in the back of my mind i feel bad

@jazel_juan (15767)
Philippines
April 10, 2012 7:55pm CST
i feel bad inside, not the bad bad way lol i feel bad because last monday, April 9 was my husband birthday. A few weeks ago, i was thinking of bringing him to dinner with friends but then that happened, my son hospitalized and well of course that money was spent... so i do not have extra money for treating my hubby to dinner..so i feel bad, i know he was also down as we really didn't have extra money that way but i know he was trying his best to cheer up. But we still had fun hanging out with the kids at home and laughing even though there was no celebration.. but still, i feel bad. i want to make up for it. hmmm!
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@toniganzon (38549)
• Philippines
11 Apr 12
I would feel bad as well if i were in your situation. But i have an idea on how you can make it up without spending much money. Not sure if you're gonna buy this but i'd like to share my idea with you. Why don't you make a coupons, about ten or as many as you want. In one coupon you could write there free sensual kiss, another coupon could say, free massage for an hour, etc! Then you could tell him that he could use those coupons whenever he likes with no expiry dates.
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@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
11 Apr 12
ooohhhhh nice idea toni, no expense at all. i might try that today! ill print some coupons.
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@chiyosan (29389)
• Philippines
11 Apr 12
that is so sweet of you, some times just happen that we cannot always anticipate. there are always better ways to celebrate and i am sure being with his family already made his day. just cook something special at home and i am sure, he will feel that you have not taken his birthday for granted.
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@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
11 Apr 12
good idea chiyosan.. well cooking his fave is also a good idea.. but then again he is a better cook than me lol
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@shylade (3138)
• Philippines
11 Apr 12
hello there! my, my son got an accident and hospitalized too on my husband's birthday. we just have our dinner at home that day. that was the most traumatic day for me and thinking about it again makes me feel so weak. we are really thankful that nothing serious happened to my son or i will forever regret being a working mom. i know your husband appreciates the effort you are making and we really don't need money to celebrate. the mere fact that you are all together, safe and happy at home is a blessing and you should feel good about it. if you have money the next time then do the celebration outside, it is never too late i think. i understand your feeling dear and i hope you feel better now. happy mylotting!
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@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
11 Apr 12
oh what happened to your son shylade? yeah it really feels bad when you see your kid in the hospital..worst nightmare
@shylade (3138)
• Philippines
11 Apr 12
my son suffered from second degree burn although it was not that severe but it is really painful. he is just 21 months and i don't think he deserves to experience such pain. my heart aches so much that i wish i am just the one who had that. i cried my heart out and really feel devastated that time for i won't allow any insect to bite my son and even not allowed him to play outside for fear that he might fall, etc, but God is really good that He don't allow my son to have a serious injury. i have learned a lot from here so we take extra precautions at home to never let this thing happen again or i would die.
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
11 Apr 12
omg. that is sooo sad, what happened to him that he got burned? what you have been through is a lot more painful shylade
@jaiho2009 (39079)
• Philippines
11 Apr 12
Oh, don't feel bad my dear. I am sure your husband won't choose to have that treat while your son is ill. I understand you want to make your hubby's birthday a special one but incidents happen beyond our control. You can always make it up. You can plan for it next week when you have extra money. Maybe booked a special dinner- just the two of you. That would be romantic then
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@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
11 Apr 12
he said that too.. well might as well take his word for it as i really asked him how he felt..
• United States
11 Apr 12
Spending money is not all that is important when it comes to celebrating. The best celebrations sometimes involve the least money. Spending time together and with family can make a birthday great in itself. Instead of going out to eat, you can cook a special dinner at home, something maybe the person with the birthday likes but doesn't have that often. If you think a little and are creative, there are many possibilities for celebrating a birthday without spending very much money. When someone has a birthday, I think the most important thing is being remembered. That means a lot more than how much money is spent.
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
11 Apr 12
i do agree with this and thank you for reminding me
@ryanong (9697)
• Vietnam
11 Apr 12
Oh, i understand your feeling. However you guys were happy together even though you guys didn't have a celebration for your hubby birthday. Then you see, even you guy didn't have extra money for a dinner with his friends, but you guys are still happy together, it is the most nice thing. You are such lucky woman...when have a happy marriage life. Don't feel bad, your hubby understands you and you have many chances to show up how much you care your hubby and your family.
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
11 Apr 12
yes he told me not to worry about it.. but a mylotter just suggested a great idea of coupons so i might do something like it tonight or the weekend, it might be something that will make him happy
@Hatley (154630)
• Garden Grove, California
11 Apr 12
hijazel__juan life is like that at times,just when you have it allplanned then something happens that has to take precedence.I am glad your son is better. why not have an unb irthday party of som e sort when you have some money again and surprize him,I know he does not feel badly towards y ou because you just did not that the nmoney for a birthday dinner out. just wait it will happen that you will have some money then spring a surprise on him,sometimes just hanging out and having laughs with ou r loved ones is better than we think, specially remembering those who do not have family and loved ones to hang out with.You will make it up to him, I know. think positive.
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@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
11 Apr 12
second time i've read that phrase " be positive" i was reading the book The Secrets and it says there that sometimes you have to be positive to attract all good energies..and yes here you are again telling me that my friend..i guess that is what i should do right now rather than just feel bad about it..
@GardenGerty (88713)
• Marion, Kansas
11 Apr 12
That is the problem with being an adult. Often other things happen that keep us from celebrating the way we would like to or doing the fun things we had planned. Maybe you can save up and take him for an "unbirthday" celebration, another time. I am sure you are glad to have your son doing better and feeling better, and that is a good present as well.
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
11 Apr 12
i am planning on doing something like that this weekend.. but i am not sure yet but i hope i can come up with something.. but i did told him that my son being all well is the greatest present we could get
@maezee (25301)
• United States
11 Apr 12
I am sure your husband understands.. I wouldn't worry or feel bad about it. What can you do, really? And at least you got to spend the day together and hang out - that could almost be enough of a present in itself!
11 Apr 12
listen it so easy all what you had to do is get a beautiful rose better to be red and give it to him with a letter and you write in that you love him and that you respect his efforts for make you happy and that you love him too much with a beautiful kiss on from lips and he will be really happy and glade from this
• Philippines
11 Apr 12
dont stay upset. just comfort yourself and promise that you would make it up for your hubby. i believe he understands. just be sure you would take the time and effort out to make it up. have a nice day!
• Philippines
11 Apr 12
Hello Jazel, I know how you feel right now. There really are times that things happen in an unexpected way and all the plans set forth will be cancelled because of that. But don't be sad, you spent the money so your son will be treated and your son's wellness is the best gift your husband can get during his birthday. I'm sure your husband won't be happy if you just kept the money for his birthday celebration leaving your son very ill. There are so many ways you can celebrate your husband's birthday or make up for it without spending a lot of money. One great example is going to church with your family, be thankful that nothing bad happened to your son. Then go to the park, let your kids play with you, their laughter will be one of the best gift he'll ever receive :)..
• Philippines
11 Apr 12
Sorry to hear that case. That happens not only with you but with others like me in different time. Do not worry, there are still a lot lot more other days to celebrate. Save again and treat him sometime even without occasion. Good enough that your kid got well. That must be a blessing.