....Doesn't mean I'm lonely when I'm alone...

United States
April 12, 2012 10:00am CST
I posted this on facebook the other day, it seems that several friends (we are all on same fire department) think it is okay to just come over whenever they want. Even after they call and I don't answer the phone! So, the ones this was meant for probably thought to themselves that it was aimed at someone else, so many just don't get it. So, here is my status post: as the song says.........doesnt mean i'm lonely when i'm alone........with that being said, if you call and I dont answer......it doesn't mean 'go ahead, stop by'.....i do have voice mail and I do know how to use it! if you txt me, i will txt ya back (doesn't mean immediately (or at all) in some cases), shocking I know, but there are days I just don't answer my phone! if you're bored.....get a hobby, watch a movie, go for a walk....I'm not your entertainment or your babysitter..........i'm single for a reason! I'M FINE I GOT THIS! Do you have friends that just 'stop by'? Even when you are busy with something else, they will just 'hang around'? How did you handle it?
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@Kojigirl (188)
13 Apr 12
I so hate it when people just drop by, these days I make them sit and talk with my husband while I get on with things. That'll teach 'em. Why do you answer the door? Before I got married, I actually once left out the back door to walk the dogs as someone was arriving at the front door. Why do they do it? Since moving to England, I find the people here much more civilised and they seldom stop by unannounced. I think it has a lot to do with the way society is going, with so many thinking that they 'want it now, so I'll do it now.' They haven't a thought for other people and what they want out of THEIR lives. Stay single, enjoy yourself. And stop answering the door unless you really want to see someone.
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• United States
14 Apr 12
I have been known not to answer the door! However, I have a screened in front porch (full length of front of house), I love being able to lock the screen door and let the dogs go in and out of the front door into the house. I also like opening up my windows when the weather is nice. Since Tuesday, when I posted that status on my facebook (and printed a copy and passed around at the fire dept meeting!) it hasn't been an issue! lol
@lynboobsy11 (11346)
• Philippines
12 Apr 12
I don't have a friend who has just stop by without informing me. Normally they will call me or texted me that they will come. I have a best friend but actually I treated her like a older sister (since I don't have one) and she's does it all the time. But it is okay with me and it is okay with her even I'm busy because were just like sisters. She can stay whenever she wants here in my house she can handle everything here so I can do what ever I want too. But if it will happened the one that you mention maybe I will still entertain her and make a little apologize for her that I might not get along too much because I'm busy. Also it depends on the situation .
• United States
12 Apr 12
I have a best friend like that, have a key to her house, take care of her dogs when she's on vacation, and if she's working on something....I can help my self to coffee or whatever, or get her a cup if she needs it. We don't have to have the other's undivided attention at all times. And I have another friend that always calls to see what I'm doing and let me know if he's stopping by, he's also my fire chief lol.
@sk66rc (4261)
• United States
14 Apr 12
I'm usually straight forward with things like these. Once someone stopped by & I told him "there's a reason why I had my phone turned off. I wanna be left alone & this isn't a good time for you to stop by. I will call you when I wanna hang out." He understood & went away. I found it works best when I'm honest with people.
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• India
28 Jul 12
“How do you get rid of friends who do not seem to understand that you really don’t want the around?” is a question that many people ask from time to time. It is hard to tell off friends without hurting their feelings. Normally, when someone stops by unannounced, I won’t stop doing what I’m doing just to entertain them hoping that they’ll pick a queue and leave.