Why are some people so sensitive? Just wondering.....

India
April 12, 2012 12:01pm CST
I have seen some online friends who write articles about how to encourage constructive criticisms but can't tolerate when someone writes something against their views. They write how to agree to disagree but they never listen to others' views. They get upset so quickly and don't like negative comments even if they are true. They want all others to praise them and their articles always. Why do people get sensitive? What are the reasons for their behavior? Any clues?
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@jennyze (7048)
• Indonesia
14 May 12
I don't think that is called sensitive, I would say that is a snobbery... thinking they are always right and the others are just to follow them...
@ifa225 (11099)
• Indonesia
18 Apr 12
People tend to think that their opinion is the best one they think that others is false or wrong so maybe that is why they see the false should be mark as bad
@obe212003 (2302)
• Philippines
13 Apr 12
Sensitivity is a reflection of self-ego, on how much one believes/loves his/her self. It is a mere reflection of our inner self reaction towards certain issues, and thus showing the level of one's maturity or having an open mind. I guess those who can't take criticism at all are more into themselves and likely having no regards to what others think.
• Philippines
13 Apr 12
We are created unique so each one of us varies on how we see things, how we responds to situations, how are we reacting to events and to our surroundings and alike but perhaps the difference lies on how that individual is accepting it whether he would be open and public about it or maybe he would make constraints for him to avoid such an unpleasant situation that would be or will be occurring in his life. With regards to people who doesn't accept criticism well its their choice of being who they are since each one of us has our own feelings maybe that's how they feel and how they perceive things and maybe they are thinking that it can compensate them by doing such but nevertheless what is important is we respect ones opinions and views regardless whatever it would be.In addition family upbringing also contributes to what we are right?, if our elders embodied us with righteous beliefs with the incorporation of proper rearing among us it can contribute to what we are, maybe.
• India
13 Apr 12
I had seen the same sensitive comments over here. I don't know why people are so. Each of the people are different and have different practices. Some people are very open. They tell their opinion in the form of comments in an open manner and some of theirs comments seems to hurt some people.
• United States
13 Apr 12
We are not taught empathy. If Everyone Had empathy then even when you are in disagreement, it would be less confrontational.But parents don't teach empathy. kids are bringing themselves up as very self- centyered people. And like elementary school aged kids we love to demean the other guy and will fight when we are demeaned.Me? I am super sensitive. I try my best not hurt the ones I like and love. But once a person pushes my buttons I will lash out and hard. My reason, I was teased as a child and was wrongly told I shuld never have or express Any feelings. Now I know I have worth, I will speak out and lash out when I need to. But i Was taught empathy so when I do disagree with a peer or a friend , I put on the kid gloves and gently say my piece.
• China
13 Apr 12
Someone who seems sensitive to others' respond,especially strict critisicm, surely wants people to discuss the article he started.However he only want to get some support or advises which are similar to his idea,instesd of unexpected crisis.To be honest,i m a little sensitive.When we talk about a topic,A heated discussinon will break out betweent two sides,even more.Interestingly,no one can persuade others at the end.For me,even thought i have agree with someone's opion in fact,i still say"I know what you mean,but i am stick to my viewpoint....."haha,i have a "hard mouth" a saying in my country-described me.
@thesids (22362)
• Bhubaneswar, India
12 Apr 12
The simplest reason that I see to this happening is - Ego. And many have tonnes of it. It is not about being sensitive with them. No one or at least the majority of us have not got the guts to accept the fact that they can be at a fault and it is such people who start telling and not taking
• United States
12 Apr 12
I am not real sure but some do not like to be wrong or corrected. Guess it maybe a big question mark of the person being spoken to in a rightful way of explaining. I know there is a right way and wrong way to speak or write to people. Some may take it wrongly as smart remark of rudeness..can go both ways. And perhaps one's behavior is because the way they understand things when growing up. Being raised to never let of a guard..
@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
12 Apr 12
dear anna, Maybe they are insecured and that made them sensitive. I've learned few things about people's character/attitudes. People who loves gossips hates when they hear issue about them. People who laughs too much are the weakest in times of trouble. Silent people keep a lot of secrets. So, same thing with people who sounds perfect motivators/critics- they cannot accept their own mistakes. It's hard for them to deny that they are also prone to do mistakes. Even harder for them to swallow their pride. :p
@ecaron (678)
• Canada
12 Apr 12
I think that some people don't respond well to criticism. Constructive criticism is good and may help but destructive criticism hurts the ego, I guess.
@mensab (4208)
• Philippines
12 Apr 12
some people are attached to their works. any criticisms and attacks on their works are seen as personal attacks or criticisms to them. it takes a certain open-mindedness and maturity to be able to handle criticisms well. oftentimes, criticisms are misunderstood. it is very difficult to appreciate criticisms if one is so attached to his/her work.