Do you think family means mariage?

Romania
April 8, 2012 12:54pm CST
I don't know about you, but family doesn't necessarily mean that you have to get married. Marriages go to divorces, and divorces go to unhappy children and unhappy families. That piece of paper that you sign to create a "family" is useless. That paper doesn't give you assurance that you will have a happy life with your loved one. Marriage is a concept that needs to be taken very seriously, and not consider it an obligation. If you feel that you HAVE TO get married because the society asks you to, it means that you made the wrong decision. My opinion: you can have a family with someone, even without that piece of paper. I know it goes against religion to live with someone and not get married, but since society evolves so should religion.
10 responses
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
9 Apr 12
While I do think that getting married is a sign of committment, I really don't think that you have to be married to someone in order to be a part of a family with that person. For example, I am married now, but our daughter was a year and a half old before we made the decision that we wanted to have the committment of marriage to each other. Even though I can't honestly say that I'm happy right now, I still have no regrets for the fact that I did get married nearly eight years ago.
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@ShyBear88 (18618)
• United States
8 Apr 12
I agree and disagree with you on this one. Marriage to many people including myself is more then a piece of paper. Yeah you have to sign a paper and some people say its a promise to yourself and others that you will be with that person for ever. But marriage doesn't mean unhappiness its what you make of it. A marriage is like any other relationship a person will have it takes time and work and when people sides stop working it just ends. But that doesn't mean that if there is kids that they will be unhappy. If the parents are happy then the kids will be happy. Its better to end something that is over then stay just because it might make your own children happy in the end it makes them unhappy. So a little unhappiness from them to show its better to be with someone you really love. If someone wants to get married then they should get married weather or not that relationship last forever or not. Its better to have loved and losted then to never have loved at all. Nothing is ever really last forever not even people that don't get married. My parents have been married happily for almost over 30 years. I've been married for 2 years me and my siblings have all been married for about the same amount of time.
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@lifes97 (885)
• United Arab Emirates
9 Apr 12
as marraige s go to divorce, other relashinships go to separation, so why no to make the official if you are sure about it, why is there birth cerificates, why do you have to register in school, are all these are forms of official things to public your rights, so why not to public your love if you are sure and proud of it, thats how i see it, thanks and have a nice day in this nice site fills of discussion from view points.
• Romania
9 Apr 12
but why make love official? i don't care what other people think..why should we let others see how much we love the person next to us? isn't that wrong?
• Philippines
23 Jul 12
Family now a days is i think how you build relationships with them treating each other as brothers and sisters for some reason. Family in tradition would include, mother, father and the child. but now single parents are apparent and some are even adopted children. some people who are in the conservative religion does put strict on what defines a family.
• India
23 Jul 12
Marriage has in this age been reduced to a piece of paper. In ancient times people got married with the understanding that they were committing themselves to one another. The marriage certificate is just a legal document. A marriage should be able to last even without that piece of document. We however need the marriage certificate for legal purposes like immigration.
• Philippines
9 Apr 12
FAMILY means, Mother-Father-Chilren:) You can call it family even without marriage.
@yiart65 (146)
• Singapore
9 Apr 12
Sometimes, getting married is a way to show your partner that you are sincere in settling down with him or her for the rest of their life. Yes, you do not need a marriage to have a family. But it gives the children a proper status and a complete family environment to grow up in. But each individual has different opinion about marriage, so there is no right or wrong answer to this.
@phoenix8606 (4978)
9 Apr 12
This question is very difficult,i can't say that family means mariage.you can have a family without mariage,you can have a children and happiness also without mariage,but i don't think that mariage is just one paper,and after mariage is divorce,mariage is one seriously thing in your life,and when you get marrid because you love someone,this is good.i am marrid and i love my wife,i am happy and think that mariage is samething good.
@kukueye (1761)
• Malaysia
9 Apr 12
Basically people don want to get marry because they scare they will divorce or , scare it is not the correct life partner after few years . They want to have an option to separate just in case indifference occurs , or want to change partner later in life, hence they start to give all kind of excuse not to be bidded by piece of paper crap1.
@ranilo70 (177)
9 Apr 12
i think in getting a decision to married is a tough one. You need to think over and over before deciding in order that a happy marriage will come. though in marital time its not always happiness but you will experience sadness and difficulties. So you should be ready to it. Thats the world of marital life.