Don't you want to be rude or mean sometimes?

@averygirl72 (16617)
Philippines
April 18, 2012 5:42pm CST
I practice in myself not being rude with other people. We learn good manners and right conduct at school and at church and even at home. However, that is not the reality of life. Many people actually are rude or mean and it is a common thing. Before I used to cry when being bullied or feel so sensitive but now I get used to it. In fact people who are rude or bully sometimes have the right to bully you because they are better than you and there are people who are actually susceptible to be bullied because of their imperfections. Now, because of that I have learned to practice rudeness or being mean in the house with my words. In the Philippines we have the term "okrayan" where being bully and bullying can be some sort of fun activity. Now it is common among as children in the house to say bad words to each other. Sometimes we just laugh at it and it no longer hurts us. Sometimes we need to get used to harsh words and mean people? Sometimes I want to be mean but I cannot.
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12 responses
• Jacksonville, Florida
18 Apr 12
I find being super nice works just as good. When someones mean to me it tends to annoy them more if I am super nice in return. They get annoyed that they cannot get a rise out of me. It affects me and upsets me when people are rude but I try to only let my emotions out behind closed doors now. I am working very hard to toughen up more. On here gives me good practice at times... By the way, no one deserves to be treated that way no matter what they look like. That is not the way it should be. If we all looked and acted alike this world would be pretty darn boring! The next time someone is mean to you try to be super overly nice, you will feel better about yourself and it will annoy the other person! Plus you can feel good knowing what a good person you are. =)
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@averygirl72 (16617)
• Philippines
18 Apr 12
Great answer again there! Haha...I get something here. Be SUPER NICE, it will kill or annoy them!
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• Philippines
19 Apr 12
I can't be nice to someone who's rude to me. I'm generally a nice and calm person, as most people describes me, but I am rude to those who are the same to me. I don't need rude people in my life, so I ignore them, and if we cross paths, I'll wait for them to make the first move and I give them a piece of me, too. I just can't stand pretending to be nice to someone I don't like and who doesn't like me.
@averygirl72 (16617)
• Philippines
22 Apr 12
I have realized, it is actually bad to be nice to rude people to you. Because you are annoying them more, better just ignore them, I guess!
• Philippines
19 Apr 12
We're on the same page. I want to be mean sometimes, because I have noticed people are abusing me for my kindness. When you are being bullied, you have to show others that you are strong enough to not be affected and move on. It's not good to be rude or mean, but sometimes, we just have to do it to protect ourselves.
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@averygirl72 (16617)
• Philippines
22 Apr 12
That is very nice. Sometimes we need to fight and don't let bullies to worn us out. Actually these types of people can actually make us strong in life.
@superbadx (484)
• Malaysia
18 Apr 12
Well, i hate to say this but i am actually a mean and rude person. But i always be professional when i am working and doing some official stuff so people would see me to have a good manner and a nice person, but i also try to be nice on other occasion since no one would want people to see them as a mean person. Because sometimes when i hate one person, i just keep being mean to them and just shout when talking to them, and i like to cuss. But in the end, i would just smile and when they are sad, i would say sorry and try to make things better. This is because when a person actually make me hate them, they actually make everyone else hate them. I am not a hater, but i can hate pretty bad.
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@averygirl72 (16617)
• Philippines
22 Apr 12
I understand there are people who are actually like that. I wish that they don't be like that way but I tried to accept the way they are. It is my first time to encounter the word "cuss" meaning a persistently annoying people. Sometimes I become annoying too especially when I am testing the patient of other people and I want to see how patient they are!
• Philippines
20 Apr 12
Well, I do but I know better to restrain myself. There are times that I have the mind to just let things pass because a negative reply from me will truly end in something disastrous. That is why I always keep a polite approach to everything (to the point that they tell me that I am aloof.) Like you, I got used over time or mean and rude people. My reaosn to myself is that they don;t live my life yet they practically judge quickly about me. You learn how to take things in moderation and to ignore some things that really don't matter or even make sense. Being mean for me isn't always about being cruel. Sometimes, it's being truthful and we all know that sometimes, truth really hurts. We need to say it directly to the person because we think they deserve to know it for their sake and because we care. However, it might not come across that to the other party.
• India
19 Apr 12
Sometimes you've got to be mean to mean people. Too much patience will only make you come across as naive. An occasional swear or a hard no-nonsense look should suffice :D
• Philippines
19 Apr 12
Nowadays the mean and rude persons are increasing. Sometimes i am rude too depending on the situation, most of my rudeness comes out only as a response to the rudeness directed at me. I am actually a kindhearted person before but i realized that it is not good because some people abuse you. That is why i have learned to be more assertive and if i have to rude i will be rude especially to people who are unprofessional at work.
@megamatt (14327)
• United States
19 Apr 12
I do try not to be rude sometimes but the way some people act sometimes, it is almost like they are asking it. Real life trolls tend to be more prominent that people think and the world seems to be ruled by rudeness at all levels. Of course, I do wonder if it was like this all the time and became just more obvious to say the very least. People tend to push others around, because they just can. There are a lot of things that back in the day, people would just not shrug off as easily. I think that if there is a lot of rudeness in the world, then the rude people do not stand out as being rude. And that is why if someone is nice, you tend to notice it a bit more, but when someone is not quite the most pleasant person, you are just inclined to shrug your shoulders. And sometimes people just push you to that point, where you want to snap back. I try to be the better person, for what that is worth these days.
@Cutie18f (9563)
• Philippines
19 Apr 12
You can't be one if you are not like that. Rudeness is I think innate in some people.
@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
19 Apr 12
hi averygirl You know, when we can win almost anything and overcome any difference with some great and polite words, I dont see any reasons why I should be rude or mean. Though this doesnt mean that all people are that way. They can be whatever they want to but it is their choice... I have found better ways being in peace with me and myself - without being rude or mean.
• Philippines
19 Apr 12
it depends on the people i deal with. if that person is rude to me, automatically i will be extra rude to that person. but if the person is nice to me, id also be super nice to her. sometimes it all just depends to the person whether that person treats you right or not.
• United States
19 Apr 12
Its hard to be nice when everybody around you isn't. Its called character when you don't break to the pressure. It says more about you by not saying anything and its speaks volumes of the other people who have nothing to say that it worthy of repeating. I would keep your kind spirit, don't let the pressure break you.
@Hatley (164484)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Apr 12
hi everygirl there are so m any many people in this world who are r ude and mean so I do not want to add to that at all. I try my best to be kind back to jerks whom like to be nasty or mean and sometimes it stops them completely. I have at times felt like being mean but no I do not do it.