Why women hates beautiful women

Calgary, Alberta
April 5, 2012 2:04pm CST
There is a new lady hired in the office, she is not a flirt, she is not wild, she is very classy and professional but I noticed ever since she got hired, It seemed like almost every woman in the office hates her, she is not doing anything wrong, she is just doing her job. she is very professional and such a hard worker. I think the other ladies hates her because she is beautiful. she gets along well with the guys not because she is beautiful but because she is not hard to work with. I have a feeling it is jealousy. I felt like I am in a reality show right now, cos the backstabbing moments are just ruthless. I dont want to involved my self in the drama.... I think my girlfriend who is also my officemate hates her too. Kudos to this woman though cos she didnt cry like a little girl after 3 months of bullying ever since she is hired. she have a good composure to the situation she is with. I think the other women are starting to be vocal about their dislike to her.
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@scarl3t (89)
• Greece
5 Apr 12
It is only jealousy my friend, they also fear her, she is beautiful, fresh, new at the office, hard worker, easy to handle and work with, so dont go think otherwise, I am woman I know, I ve been there, it is not only the outside look of a person it is the whole package that a person offers if she has strong will and if she is smart, things will come around very soon, sooner than you think
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• Calgary, Alberta
5 Apr 12
I dont know but when there is a good looking guy who got hired in the office, no man is giving a damn. There is too much cattiness going on. I really think what she is going through right now is bullying. its not her fault that she is beautiful. she is a nice girl but the women hates her.
• Greece
6 Apr 12
No, you are wrong, men give a damn they just dont act like women, men are human too but they act differently, and I think they mostly respect the other part, you on the other hand should stay out of this as far as the office mater concern, but for your girlfriend I think you should have a talk with her, not because she is jeallous, it is normal for a person to be jeallous, but because she is bullying to another person that dont deserve to be bullying, she have no reason to be threatened unless she isnt so hard worker and she is afraid that the new girl will take her down
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• Calgary, Alberta
6 Apr 12
I am considering to talk about her now cos yeah she is now a borderline bully, her friends are really bad influence. I do want to stop the bullying, I consider talking to other guys about the situation someone will do it for me and I wont look like the one defending her cos I dont want to be in trouble with my girlfriend.
• Malaysia
11 Apr 12
I think many people tend to do that. Sometimes they don't realize that they're being mean to the person out of pure jealousy. Others, of course, are well aware of it and are trying to make life miserable for that person in order to make them leave the area. It's quite sad really. But its nice to hear that she's still standing up to them and is not caving in.
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• Malaysia
11 Apr 12
lol just as long as you don't tell her that and increase her jealousy even more
• Calgary, Alberta
11 Apr 12
she have some guys siding with her now, I think the other guys cant stand the way the the other ladies treat her. who would have thought that a woman will be bullied by other women because she is beautiful and smart. I cant deny that my girlfriend looks likea pheasant next to her.
• Calgary, Alberta
11 Apr 12
when my girlfriend asked me if I found her attractive, I said no.......I lied. at least I dont need to go in the drama by defending her from the ones bullying her cos there are guys defending her now. I dont want to involve my self in that drama. its between them ladies.
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
11 Apr 12
It's jealousy and those girls feel threatened by this confident girl. People who are insecure are always jealous of confident people. And many of them would resort to bullying to hide their insecurities and to try to show the confident one that they are "powerful" or "stronger". At work, those who feel threatened would either take it constructively and do their jobs better or they would take it badly and react badly such as bullying and backstabbing the person whom the feel the threat from. It happens a lot. It happens here in our office. Sometimes, I feel threatened by new employees, too but unlike your insecure office mates, I let the feeling slide and I just do my job and let the newbie do his/her job. You should tell your girlfriend not to get involved with those haters. It will not result into something good. She should better mind her own business. In fact, it would be better if she would tell your other female office mates to just back off the girl and just do their job.
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
18 Apr 12
Tell your girlfriend you'll be siding with the girl, too if she doesn't stop bullying her.
• Calgary, Alberta
19 Apr 12
Now I know the reason why female singers(specially the sexy and pretty ones) cant win American Idol anymore.... Have you notice 3 seasons in a row, the final5 of PBB, final 4is composed of 3 guys and I girl... well melai did win but she does not fit the mold...
• Calgary, Alberta
11 Apr 12
I tried to but she doesnt listen, she is like the queenbee of bullies now and I told her stop acting like a highschool bully. I already told her I am not happy of what she is doing. Lucky for the girl they bullied, the guys excluding me (cos I am avoiding conflict) already stand up for her againts the jelly girls who are ganging up on her. she had most guys on her side now.
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@Rahulsan (83)
• India
5 Apr 12
This is a very common problem with women. If they see someone better than them in looks, the irritation starts like bright sunshine on the hottest day in a dry desert. If by any chance the new babe is hard working and friendly then my friend, there will be fireworks. i have had a good amount of experiences. Right from ignoring to abuses and cat fights. It is really not very good to get involved, that is unless you and she really can pull it off together.
