Is it normal for a married woman go holiday with her friend?

@Madona1 (2097)
Gibraltar
April 17, 2012 8:21am CST
I am looking forward to having a cruise holiday with one of my closed friends following my painful separation. But I haven't published my separation to many people yet. Particularly at work, no one knows about it. When my colleagues ask me where I will go for my holiday and if my family will go with me, I will reply that I will go with a closed friend. If this is the case, does it ring the bell that there is something dodgy with my relationship? Or it is normal that for a married woman go holiday with her friends instead of the family? What is your thought on this? Many thanks in advance for sharing your view.
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@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
17 Apr 12
A married woman can go on a holiday with a friend. I have done that and there is nothing wrong with that. In your situation, they will not find out about your current status if you kept it a secret. Going on a holiday with a friend will not give your colleagues a hint about your status. That's my opinion. :-)
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@adhyz82 (36263)
• Indonesia
17 Apr 12
as long as you ask permission for your husband, it was okay
• Netherlands
17 Apr 12
Why should a woman ask permission to her husband? He doesn't own her. this besides of the fact husbands go on holiday or out with friends alone too and they seldom ask for permission. I find it weird a woman should ask for permission. We don't live in the stone ages anymore. Many women earn more as men do and they still have no rights?
@Madona1 (2097)
• Gibraltar
17 Apr 12
Hello people Many thanks for 3 of you sharing the view. After reading it, I feel more confidence in dealing this issue. I should know better by now that we women have the equal right as men. LOL
@ferritic (83)
• Philippines
18 Apr 12
Dear Madona1, Greetings. Having a holiday cruise with someone other than your family is normal. Not all occasions you need to be with your family even during vacations. I myself allow my spouse to go on holidays without me but it does not mean that we are having a sour relationship. Too much togetherness sometimes ruins the relationship and you must still retain your individual characteristic. I am sorry that you are no longer with your spouse but for me do not worry about your co employees just have a good time and enjoy being yourself. By the way stress will just make you fat. Happy cruising with your friend. Ferritic
@Madona1 (2097)
• Gibraltar
18 Apr 12
Hello there, many thanks for your greetings. Meanwhile, I will try not to be stress......Occasionally when I am low or moody and will start worrying if I have done things right......In fact, I shouldn't have worries much.
• Philippines
20 Apr 12
Just be Happy and absorb all the positive energy and you will go a long way. Have a nice and wonderful day. Ferritic
@Madona1 (2097)
• Gibraltar
3 May 12
Thank you very much.
@Dominique25 (9475)
• United States
3 May 12
Yeah your co workers will not know unless you say something. Women do go on vacation without their husbands. I'm sorry to hear that you and your husband have separated. I can imagine how hard that would be. It will be good for you to go out of town with a friend. I pretty sure that I would probably do something like if my husband and I were to separate. I hope that you will enjoy your trip the best you can and that you will be in a better disposition to handle all that you are going through in your life.
@Madona1 (2097)
• Gibraltar
3 May 12
Hello there, thanks for your understanding. I am dying to get out of the town we live to have some fresh air and visit the new places.
• United States
3 May 12
Good I'm sure that you will have a good time. I hope you are able to find all the happiness that you desire. Right now it may seem like this isn't possible.But it is and you can be happy despite all that you are going through.Remember that all this stress you are under will pass as well.
@Madona1 (2097)
• Gibraltar
12 May 12
Thanks for your understanding and support.
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• United States
18 Apr 12
I think it is healthy to have a girl night or boys night out times apart. But to many once you marry , you are suppose to do Everything together. To these people having a holiday without your hubby will signal that something is so wrong. You do you. Follow your bliss. And tell your people When you are ready.
@Madona1 (2097)
• Gibraltar
18 Apr 12
Thanks for your constructive view, which is very helpful.
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• United States
19 Apr 12
Be Happy! ps. I love your avatar!
@viju0410 (2286)
• India
18 Apr 12
Hi Since now you are out of a relation, it is absolutely fair to take your own matured decision and go ahead for this cruise holidays. Holidaying with close friend will definitely give you sufficient time to sit back and relax from the tensions of the separation. If anyone asks about family or husband just tells them this time you have planned holidays with friend/s. I have been off with a group of 19 for five days while my husband took care of home, kids and their school activities. It was a bit tough to be away from them but you know what I enjoyed a lot and came back with a fresh /relaxed mind. have a nice time.
@Madona1 (2097)
• Gibraltar
18 Apr 12
It is very well said.
@viju0410 (2286)
• India
8 May 12
Thanks Madona1 for the BR.
@lumenmom (1996)
• United States
18 Apr 12
I know lots of married women who go on trips with their friends. I don't think it automatically rings a bell that you are not with your mate. If they ask you why are you going with your friend instead of your husband, you can just say something like "he does not like to fly" or "he can't get off work" (or any excuse) and say this is some place you have been wanting to go for a very long time. I believe no one will be the wiser.
@Madona1 (2097)
• Gibraltar
12 May 12
True, there are all kinds of excuses can be made up. Deep down, who wants to know my business? Many thanks for sharing your thoughts.
@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
18 Apr 12
There is nothing wrong for a married woman to go on holiday with friends. I go out with my friends and I don't see anything wrong. Most of my friends are single ladies and they loves outing/dining out and some night life- I go with them sometimes (not so often) Leave other people think what they want to think- they won't help you in anyway.
@Madona1 (2097)
• Gibraltar
18 Apr 12
Very true, this is my own business that no one can help me anyway, why should I bother much? Thanks for sharing your view.
