how to decide it?

China
April 7, 2012 10:20pm CST
I have a seven-month-old son, have already weaning. Because both me and my husband need to work everyday, so just ask my mother to help me to take care of my son. However, my mother wants to bring my son to go hometown(about 10 hours far from my current working day) now I felt a little confused that if I should let my mother here to take care of my son or let my mother bring my son to go hometown. I want to see my son grow up everyday and want to teach him to speak and learn, and I will miss him once he left. however, my mother think it will reliever our pressure if returned to hometown after all consumption lever of current city is much hither than hometown. we need to make money to buy hourse currently. so how I should know to decide?
2 responses
@Mashnn (4503)
8 Apr 12
I know it is very hard for you to decide but I think the best thing is to be with your son. Why don't you let your mother stay with you in your house?
• China
8 Apr 12
because we just work at home and start our bussiness since from last year, so we are still in difficutlt times, have to work hard for buying a house. my monther also want to relieve our pressure and let us work in a quiet space.
@Mashnn (4503)
8 Apr 12
If you work at home then it would even be better for you to stay with your son but it all depends on you. I would not let my seven month old son to go with my mother unless it is very necessary. I believe you can still manage to spare time for your son as well as for your work.
• China
8 Apr 12
thanks for your kind suggestion! maybe I will do my utmost to work hard and rent another office, so that I can work in a quiet enviroment. at that time,I think I will let my mother to stay with us to take care of my son.
• China
9 Apr 12
I have no child by now but I hope I can help you if I could.If I were you,I will stay with my child and don't let them away from me.Even I know it's not easy and that's why you feel it's hard to make decision.But I still thinking,the child who do not have mother's and father's love will be unfair for them compare with other children who together with their parents.It's very important to build a passive and proper personality for child when they in childhood.And I believe only parents can effect them directly.Your mother has no problem to bring him up but will have problem to lead your son to have a proper values and outlook on life.Please feel free to let me know if I am wrong.
• China
9 Apr 12
what you said is totally right. thanks for your kind reply! I think I will do my utmost to work hard and let my son stay with us, so that I can let my son grow up in a happy and good enviroment.
• China
10 Apr 12
I'm happy to hear that you will try your best stay with your child.I believe that's means a lot for your son.And you should thanks your mom because she is also very kind-hearted and had a good motivation anyway.I think you have a pretty happy family and all the best wishes to you.