I made my boyfriend leave today.

United States
April 16, 2012 5:20pm CST
I made my boyfriend leave today. My cell phones are off and my home phone as well. I tried to prepare my boyfriend Brian for this weeks back. I am legally not allowed to have anyone live with me. Brian hogged my couch and tried to manipulate me. Brian is a mess. He almost cried when he mentioned how horrible the shelter can be with no television. I want my space back awhile. I have my own problems. Brian paid no rent this month to anyone and rejected all advice that had to do with seeking ooutside help for his homeless problem. He roommates bounced last month and abandoned the apartment. Brian has felonies and can not follow the rules when he gets housing so he always loses his housing. The man is too clingy and dependant on others. I try and talk to him and all he wants to do is hog my couch and cable tv. I pay the bills here and am entitled to what's mine. I will see him in the day I told him unless I am busy with appointments. I want him to stop being an overgrown baby and learn to help himself more. He is close to 300 pounds and looks very babylike and he's lazy lol.
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11 responses
@bhonti (1247)
• Philippines
17 Apr 12
your boyfriend clearly is a big mess and I am wondering why you are still with him. Maybe he needs a wake up call to straighten his life once and for all.
• United States
21 Apr 12
I accept Brian overall noone is perfect. I see old me in Brian I was helpless like Brian and much heavier before my ex threw me out about 7 years ago. I learned from it. Brian is a good soul. He needs support and a little boost to get going like i got in the past. Brian can not live here because of his past felony record. I have Section 8 as well. The state is hard on giving housing to past felons.
• United States
17 Apr 12
Wow! you will be so amazed at how much this sounds like my 22 year old son...
• United States
21 Apr 12
That's right when you spoil your kids to much or deprive them alot they turn into Brian in old age lol!
@krizzy (237)
• Philippines
17 Apr 12
your boygfriend is so lazy..LOL..tell him to have life..find some job..do you still love him?
@almond24 (1251)
• Hungary
17 Apr 12
You have already helped him for long enough, but there is a limit. You have made the right decision, maybe he will learn the lesson that he has to learn how to be independent and help himself. It's time for him to look after himself, he's a big boy already.
17 Apr 12
right decision ;) way to go
• Philippines
17 Apr 12
I'm sorry to hear that. That must have been difficult for you. I think your decision was a good move. It's time to challenge someone with this kind of personality. Someone who's lazy (sorry for the word) barely has any room for improvement, and it would be bad not just for others who really care about him but also to himself.
@Cherish14 (2695)
• Philippines
17 Apr 12
awwww well that's also the right thing to do so he learns and be more responsible too. that is really a good help for him to be a better person. i hope he realizes that.
@dream_ozn (1758)
• Singapore
17 Apr 12
Hi, i actually don't really understand the discussion that you started today. So is Brian your boyfriend? What you mean you are legally not allowed to have anyone live with you?
• Philippines
17 Apr 12
you did the right thing! go girl! why would you stay with that guy. no one wants to stay with a lazy guy, he should be working his way out to prove to you that he is deserving to be that someone who could stay with you for like even forever. im proud of you, although its too hard but you did it. and glad that you made the right thing!
• United States
16 Apr 12
It's always good to care for someone and help them out if able, but something I learned the hard way with men you can't let them destroy what you are trying to do for yourself. It's alright to feel sorry for someone a little while, but Brian needs to realize that no one feels sorry for you when those bills are up. Brian needs to go on a veggie diet with some fish. He will feel so much better and have the energy to pay his own way. I been through it too so I do know lol.
• United States
16 Apr 12
That id just crazy and he could never live with me. I lived in the shelter a few times. I would never let one of my friends go there unless they were not trying to help themselves. He should be lucky that you allowed him to sit on your couch that big. he could break it or even mess up the cushions. bHe is where he needs to be so you go watch some cable tv..