Long distance relationship

Philippines
April 18, 2012 9:50pm CST
I am just thinking now that my hubby will be working abroad with a contract for two years. Yes, I know if we don't mind the days 2 years is just a short period of time but for me as a wife it will be a very long waiting specially that I am used too with him by my side every minute of everyday playing with our 1 year old son. What do you think of a long distance relationship? How can you handle this kind of situation. Though we can communicate through internet or any other means of communication but what am I afraid of is that our son. I am afraid that he might not be able to recognize his father after the contract. How to raise a son with a hubby abroad?
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10 responses
@TheIzers (680)
19 Apr 12
I and my husband, we used to have long distance relationship due to his job, you are right it was not easy but time will go bye without even even knowing it and 2 years have already passed. SO don't worry so much you and your husband will be fine. Just make sure your internet ready to keep communication going, you can do video call with your husband for your son always see his father too. I wish you luck.
• Philippines
25 Apr 12
Yes, maybe that what should I do communicating through web and bonding with our son through web also.
@nurseclare (2209)
• Philippines
19 Apr 12
I am not yet married but I am having a long distance relationship with my boyfriend, it's almost two years now. At first it was very difficult for me, i'm having the hardest time to adjust but in the long run i was able to cope up. As a wife, it's normal to feel that way. I think your son will still recognize him by letting him see the picture of your husband. It's for the better of your family, cheer up mwah!
• Philippines
25 Apr 12
Thank you! Yes, i think i can adjust when time comes. And yes, I have many pictures of him for my son.. hehehhe
@GemmaR (8517)
20 Apr 12
Luckily, the internet means that your son will be able to see his Father whenever he wants to over webcam. It is a shame that it has happened while your son is at that age because it will probably be hard when he comes back but your son will still be young enough to accept him back into his life and he probably won't even realise that he hadn't been there for a while when he gets older. Just make sure that you have regular contact with your husband and this should mean that your son sees enough of him to remember him enough.
@Cherish14 (2693)
• Philippines
20 Apr 12
hi there, i have also made a discussion about long distance relationship. my boyfriend and i have been together for almost 8 years now and it is a long distance relationship, ever since the time we started. i met him when he came here for vacation and we just started talking since then. we are each others first girlfriend and boyfriend so everything is really special. and it is also pretty tough being away from him most of the time. he only gets to come once a year for 3 weeks because of his work but he used to come home here twice a year and stays for more than a month to be with me. your situation is like my sister's. but they are not married yet. my nephew is now turning 4 this coming May but he left when my sister was still pregnant. he works in New York as a nurse and it is hard for them because my nephew is always looking for his dad and there are time when he cannot communicate because he is just too busy working. just try to be very strong and patient and also communication is very important.
• Philippines
20 Apr 12
I think it would be okey sister.. because your son is too young to remember that his father had been gone for two years. When your hubby finishes his contract and come back home to you and to your son, your son would only think that his father had been gone for days or a week. He won't even remember his father left for two years.
@arlera (86)
21 Apr 12
hi, i thnk that would really be difficult especially if you have a son i handle being away from the special people in my life not for 24hrs much more for two years,well atleast your son is not old enough to ask for dad, then that would be really difficult, well i have no idea but i really hope things work out for you.
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
19 Apr 12
I don't have a husband who works abroad nor a 1 year old son, but, I do have a friend who has the same situation as yours. What they do is always communicate since this is the only way to make things simple. My friend gives updates everyday on the progress of their son's growth and development. My friend makes sure that even if her son still can't talk, she let them talk father and son. She let s her husband play with their son even only though web cam. It will surely be hard for both of you, but you do make time for this to happen and pray. 2 years will fly pass with everyday communication. I too am in a long distance relationship, and 2 years and 2 months has passed and we are still going strong. So good luck and I know you can d it
• Portugal
19 Apr 12
its very complicated^^ long distance relationships can work if you and him really try hard^^ he will work abroad for you and for your son to have a good life so im happy you supported him^^ im sure you and him can handle the situation.two years is a long time but it will be worth for you to have a better life. your son will recognize his father bcs you can tell him about your hubby everyday. show pictures even talk by phone and camera^^ its very hard but if you and your husband really love each other then everything will be ok^^ dont worry and support him. dont forget to always show him your love^^ wish you the best
• China
19 Apr 12
you can go abroad to see your hubby with your son when he get older, stay for several days/months together to familiar with daddy.
• Philippines
19 Apr 12
I am not yet married, but I do have a boyfriend right. Currently, we're in a long distance relationship like you guys. What we do is we take the effort of calling everyday to talk and ask about our day. With regard to your son, I suggest you try using Skype or any other sites which offers cam-to-cam communication. I think it would be good especially since your son would be able to see his father, even if he is abroad. Constant communication is the key. Good luck!