I'm not a fighter...

By Toni
@toniganzon (72285)
Philippines
April 3, 2012 8:06am CST
I am a lover! Yes, i am too trusty and some people told me i shouldn't be. I am too friendly and others think it's too much. I don't like fighting and in fact i don't know how to fight. But i do know how to defend myself sometimes. Even as i a child i was never involve in any kind of fight. I was very fragile and i still look fragile. A friend told me i look tamed. Well, you can call me that. I'm not someone who would instigate a fight. I'm simply me and if you hate me and don't like me, it's better if you say it to my face rather than whisper it to somebody else!
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13 responses
allen0187
@allen0187 (58444)
• Philippines
10 Apr 12
'i'm not a fighter... i'm a lover!' yup, that about sums it right. you always came across as a 'lover' toni. never a fighter. lol! how was the holy week? keep us in the loop. cheers and happy mylotting!!!
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allen0187
@allen0187 (58444)
• Philippines
13 Apr 12
hey toni! being bored ain't such a bad thing. sometimes we need to be bored to find other stuff to do. not sure if i'm mixing you up with someone else but you're based in ilo-ilo right? or is it bacolod?
Toni
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
13 Apr 12
I'm from Iloilo. And you're right, being bored helped me to find other stuff to do like sinning a lot !
Toni
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
11 Apr 12
I'm a lover indeed. Holy week was nothing special to me. I haven't done anything differently and i was a bit bored actually except for a few rides on my board!
chicksdigscars
@chicksdigscars (5483)
•
6 Apr 12
Toni! I know i don't only speak for myself when I say this, but a lot of people love you to pieces just the way you are. Don't ever change. Unlike you I am a fighter. I am extremely opinionated and it has gotten me into a lot of trouble in the past. But everyone is different, and its what makes the world go round :)
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Toni
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
7 Apr 12
And i love you just the same. Just as you are!
theSids
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
3 Apr 12
hi toni Dear, do you know that the qualities you say to have are the rarest of qualities a person can have in today's world! Reading this I feel proud of you my friend. You have always been so optimistic and straight - I still remember your post when you mentioned you will not hesitate to show your real pic every month to us - just because you dont feel hiding your growing old. This post and the current one in many ways do speak of the inner courage you have... something which is so very original and so very live. Trust me, many others will not have this courage. And fighter doesnt mean that you launch a Physical war... there are other battles which can be won with silence and also they need tonnes of courage and patience... which my friend seems to have in abundance
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Toni
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
7 Apr 12
Thank you my dearest Sid, you always know how to make me feel better. I may not see myself as a good person but you make me feel good about myself. I've fought a lot of battles in my life but they are all in silence. I'm not a fighter in a sense that i don't fight rough like others.
rebel_woman06
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
6 Apr 12
I thought Toni, that you are a fighter. Your posts seems to imply that because of your courageousness, you are one who will not take any insult or hurt sitting down. Me, i am a fighter Toni. If someone is trying to demean me , i would really tell you upfront what i think about it.
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Toni
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
7 Apr 12
I would never let anybody demean me, as long as they tell it to my face. But if they whisper, i just ignore them. Because those are cowards and i don't like wasting time with cowards.
inertia4
@inertia4 (27961)
• United States
3 Apr 12
Thats good that you're not a fighter. Neither am I. Who needs it anyway. But I agree with that person that said don't be to trusting. Lots of people take advantage of trusting people and thats bad. Some people take kindness for weakness.
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Toni
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
7 Apr 12
I agree with you. I have to work that weakness out.
awesomekid
@awesomekid (67)
• Philippines
4 Apr 12
Like you, I am also one who'd rather take an insult than fight back with every ounce of aggression I've got in my veins. Because of this, I am seen as somewhat weak or not having the gall to stand up to what I believe is right. I have this thinking that we are all imperfect, that each one of us commit mistakes and it is only in the degree or level of imperfection that we differ from one another. So my natural tendency is to let go, to forgive, to love. But more often than not, I tell you that it pays to be a lover than a fighter. With love, you can conquer even your fiercest enemies.
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Toni
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
7 Apr 12
Nice thought kid! I hope i'm as awesome as you. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. We are not weak just because we chose to turn the other cheek (chick, sorry lol). We do know how to fight in our own ways. We're not just rough. We're tough.
sinnedsejatnom
@sinnedsejatnom (1311)
• Philippines
4 Apr 12
Like you, I'm also a lover and not a fighter :). I always try my best that when in a heated situation, I keep cool and not lose control of myself. There was only a time when I get violent and that was 20 years ago. Maybe I also just mature as I get older. Let's bring peace to all people. :)
allen0187
@allen0187 (58444)
• Philippines
12 Apr 12
let there be peace on earth!!!
Toni
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
7 Apr 12
Peace be with you!
Yanzalong
@yanzalong (18984)
• Indonesia
3 Apr 12
Hi, toni. It seems to me you are letting off steam here. But that's fine instead of hiding it within yourself, right. Take it easy, toni. Happy mylotting.
Toni
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
7 Apr 12
I'm a very emotional person and i usually don't hide it. If i do i might just explode and do something i might regret later on. But i'm doing well now. Thanks.
Zer0Stats
@Zer0Stats (1147)
• India
4 Apr 12
Perhaps,you're the enlightened one?
Toni
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
7 Apr 12
Perhaps i'm the ONE?!
Rick1950
@Rick1950 (1575)
• Lima, Peru
4 Apr 12
We all love just the way you are, don't go changing.
Toni
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
7 Apr 12
Thank you for loving me just as i am. And i like being loved by everybody. The haters are just jealous because people love me.
lil_toni
@lil_toni (206)
•
4 Apr 12
Having that kind of attitude is alright.But you have to defend yourself sometime especially if someone will hurt you.Some people might abuse you for being too nice to them.
allen0187
@allen0187 (58444)
• Philippines
12 Apr 12
hi toni. i like your motto very much. so when can i start 'abusing' you so that i can help you live the life that you want? lol! just joking toni.
Toni
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
13 Apr 12
@Allen, you know you can abuse me anytime you want. I'll be welcoming you with open arms.
Toni
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
7 Apr 12
I think my motto in life is "abuse me!"
vertu007
@vertu007 (683)
• Romania
4 Apr 12
I can understand that. I'm not a fighter either. I don't really like violence. We live in a harsh society and sometimes we may need to defend ourselves. Even as a kid I never liked fighting. Nobody really wins when fighting is involved.
sachu8320
@sachu8320 (61)
• India
3 Apr 12
hi, if what all you said is true,then these are some of the good qualities one should have in this century.so don't worry,be a good lover.
Toni
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
7 Apr 12
What i said are all lies!!!!