and food to bring. the other group simply did the organizing. actually, just one person from the drunkard group was responsible enough to cook for all of us, talk with the drunkards and bought the drinks. they don't have hot chocolate. i wish they bought some but i really did not help out in organizing the activity so i don't have much power to kick the others when i don't like them. :/
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
4 Apr 12
i think it would have been very possible. no one just thought of doing that and frankly, we were used to their actions. we just tolerated it. the rest of us just hanged out a little, talked a little. we didn't really join them drinking.
i did drink vodka, since it was really cold in the mountains and i need something to keep me warm. just half glass was enough
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@megamatt (14292)
• United States
4 Apr 12
Well it is rather sad what they are doing with their life, but I'll be honest and say that it is their life. I won't do what they are doing and I'm not going to preach on what they are doing. Perhaps one day that they are going to realize that what they are doing is bad, but I just hope that it won't be when it is too late. I know from experience that people drink and smoke are often times rather stubborn about listening to others.
They think that you are trying to control their lives, even if they are trying to help them. It is rather frustrating, where even talking them, it might as well be wasting a lot of breath. Hopefully they come to that realization but with some people, there is just no helping. In the end, they are just really going to do what they are going to do.
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
11 Apr 12
aw, yes. I personally wouldn't care what they do to their own bodies as long as they don't bother me and my friends. but in this case they are very bothersome and insensitive toward us so that is when i can't forgive them. I think if they keep up with the kind of lifestyle they are having it would be best if they do it among their selves so that they get older and die faster together.
@06MLam (620)
•
3 Apr 12
Well! I think people who drink and smoke a lot are stupid as they are wasting money and damaging their body. I definitely won't make friends with those people you've mentioned as they don't know how to respect people. If I were you and your friend who organised the event, I will ask the one who brought these people not to bring anyone else again in the next reunion or he and his friends won't be allowed in.
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@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
4 Apr 12
I was thinking exactly that.
The fact is that that 'booze and smoke' group has the most number of people in our class so it's usually their leader who organizes these reunions. Turns out we don't talk to other people from each groups and stick to our own comfort zones, and that is with our old group from high school. It's annoying that those people can totally ignore us and focus more on drinking and smoking.
My boyfriend happened to overhear them talking and he said they were all talking about a nonsensical things, non-meaningful and completely unimportant conversations. Just joking around about things they think are funny at the expense of others.
@chicksdigscars (5483)
•
6 Apr 12
You are not alone! I hate people like this too! I remember bumping into some old friends on a night out, and we all went back to one of their houses for a party. We were all having a great time until these other girls that we had sort of made friends with that night, knocked at the door. One of the girls there, had invited them all. It was terrible!
They were loud, cheeky, and all they did was talk over the top of everyone else and pick fights. The guy who’s house it was eventually kicked them out.. but I feel the same as you. I think people should know their place and mind their manners! After all, manners cost nothing!
@keihimekawa (2009)
• Philippines
3 Apr 12
I also bring my friends to other gatherings but I made sure that my friends would behave and I'll make sure that my friends (from the reunion) would agree too. What those people did is shameful. They should at least think of what others would feel. I won't don't mind much if these people LOVES to drink or smoke but they should at least have consideration to others (especially to your friend who's paying for everything). Didn't the person who bought them talked to them or something about being rude? I was surprised that they didn't even helped in the preparation and even asked money for karaoke and booze! Next time, it would be a good idea to state who "Strictly" are allowed to attend your reunions to prevent this thing from happening again :)
Happy myLotting!
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
4 Apr 12
I was thinking of not having them invited next time. Or at least be super strict about the 'exclusive' rule. I don't know what is happening to these people. They don't have manners and they are selfish. Instead of bonding with their old class mates from high school, they couldn't do that because they are entertaining the new people who are not supposed to be there. I mean, c'mon! They could have done that at another party but not at a reunion party.
@befrindwithme26 (5805)
• Philippines
3 Apr 12
Well,it's disrespect maybe that kind of people are not supposed to be in there,and just say sorry about what they done..
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@Tamosree1993 (1525)
• India
4 Apr 12
Hello friend,
I hate the peoples who are adicted in smoking and drinking. You are right. I also think that about this matter.
I think we should protest them.
Have a nice day.
