who do you trust more: Your husband or Your instincts?

Philippines
April 9, 2012 10:25am CST
When 2 people dating gets in to a fight because of unfaithfulness, they get hurt and later move on and find another partner whom they can be more compatible with. But in marriage, there's no easy escape when you get in to the same situation. Have you been to such dilemma, when your instincts tell you that your husband is having an affair with another woman but when you confronted him about it, he denies everything. What would be the best mature way to deal with such an issue?
6 responses
@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
9 Apr 12
I was in that situations before. I suspected that my husband had another girl but I didn't confronted him right away coz I know that he will tell me that I am just paranoid and insecure, until I found out myself. He denied everything even I found out already. I don't know why, everything that my instincts was telling me was true! We broke up for 2 months and now I gave him another chance.
• Philippines
10 Apr 12
It must be hard for you to find out for yourself that your husband is cheating on you. I do hope everything is better this time between the two of you. Have you had the chance to confront the mistress? How did you deal with it?
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@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
10 Apr 12
Yes, we are doing good now. That was 2 years ago and so far our relationship is smooth, but there are times that I remember those things and it made me angry and upset but I am just trying to keep busy to forget it coz it was past already and it was resolved. I haven't seen the mistress coz I don't know where she from and my husband deleted her number on his phone, so there was no chance for me to talk to her. I wanted to talk to her.
• Philippines
9 Apr 12
It is never easy to deal with such an issue about extra-marital affairs. Husband and wife should be together for the rest of their lives since they made that commitment. The best that I can suggest for every woman to do is to catch their husband with documented proofs of their wrong affair. showing all the details and the photo of the affair will put the husband in a position whether he's truly committed to the marriage or not. I hope that husbands will just stay faithful with their wives.
• Philippines
9 Apr 12
That's true, and it really is a challenge for every married couple to stay faithful to each other. I just hope every bride and groom has carefully thought of the consequences that lies ahead before they say I do, and stay true to their vows.
• Philippines
10 Apr 12
I trust to my husband.He is my partner in life and of coarse all my secrets are told to him. We can give and take with each other and shared our ideas.
• Philippines
10 Apr 12
i do not depend on the two, as before i make a judge between a situation that trouble. i need to find out the truth before making any speculation. this would make me rely first on the evidence. so far there is so called instinct and mostly they are true. but still need an evidence. though, their is trust issues between partner. this could only be settled by being honest and frank so far if i find out my partner is cheating i would remind him and give him another chance if he never change then t is already over and i would tell anyone who like and love me to say earlier to me if they do not like me so we would not waste both time and energy as i could go on with my life and so he is.
@dream_ozn (1758)
• Singapore
10 Apr 12
I think i can't really answer your question because it really depends on the situation. however, if you are talking about the mature way to deal with such an issue, i think you and your husband should take some alone time for 1 or 2 weeks to calm things down and to think through things. Thereafter, it is really important for the both of you to communicate and to understand each other and to know what is really happening. Furthermore, you did mention that it is just your instincts, you cannot be absolutely sure that he has another women outside. On the other hand, women's gut feeling can be quite true sometime. Maybe you should just give yourself some time and not rush into anything now, until you have make sure whether or not he has someone else outside. All the best and i really hope that you husband is faithful to you!
@surfer222 (1715)
• Indonesia
10 Apr 12
I think if you have an instinct that your partner having an affair but he denied it, then you must search for proof. Some people are cheater, but remember that there are also people who are jealous to you or your partner so sometimes they spread a rumors to disturb your relationship. I see it with my own eye where some jealous people try so hard to break a marriage.