@scarl3t (89)
• Greece
18 Apr 12
There is nothing wrong with that, married people are humans with rights too you know, you have no obligation to give daily report to your colleagues or other people in your life, at least those that are not close to you, where you go and with whom you go on holidays is your own and only, and whats the deal with keeping secrets? we live in a free world so have a great time on your holiday
@Madona1 (2097)
• Gibraltar
18 Apr 12
Many thanks for your greetings and sharing the view.
@jureathome (5363)
• Philippines
18 Apr 12
There is nothing wrong if married women go out with friends. However, you can't do it too often. My husband allows me to go on a vacation with friends, and I also allow him to go mountainclimbing with his group. But, its only 2-3 times a year. We still enjoy going on vacations together, more than with other people. For your case, people might suspect about it if you don't usually do this stuff. If its something new to you.
@Madona1 (2097)
• Gibraltar
18 Apr 12
True, we should deal with every things in a moderate manner, not to take it for granted or abuse it. Anyhow, I wouldn't have so much time and money to holiday with friends. LOL
@soulist (2987)
• United States
17 Apr 12
It is perfectly normal for a married woman to go on a vacation with her friends Sometimes people need time away; i know there are times when a few days away from my boyfriend is good for us because we are together 24/7. You need that time away to be yourself and enjoy something yo uhave a passion about.
@Madona1 (2097)
• Gibraltar
17 Apr 12
True, everyone has his/her hobby and need his/her private time. For a couple, should respect each other.
@superbadx (484)
• Malaysia
17 Apr 12
Well, for me it's normal is she goes with her girls friends but not very normal if she go with both like some girls and some guys. Maybe this is because of my culture here of married women and other guys. It makes people think that the women is not married somehow and you know what i'm talking about. That's just my opinion.
@Madona1 (2097)
• Gibraltar
17 Apr 12
I am going with a female friend. We also know that we shouldn't cross the border line.....what I want to say is I should behave as well despite the recent separation.
@WakeUpKitty (8706)
• Netherlands
17 Apr 12
Men spent a lot of time with their friends or alone. Since they need time alone. They make us believe we women don't need time for us. Well I can tell you we do. There is nothing wrong with going out with your friend(s) or going on a holiday with your friend(s). We all need time for us and this way we also have something new to share with our partner. Men and women all over the world have their own friends and go on vacation with friends (or own family). It's normal and it says nothing about your marriage. Also there is no reason to explain or find excuses for that to anyone. It's your life, you are an adult.
@Madona1 (2097)
• Gibraltar
17 Apr 12
Many thanks for reminding me that I am an adult. It is true I should know better myself and am fully capable of handing things.
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
17 Apr 12
i think it is a normal thing. well, we cannot do anything about judgmental people. if we have to worry about them all the time, we can never be able to do what we need or wish to do.
@Madona1 (2097)
• Gibraltar
17 Apr 12
That is right! We have to think of ourselves before others.
@adhyz82 (36263)
• Indonesia
17 Apr 12
why i feel its very weird?/ where is her husband??
@Madona1 (2097)
• Gibraltar
17 Apr 12
True, different people will have differ thoughts. I believe there must be someone out there thinking why her husband allows her to travel with someone else.
@jndlponti (2408)
• Philippines
17 Apr 12
Hi there. I think taking a cruise after that painful separation. Nothings wrong with going holiday with a friend but that depends on what type of friend this one is, to start of was this friend a male or a female?
@Madona1 (2097)
• Gibraltar
17 Apr 12
She is female friend, who I have known earlier than meeting my soon to be ex husband. She is 15 years older than me and always there for me. She become a widow quite young......but she knows how to enjoy life that she travels a lot.
• Philippines
17 Apr 12
Well, for me it is normal, especially if your kids are already grown ups and can managed by themselves. But if you will leave a baby just for a holiday with a friend, i don't think it is right. What if the baby gets sick? So it really depends.
@Madona1 (2097)
• Gibraltar
18 Apr 12
Well, if my child is young, I wouldn't leave her behind. Children always have the priority.
• Philippines
17 Apr 12
I think there's nothing wrong with that. Sometimes, you need to allot some time for yourself. You don't have to explain to everyone what's happening in your life. There are things better left unsaid.
@Madona1 (2097)
• Gibraltar
17 Apr 12
True, silent is golden. This is my private life. As long as I am happy with the way I handle things. :-) Thanks for sharing your view.
• Philippines
18 Apr 12
Well is but right for a married woman to spend time with a dear friend or probably to have some break from an overloaded obligations of ones' family I could say.It wouldn't be bad at all if a married woman would be doing it more often as long as it is with consent from the her family and doesn't hinder or make defiance with her role as a mother.Of course it would or can ring a bell for those who are dirty thinkers. Perhaps maybe on the other way around others might think it differently ;anyway we are all entitled with our opinion and views pertaining to things and events who cares as long as one is doing it righteously and without any malice right.
• Philippines
18 Apr 12
of course she can. what makes her disallowed to go on a holiday with a friend? i see nothing wrong with it. i mean its fine as long as your family knows that you will be away for the holiday, especially your husband. take care!
@rsa101 (15467)
• Quezon City, Philippines
18 Apr 12
Well I guess it is perfectly normal to go with a friend. Of course they would not suspect if you would not show some clues and signs to your co-workers unless you have some nosy people who are sensitive to this kind of things. But I would not suspect you if you said you would be going with your friend and not your family.