how to meet and approach a girl you like

By Vin
Philippines
April 5, 2012 7:42am CST
Im not really good with approaching a beautiful girl that I dont know. I always have a fear of rejection when trying to make a move. And also I am a shy type of a person. I have experiences wherein i wanted to approach a girl from any place like in a bar, in a mall or anywhere. How can I introduce myself to someone who doesn't know me without being awkward? I think this question is for all those masters at picking up girls. hehehe Pls. give me suggestions and tips that works. Thanks!
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5 responses
@Zer0Stats (1316)
• India
7 Apr 12
Be confident,bruv!! Be yourself.Smile and say hi then try and start a conversation then if she likes you ask her to dance.
• Philippines
7 Apr 12
Thanks friend. Like if I had to ask you how would you start a conversation? opening lines? what we'll we talk about? thanks
@Zer0Stats (1316)
• India
7 Apr 12
I find the best place to approach a girl is in a bar.Walk on over and start talking,be funny or ask an opinion on something mundane.Have self-confidence without being arrogant.You don't have to buy her a drink before talking to her.But if the conversation is going well and she seems interested in you then by all means offer her a drink when hers is empty.That is something a girl would appreciate since it shows that you are considerate then if she likes you ask her to dance.Forget being shy.Don't be pushy,or overly polite.Be normal.If she says no find another girl that you are attracted to.The more girls you ask out the more yeses you will get.Even a blind squirrel gets a nut from time to time..
• Philippines
7 Apr 12
Thanks man. very insightful advice.
@barehugs (8986)
• Canada
5 Apr 12
Thats easy! First get to know her. Ask your other friends and acquaintances what she likes, and try to be there when shes doing her thing. If she goes walking in the park, go walking there yourself. Don't push it! Give her a chance to notice you. Find out what her hobbies are and take them up as well. Where does she hang out? Go there and hang out yourself. Soon she will get to know you and then you will have a chance to talk with her.
• Philippines
6 Apr 12
hi barehugs It's easy if you have common friends and acquaintances. You can just let your friends introduce her to you. Thank you for your advice. I try not to be a stalker. I'll try to get to know her and her hobbies. How about random beautiful girls that I see often in the park of in the mall? how can I approach her?
• Philippines
20 Apr 12
Up for today!
@kingparker (9698)
• United States
6 Apr 12
I am not an expert on this kind of thing though. I don't have much experience either, and I always put myself in an awkward situation. There is no mystery, and there is many skills might involve, but sincerity is the key. Maybe a "hi" or "how are you" might not be so bad as a starter. I recently broke up with my ex, and I am still single too. There are a couple of girls I like but I also afraid to approach them too. Maybe you got a million dollar question for all of us.
• Philippines
6 Apr 12
hi kingparker, we are the same. I'm trying too improve though by reading books about dating, relationships and girls. Trying to use techniques and skills to overcome shyness and awkwardness. Do you know those couple of girls you wanted to approach?
• United States
6 Apr 12
Just find a common interest, smile, and start talking to her .. If its at a bar and you see her getting into the music, say something like these guys are great! if you don't know whose playing then ask her who they are. Read her body language, if she doesn't seem interested then shes not ..
• Philippines
6 Apr 12
Thank you elohcin. I having trouble reading the body language of girls. I dont know if I getting the right signals, because most of the time or majority of girls i approach, I sense that they're not interested in me. hehehehe Dont know if I am interpreting their body language right.
• India
6 Apr 12
Hello freind, Picking of girls is a very bad language I think that. Every person(boys and girls) are very special. So you should respect girls. If you truly like someone then she also like you. It is true. At first you friendship with her and tell her every truth. Best of luck for your truly love and have a nice day.
• Philippines
6 Apr 12
Oh im sorry to have offended you. I apologize. I meant nothing harm in saying "picking up girls". It's just a cliche meaning to meet or approach a beautiful girl. That's been my problem, Im kind of a shy person.