Accept Responsibility.

United States
April 5, 2012 11:35am CST
I just got an email from this jerk that I told I am not moving to Florida. He is blaming me for everything that has gone wrong in his life! He is living with his mom. She is making his life miserable! I am not the cause of all of his problems! I am tired of this guy and people like him not accepting responsibility for everything that happens in their life! Grow up and act like an adult! It is a shame when certain people look for scape goats to blame their problems on. Life is not perfect and not meant to be easy! You can change your life. If you want. If you don't that is your choice. People are living their lives without looking for scape goats. You are childish if you do go blaming others for your problems. Stop blaming others and accept responsibility for your actions.
9 responses
• United States
6 Apr 12
I sure hope you told this to the people you feel this about.
• United States
6 Apr 12
I tried. He has not listened yet. All the things I have going on here, I could never do moving to Florida.
@megamatt (14332)
• United States
8 Apr 12
It is much easier to assign blame than to accept responsibility. Even when the blame is something that is rather misplaced. There are times where people want to take credit for everything that goes right, but when things get tough, then they are going to start playing the blame game. Of course, some people take this to an entirely different level. It is really scary how much some people really are going to just shy away from any responsibility that they might have. I actually disagree with calling them childish as there are children out there who would be insulted, because some of them actually accept more responsibility then some people. But that is just the state of many things out there. It is easier to assign blame then accept responsibility.
• Philippines
7 Apr 12
There are people like these and perhaps they will still be people who do those despite the reality that they should be helping themselves instead of others helping them. I guess some of them do not know how to handle their problems as they should and turn to blaming others becuase it is easier thing to do. And perhaps they are also afraid to admit to themselves the wrong things they do or things that contribute to the situation. Believe me, these things also happens to me sometimes and the only thing I do is to ignore them. Worrying about them or their problem will not solve their problme b ut becomes yours. It would be good for that person in the long run to stand for their own and be responsible for things in their life.
• United States
7 Apr 12
I hear you as I went through something like that--gets very tedious after a while. I'd say get yourself out of his firing range as it is your life and you deserve to be happy. I remember someone I knew I took a lot of guff from and thought eventually he would get the idea of what he was doing. Eventually, like Tevye from Fiddler on the Roof, there was no "other hand" so I left and never went back.
• United States
5 Apr 12
I am sorry you are having problems with your friend. I would suggest just leaving the email alone for a while, and then come back to it(if you want to) and reply with a calm demeanor. Something my father told me was to never write an email, letter, or make a phone call without waiting for at least 24 hrs. if it brings up strong emotions. Something we have to accept as human beings, is that life is not perfect, and neither are people. Some may never grow up, and that is something we have to accept.
• United States
5 Apr 12
I know people like this guy, I tend to just ignore them to the best of my abilities. If they are so weak that they need to blame the people around them for things that are they're own doing that's on them. I have very little if any tolerance for people like this.
@WakeUpKitty (8707)
• Netherlands
5 Apr 12
You say the jerk blames you for everything. Sounds to me he blames his mother for everything too. Great way to blame others, then there is no need to have a close look at yourself and no reason at all to change. Let him stay with his mother so he gets what he deserves. Nobody can make your life miserable unless you allow them to do so. If he would have guts he would leave his mom and live somewhere else on his own. But he doesn't so that says enough. Go on with your own life, don't waste your good time and energy on a person like that. You deserve way better!
@mensab (4208)
• Philippines
5 Apr 12
some people find fault in their lives and blame others of what happened to them. it is pitiful that some people do that to absolve them from responsibility. well, they need to feel good that's why the blame must not be to them, but to others. in that way, they keep the false confidence and security, but deep inside, they feel damaged and hurt by the failures.
• Philippines
5 Apr 12
hi desertrose,definitely you are right! He just don't want to blame himself or his mom for what's happening to him and all he can think of is to find a certain person that he can accuse of everything that is giving him problem and sadly he found that in YOU.Well, let him be, if you try to reason out with him,he will only find faults within you so he can really blame for you for everything....but if you won't give a damn about it,believe me he will only get tired & will keep on thinking why on earth you're not or doesn't even care about it..so in the end it's you who ends up a winner & him a loser