If your daughter inslut you , what can you do with her ?

@samar54 (2456)
Egypt
April 14, 2012 1:43pm CST
my friend has a daughter , she is 30 years old , to know she is sometimes insult her mother, I see my friend suffer, especially as she was a good mother for her ,she raised her in a good way so she grew up and graduated from the University . waiting your opinion .
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@momof3kids (1903)
• Singapore
14 Apr 12
It actually happens to me. My son is a teenager. When it happens I get angry and tells him so. I believe we have to remind these kids everytime they forget. My husband will reprimand him also when he is rude to me. It is only for their own good.
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@samar54 (2456)
• Egypt
14 Apr 12
Welcome my dear friend , your son in teenager , he need to dealings as friend , understanding with him that he became an adult until it passes this stage of the old , God guid him .
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• Singapore
14 Apr 12
Grr the last time I thought I was being a friend, I was joking with him, he was plain rude. It was (to make long story short) like telling me to 'shut up'. I had to say,"You cannot treat me this way, I am not your friend." I did not tell my husband about this, otherwise he will get another mouthful (of scoldings).
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@samar54 (2456)
• Egypt
15 Apr 12
Honey, in adolescence needs children to special treatment they feel they are grown up, as he had spoken to them changes that affect the behavior of this I told you that you must be his friend, but that does not mean treat you in a way that bother you .. As you know that our religion calls children for the treatment parents gently , especially the mother
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@larish (2195)
• Philippines
17 Apr 12
If the daughter is a university graduate then I cannot see any reason why she has to be mean to her mom. Unless there is a bigger reason for the daughter to treat her mom like that.
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@samar54 (2456)
• Egypt
18 Apr 12
Reason like what , larish?
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@larish (2195)
• Philippines
20 Apr 12
1. She might be maltreated by her mom when she's younger. or 2. Daughter was just showing her mom how she was treated by the later when she's younger (she's getting back at the mom) or 3. The mother might have cause the daughter humiliation when she's younger. This is just my opinion. Anyway, I hope they will overcome this stage.
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@samar54 (2456)
• Egypt
21 Apr 12
May be , these reasons can let the daughter treat the mother like that .
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@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
15 Apr 12
Maybe she is just too good to her daughter and that's why her daughter doesn't respect her anymore. Maybe her daughter thinks that it is OK for her mother to accept all the insults that she gave her. This is very sad.
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@samar54 (2456)
• Egypt
15 Apr 12
Yes , this is very sad ,the mother received this treatment after she do her turn toward raising her daughter
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@safety69 (592)
• Taiwan
14 Apr 12
When the kids behave well is the parents fault , when the kids behave bad is the parents fault. You know ? We have a saying in my country : "love requieres discipline" It means that we have to discipline our kids with love. If we raise our kids with only love ,they will become selfish people, we have to teach them how to live their life. The very fisrt seven years of life in a kid are the base for how they will become when they are adults. Is in those years where we can teach values, good manners, respect, discipline... If we didnt do that , when the kids are old we can t do much , we just have to pray for them to be not too bad . Good luck to your friend and maybe if you try to let the 30 years old girl understand might change , I dont promess you much.
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@samar54 (2456)
• Egypt
14 Apr 12
I'm with you that the parents raising children with love and guidance ..also, raising to adhere to the teachings of religion and morality helps to be good people
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@fannitia (2170)
• Bulgaria
14 Apr 12
Hi, Samar! This seems horrible but it happens sometimes. My daughter is 25 years old and we leave together. Sometimes she says or does things that are not pleasant to me. I see that she has her problems and she is irritated. Sometimes we have quarrels, sometimes I ask myself how to react. It's not easy to decide and not easy to judge. A friend of mine who is a single mother told me a few days ago: "I can't recognise my daughter any more, this is not the kid I've brought up". The child is a personality from the first day of his life and we also have to learn how to communicate with him.
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@samar54 (2456)
• Egypt
14 Apr 12
Good response , "we also have to learn how to communicate with him." it is important point fannitia , communicate with our children facilitate things between us
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• Philippines
14 Apr 12
I think maybe why her daughter like that it is maybe because she is so good to her daughter. Because many says that when you are to much good to your daughter it makes them spoiled or maybe there are people around her daughter like friends having a bad influence on her. so what I think the best way is to Pray to God and talk to her daughter 1 on 1. Frankly, telling her of what she feels when she get insulted.
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@samar54 (2456)
• Egypt
14 Apr 12
Welcome to my discussion , I was think that when person be good with others , they will be good with him , I agree that Pray to God is a best way
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@Hatley (164485)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Apr 12
samar I would be angry and I wo uld sit this daughter down and tell her to keep a civil tongue in her mouth when she spoke to me. then I would ask why she felt she had to insult me like that. I would not just take it. I would let her know I would never let myself be treated that way. she is an adult so she need to be civil to her own mother.,Your friend is not doing her daughter any favors b y just taking the insults. she needs to fight back and stop; them.,
@samar54 (2456)
• Egypt
12 May 12
think, my dear that demonstrated excess of the children at a young age, which leads to this outcome experienced by mothers, but this does not mean that they continue in the treatment the mothers in this way that lack of respect or civility, and I think he faith of children and their closeness to their Creator improves the method of treatment for mothers . Recommend to God in religion parents in more than one verse: " We have charged the human to be kind to his parents. With much pain his mother bore him, and with much pain she gave birth to him; his bearing and weaning are thirty months." Al-Ahqaf-15 " We have charged the human to be kind to his parents. But if they bid you to associate with Me that which you have no knowledge, do not obey them. To Me you will return,and I shall inform you of all that you have done. " Al-Ankabut-8 "And We charged the human concerning his parents, for his mother bore him in weakness upon weakness, and his weaning was in two years. Be thankful to Me and to your parents, to Me is the arrival. " Luqman-14 " Your Lord has ordered you to worship none except Him, and to be good to your parents . If either or both of them attain old age with you, do not say: "Fie on you", nor rebuke them, but speak to them with words of respect. God Guide your children .
@jadoixa (1171)
• Philippines
24 Jun 12
that is very sad. how can a daughter disrespect and insult a good mother like your friend. her daughter is very ungrateful. i would never do such a thing to a good mother, being a good mother i can only give back respect and love for all the goodness she has done and given to me. sometimes, me and my mother fight, and i can fight back too but this is because my mother don't care to respect and listen to me and would say mean and degrading things to me that i would never do and say to my mother. so i was only defending myself, respect begets respect. everyone deserves respect parents and children but to disrespect a good person without doing anything is not right and really sad. i hope the daughter of your friend will realize her bad mistake and come to love and appreciate her mother in return.