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• India
5 Apr 12
What ever you do don't side with the new girl.
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• Calgary, Alberta
5 Apr 12
I am just hoping she can pull it together with flying colors. I know she can pull it off together. I also cant believe my girlfriend is joining the bullying.
@aprilsong (1884)
• China
11 Apr 12
Haha, it is interesting. I think it is a common thing that women treat females who are more beautiful than themselves bad. Especially their male colleagues (even boyfriend treat the beautiful woman well). They are afraid of all the attentions and focus are on that beautiful woman. It is understandable. Well, i think though you may feel unfair for this woman. But don't show too much sympathy to her, especially in front of your girlfriend. You know, females are more sensitive than men. And if this beautiful colleague of yours doesn't do any thing wrong and a hard working person, soon or later she will gain trust and respect from female colleagues.
• Calgary, Alberta
11 Apr 12
she have guys siding with her struggles now, so there is no need for me to swim in the Piranha pool.
• Philippines
9 Apr 12
Captain, this is one of those things that men wonder and sometimes, never get it. there are also times when the woman who is the object of the jealousy of other women can't also figure it out. It is kinda weird but it does happen, even in the workplace where everything should be professional and impersonal. I suggest that you should stay out of the business unless it is really affecting the work between the three of you. I have to say that I am also taking my hat off to the woman for being what a professional woman. I don't know about these other women and their dislikes about her - it should be set aside if it is a personal matter but given attention if it affects the professional work or group dynamics.
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• Calgary, Alberta
9 Apr 12
I already warned my girlfriend to stop being a bully cos its disgusting that she is like the queen bee of bullies in the office now. Just because she is dating me , it doesnt mean I will side her in this one cos its so wrong,
• United States
7 Apr 12
If women or men hate a person because of their looks, then the haters are small-minded at best and nasty people at worst. I have worked with beautiful women and while I might wish at times I was as pretty as they are, it never made me hate them. I try to give every person a chance to prove that they are pretty on the inside because that is where true beauty lives. There was one stunningly beautiful woman my husband took to lunch - his secretary. A neighbor lady saw them and couldn't wait to tell me of his 'infidelity.' She was appalled that I laughed it off since it was Secretary's Day and my husband always felt he should do something to show his appreciation for the work done all year. What the neighbor failed to mention was that his other secretaries were also there. He would also give his secretaries a raise. He came home to me and that was what counted in our relationship. His secretaries were bright, cheerful, professional young women and their dedication to hard work made my husband look even more brilliant than he already was. I worked with another young lady who was gorgeous, but she lost my vote for best buddy because she refused to be trained in her job. The reason? She was attending college and this was a summer job. She didn't want to 'burn out her brain by putting too much information in it.' HUH??? My first thought was how did she get into college or this job in the first place? Other beautiful women I have worked with gained my respect by being kind, friendly, professional, and willing to work as hard as anyone else. I felt sorry for them often because sometimes they were not taken seriously because of their looks. That is patently unfair! On the other hand, there is a woman on one of the social sites who is talking about how people hate her because she's beautiful. Frankly, she is not that physically attractive and this ridiculous site made me feel pity not hate for her. She has no clue how to make friends.
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• Calgary, Alberta
7 Apr 12
That is a good insight, yeah there are beautiful women who are beautiful outside but not in the inside and because of them , women who are beautiful in the inside who happens to be pretty were being harmed by the stereotype. I hope the women in my office specially my girlfriend were like you. I hate it when people judge because of appearance. I really dont know why people have tendency to not assume a beautiful woman is dumb or just using her looks to get far. I think this happens much in the corporate world.
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
7 Apr 12
Interesting. As a female, I can imagine feeling threatened by another person's beauty. This is because others may be more easy on her because of her looks and this is not new news in society.
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• Calgary, Alberta
8 Apr 12
I just caught those women telling her that working in an office is not for her she should be auditioning to a modelling agency cos she "have no brains" well she does have brains. I am already pissed off with my girlfriend now cos she is like part of the bully squad.
@stanley777 (9402)
• Philippines
6 Apr 12
That is just a bad situation to be in. Does she have friends that are girls at all? She seems to be nice. it's really scary how girl turn on each other sometimes... Jealousy can be very dangerous. Why doesn't she speak up for herself?
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• Calgary, Alberta
7 Apr 12
she have girl friends but they were not working in the same office.
• Singapore
6 Apr 12
I don't think it's just jealousy for her looks alone. As you have mentioned, she is also very professional and a diligent worker. This could also put her in the spot since people may view her as a market spoiler. The employer may raise the expectations and standards of the employees in the company because of her. But I think her attitude is right that she didn't waver even when she is outcasted by others since she is doing the right thing.
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• Calgary, Alberta
6 Apr 12
Our boss who is also a woman is like the only lady in the office who likes her, My boss always praise her for her work. Yeah that could have alarmed the other ladies in the office. yeah could be a market spoiler cos she raised the bar.
