Are perfectionists perfect?

Philippines
April 18, 2012 9:16am CST
I met someone we call "perfectionist". Speaking of perfection, I'm so aware that in order for people's performance or any activity to be perfect, it must be practiced and learned first. And I believe that to learn perfection, some mistakes can be made as well. Well, in some instances, I think perfection can be met only if you can hold everything in your hand. People can be perfect only when you also have the same thoughts and behaviors you'd like them to be. We all have different personalities and upbringings, different environment and influences, different thoughts and absolutely different ways and styles. I just can't seem to understand this perfectionist I met. It's okay to be perfectionist I think, if we can only judge a certain person in a perfect, right and respectable manner. But for a perfectionist to completely ruin your individuality, insisting on something so unreasonable and making you feel like you don't exist because they only see what they choose to see, are they perfect?
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@SIMPLYD (77482)
• Philippines
19 Apr 12
Nobody is perfect, that we have to keep in mind. There will always be a flaw in each person. Yes, constant practice may make an activity perfect, but then accidents do happen . When that time comes, it will make you realize , that only God is perfect.
@thesids (22367)
• Bhubaneswar, India
19 Apr 12
Hi SimplyD Nobody is perfect, that we have to keep in mind. There will always be a flaw in each person. exactly my thoughts
@SIMPLYD (77482)
• Philippines
19 Apr 12
Well, sids i think we speak through experience, right?
• Philippines
19 Apr 12
Hahaha. I agree with both of you too;)
• France
19 Apr 12
I don't think anyone can achieve perfection. Perfection is by essence, above humanity, and infinitely far from us. I think perfectionist just tend to try and get as close to it as they can even though they're still as far from perfection as someone who's not trying. That's mathematically though. In reality, sure you meet people who seem perfect, but when you look into it, you'll see they have they problems too. For example, I know a brilliant girl, who was beautiful, social, and truly had everything. Having talked to her about some more serious subjects, I found out she had a lot of self-esteem issues, aswell as she didn't get into the great universities she should have easily gotten into. I personnally never thought much of myself on the other hand, and yet I realized not long ago that despite what it looks like, I have achieved so much. All that to say, you may never be perfect, but you can sure as hell try!
• Philippines
19 Apr 12
Hahahah! Yes, so right, I think it's already in our nature, when it comes into learning things, not everything in first time can always be done in perfection. After all, our first step in this world was crawling first;).. We were babies then, lol.
• Philippines
19 Apr 12
id like to believe that no one's perfect, even the perfectionist. they are just persons who want things to appear perfect in their own eyes. it is not really a bad thing though. but for me, being a perfectionist doesnt mean that the person is perfect also, without flaws. nobody's perfect here, except God. we are all humans, subject to making mistakes. and that makes us imperfect.
• Philippines
19 Apr 12
That's right. We're not perfect. I'm just wondering what's the use of complaining a lot right? When you know people around you can't be totally perfect. LOL.;).
@dianmelydia (2272)
• Indonesia
19 Apr 12
I think a perfectionist is just a person who try to do everything perfect. But the perfect means in this case is depend on that person scale. The best thing by being a perfectionist is we will always try to do something as good as we can. Some perfectionist perhaps over acting while they try to control other people with their perfection scale. Have a nice day and happy mylotting.
• Philippines
19 Apr 12
Yeah, I think so. I just hope though, that perfection would only make things good for some, not mock or ruin someone ;).
• Mexico
19 Apr 12
Hi roselabvon: Of course not. I can tell you as a perfectionist person I am that we are just humans. I have to deal with my obsession of wanting to have everything in control, everything planned, to be prepared for all the things in my schedule. The result has always been stress. But do you know something? I have experienced that I am harder with myself rather than with other people. It's more difficult for me to forgive myself when I don't do what I expect to. ALVARO
• Philippines
19 Apr 12
So, that being said,being a perfectionist gives you a hard time;). Well, I think there's nothing wrong to aim for perfection. We always strive for that right? But sometimes, we should not allow that thing to make us feel bitter, hurt and sad. Life isn't so super serious and morbid when you commit mistakes;) Well, except if you killed somebody..lol..
• Philippines
18 Apr 12
Are perfectionists perfect? A perfectionist is a person that tends to be hard on themselves, spot the tiniest mistakes in themselves and others. They have unrealistic standards and they tend to be very judgmental. So to me, A Perfectionist, is never going to be perfect in their own eyes as well as to others. They're more like sad people to me. They need more understanding than most of us do.
• Philippines
19 Apr 12
That's right:). I think too that, what made them like that are the experiences they had from the past which we will never know. Perhaps their influences are different from us. So, I can say that we are lucky enough to understand ourselves when it comes into dealing with perfection. After all, we're all sinners, and from that statement, we're reminded that we're not perfect. Only God's love is perfect;)
@jjzone44 (917)
• United States
18 Apr 12
Being a perfectionist is not a bad thing, as long as you don't negatively impact someone else. On some things I do, I consider myself a perfectionist, for example when I built my latest desktop computer, I used 2 sided tape, wire ties, and looms to make sure that all wires inside were tucked away, and not in any danger of contacting moving parts. There is no window in the case so you can't see the extra work, but I would not be satisfied with anything less. That behavior hurts no one. When I work on friends or client machines, I do not always see the level of detail that I would strive for. However unless the problem is related to the routing of wires and such, I do not criticize the person, so again my perfectionism hurts no one. Am I perfect? No, far from it actually. I would assume that there are people out there that pay more attention to detail than I do, and there's nothing wrong with that. Now when I am assisting someone on a project, and I have input that may make the outcome better, I will suggest it, but in no way would I chastise the person for not adhering to my suggestions. That action in and of itself, would make a person imperfect. A perfect person (if one existed) would see the imperfection in others, and help them in a non-confrontational way to become better at what they are doing. A perfect person would not be critical of others.
• Philippines
19 Apr 12
Thank you for your brilliant answer;). Well, that perfectionist I use to talk with, isn't really perfect at all. We become perfect maybe if we learn how to understand and treat other people right, although not in all circumstances.
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@megamatt (14332)
• United States
19 Apr 12
No, for the simple reason is that I think that thinking that everything will go forward perfectly is the biggest flaw. The fact of the matter is that there is nothing that has ever happen in life that could be considered to be completely perfect. And to think yourself in such terms is just the biggest, most ultimate flaw that you can realize. Now do not get me wrong, I always think that there can be and should be some level of room for improvement. However, there are times where the improvement is rather lost when people are never satisfied with what is being proved. That to me is why a perfectionist is flawed. Some take it to a level where they are never satisfied. They cannot be perfect for the simple fact that they expect to me and in some cases claim they are.
• Philippines
19 Apr 12
For me, of course-nobody's perfect, perfectionists seek perfection, which makes them imperfect. They see themselves as imperfect that's why they set goals or at times force themselves to do this or do that. In this, way, they seem to challenge themselves to strive towards perfection.
@almond24 (1250)
• Hungary
19 Apr 12
Perfectonists are no more perfect than anyone else. They just want to do everything perfect, which is okay, as long as they don't put that pressure and expectations on others. Having a perfectionist boss can be tough, as nothing is good enough what you do, but for me actually this is what made me give up my own perfectionism. Its great to do everything as best as we can, but there is a limit where I can turn harmful.