I'm not a fighter...
April 3, 2012 8:06am CST
I am a lover! Yes, i am too trusty and some people told me i shouldn't be. I am too friendly and others think it's too much. I don't like fighting and in fact i don't know how to fight. But i do know how to defend myself sometimes. Even as i a child i was never involve in any kind of fight. I was very fragile and i still look fragile. A friend told me i look tamed. Well, you can call me that. I'm not someone who would instigate a fight. I'm simply me and if you hate me and don't like me, it's better if you say it to my face rather than whisper it to somebody else!
6 Apr 12
Toni! I know i don't only speak for myself when I say this, but a lot of people love you to pieces just the way you are. Don't ever change. Unlike you I am a fighter. I am extremely opinionated and it has gotten me into a lot of trouble in the past. But everyone is different, and its what makes the world go round :)
6 Apr 12
I thought Toni, that you are a fighter. Your posts seems to imply that because of your courageousness, you are one who will not take any insult or hurt sitting down. Me, i am a fighter Toni. If someone is trying to demean me , i would really tell you upfront what i think about it.
5 Apr 12
well that's very good... I like that kind of personality, that you are proud of yourself whatever you may be. Continue being yourself. Don't listen to what anybody says about you. Being yourself is a gift. If you feel like you have to change, change for the better you, not as somebody
4 Apr 12
Like you, I am also one who'd rather take an insult than fight back with every ounce of aggression I've got in my veins. Because of this, I am seen as somewhat weak or not having the gall to stand up to what I believe is right. I have this thinking that we are all imperfect, that each one of us commit mistakes and it is only in the degree or level of imperfection that we differ from one another. So my natural tendency is to let go, to forgive, to love. But more often than not, I tell you that it pays to be a lover than a fighter. With love, you can conquer even your fiercest enemies.
7 Apr 12
Nice thought kid! I hope i'm as awesome as you. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. We are not weak just because we chose to turn the other cheek (chick, sorry lol). We do know how to fight in our own ways. We're not just rough. We're tough.
• United States
3 Apr 12
Thats good that you're not a fighter. Neither am I. Who needs it anyway. But I agree with that person that said don't be to trusting. Lots of people take advantage of trusting people and thats bad. Some people take kindness for weakness.
• Bhubaneswar, India
3 Apr 12
hi toni Dear, do you know that the qualities you say to have are the rarest of qualities a person can have in today's world! Reading this I feel proud of you my friend. You have always been so optimistic and straight - I still remember your post when you mentioned you will not hesitate to show your real pic every month to us - just because you dont feel hiding your growing old. This post and the current one in many ways do speak of the inner courage you have... something which is so very original and so very live. Trust me, many others will not have this courage. And fighter doesnt mean that you launch a Physical war... there are other battles which can be won with silence and also they need tonnes of courage and patience... which my friend seems to have in abundance
7 Apr 12
Thank you my dearest Sid, you always know how to make me feel better. I may not see myself as a good person but you make me feel good about myself. I've fought a lot of battles in my life but they are all in silence. I'm not a fighter in a sense that i don't fight rough like others.
4 Apr 12
Like you, I'm also a lover and not a fighter :). I always try my best that when in a heated situation, I keep cool and not lose control of myself. There was only a time when I get violent and that was 20 years ago. Maybe I also just mature as I get older. Let's bring peace to all people. :)