@Triple0 (1904)
• Australia
6 Apr 12
Well that's women for you! Sometimes us girls get a little sensitive and jealous, as we tend to compare ourselves with each other. But really, that's really mean to do such a thing to this young lady who has just started to work there. Good looks does get all the girls jealous but acting on that jealousy is totally uncalled for. If the female workers are actually voicing out their dislike to her, I'm quite amazed on how she is putting up with all this. Bullying is something you'd hear in primary or high school, not at work too! Voicing out their dislike to her isn't going to change or do anything but hurt the poor woman. But you just can't help it really, girls can be really ruthless in what they do. Girls have no mercy when it comes to bullying. Hope the situation gets solved for her.
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@Dassodils (2010)
• India
6 Apr 12
Hai friend... I am a woman..In my point of view, All girls are like this..They will be very jealous to the other good girl..It is very difficult to find a girl with out jealous.. while that kind of glamorous girl speak to our beloved ones, that woman will surely respond to them..And try to avoid them.I have experience.. :)
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• Calgary, Alberta
6 Apr 12
guess what, one of the office bullies who are giving her a hard time is my girlfriend for 6 years. I dont involve my self on that war though.
@yahnee (1243)
• Philippines
6 Apr 12
Women tend to become insecure when someone is hired who happens to be more beautiful than they are. A beautiful woman tends to get all the attention from the guys but more often this does not last long. When everybody starts getting used to her, everything will turn back to normal. But since she has been with the office for 3 months the girls should have been used to the fact by now. It is strange that this animosity should last this long. When I was still on the job, the girls would only feel jealous for a few days to a week and afterwards they do start with a friendship. The beautiful girl must have an attitude which you guys don't see. It might seem that she is not doing anything wrong but the girls in the office must have good instincts not to feel too good about her. Observe the situation since I have a feeling something is not right and you don't just don't see it too well.
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• Calgary, Alberta
6 Apr 12
Nothing is really wrong with her, they accused her of using her beauty to get far which is not true cos our boss is a heterosexual woman. about her beauty, she doesnt even apply too much make up, actually they were rude to her from day 1. I am telling you she is the most professional newly hired person. I had been observing everything and I am telling you the piranhas in the pool are the ones who started it. She is not the first hottie those women bullied to quit. I think they want her to quit just like the previous beautiful women who got hired.
@Extourmed (191)
• Bulgaria
6 Apr 12
Well beauty is the biggest weapon of a woman, so it's totally normal every female person in the office to hate her. That's because they feel threaten so they convinced their self that she's bad and manipulating everyone with her beauty even if they know that she's just a new lady who came to work and that's all. Woman malice is natural for every woman but the most of them shows her malice more than the others. I think you should intervene and show the others that she's not that bad and she hasn't got any bad intentions. Good Luck :)
• Calgary, Alberta
6 Apr 12
How would I intervene, One of the bullies is basically my girlfriend. That is like a side of her I never saw before. also I dont want to intervene with the drama. I think the lady I talk about have a tough composure, I believe she is strong and she can handle this. My boss always praise her and the bullying didnt stop that.
@Graceekwenx (3160)
• Philippines
5 Apr 12
Crass Insecurity! thats what i call it! In our office, we dont have stuff like that. In fact, we would like to dress up and learn more for these chic pretty ladies. We dont gossip or think idly of them. We admire them for their beauty and we all want to be prettified. hahahah! I guess... the people in our office are all secured and just indeed professional and mature.
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• Calgary, Alberta
6 Apr 12
if only all women are like that cos I am so tired of the drama going on now. a group of jelous people would be like the worst enemy a person can have. Their hate of her doesn't really make sense cos she is a good person and a hardworker.
• India
6 Apr 12
the way you defined her is all the reason why women in your office hate her. you are in full praise for this girl and you very well know that she is not wrong in anything she is doing and quite well composed...professional...it's jealousy for sure. who would like their BF to notice/study/analysis another girl so much.
• Calgary, Alberta
6 Apr 12
Imnot actually vocal about what I think about her but most men in the job likes her not because she is beautiful but because she really is easy to work with, most me respects her and I think the other ladies including my girlfriend hates her.I avoid to be part of the drama. I think she is strong woman who can held on her own, she doesnt need my help.
• India
6 Apr 12
Hello friend, You are right my friend. I also agree with you about this matter. It is true that women hates women. Have a nice day.
• Calgary, Alberta
6 Apr 12
do you have any similar experiences in work or school that you can share?
@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
5 Apr 12
They are just jealous and insecure with this girl. Some women are like that.
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• Calgary, Alberta
6 Apr 12
do you have any personal experiences that you can share?
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@Runite (307)
• United States
6 Apr 12
Men hates strong while and women hates beautiful women because the strong men gets the beautiful women or the other way around. :S
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• Calgary, Alberta
6 Apr 12
I think not all women are into muscle bound men. they prefer guys with cash or intellect.
• India
6 Apr 12
u know great men and even god also did not understand than how we can
• India
6 Apr 12
Hello friends, I don't agree with you about this matter. Every people know that what they will hapened. So you don't say it. Have a nice day.