How concerned are you for your friends?

@viju0410 (2286)
India
April 19, 2012 7:32am CST
Hi friends & lotters, We are grateful towards the care and concerns of our friends. A call / text /joke from a friend when we are depressed make us feel good. Again, if we didn’t like it or in a bad mood) we can throw our tantrum on them; saying sorry afterwards or thanking them for their offers to pick us/drop/movie etc etc is another part of friendship. What I ask here is how would you help someone who’s depressed and sad? What one positive aspect of life would you show him/her to boost up? Thanks for sharing and have a great time. Viju
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13 responses
@dpk262006 (56170)
• Delhi, India
24 Apr 12
HiViju! If I find that any of my friend is depressed, I would tell him/her - "The ups and downs in life are very important to keep us going, because a straight line even in an ECG means that we are not alive" You see whenever any of our friend is feeling down and dejected, we need to pep him/her up by giving him some positive examples/experiences. Life is full of miseries and tension and we need to tell him that - Life is not without hurdles, but we need to cross hurdles one at a time and this will take us to our goals. And like-wise when I am feeling sad or tensed I approach my friends for their advice and guidance and this help me come out of trouble. Have a great day!
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@viju0410 (2286)
• India
25 Apr 12
Hi dpk, I agree with you about ups and downs of life and liked a truth about ECG line. it is a good thing that you turn on your friends to help you out. Sometime when we discuss our problems and they come up with their own and then we feel our problems is much less than their's. Thanks for sharing... have a great day
@dpk262006 (56170)
• Delhi, India
2 May 12
Yes, talking with friends could do wonders in our life.
@ryanong (9695)
• Vietnam
20 Apr 12
I will ask them going out for eating and drinking...and then we may go to dance...Sure my friends will be happy again. I did and it works...:)
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@viju0410 (2286)
• India
20 Apr 12
hi, As i said in one of my responses, i would like those who spent on me....LOL. Your friends would get treat and of course they will be in a cheering mood then.. keep it up..
@Sreekala (22895)
• India
20 Apr 12
Dear Viju, Your discussion made me to think, do I have great friends in my real life (I must admit I am in touch with my online friends than offline). After thinking sometime I got the answer, Yes, I have, even though I can count them in my fingers. Now the life is really hectic dear, not getting enough time to get in touch with friends and all relatives. But I feel proud, when I am in touch any friend, she says, I was just thinking about you and you called me in the same time (often this happens with my two friends). May be I am calling after a long gap but I get this reply from them. Once in a while, talking long time, really give us a nice feeling.
@viju0410 (2286)
• India
20 Apr 12
hi sree, Sometimes online friends are easily accessable and we are not in regular touch with our offline friends. having a few but close friends are real assets rather than having unlimited numbers who are not available when we need them. Yes, we are more practical than emotional. Talking and chatting with them for a long time can give us pleasant memories....
@vinay049 (1839)
• India
20 Apr 12
The fact which caused depression to my friend must be found and according to that,i would appreciate him or her and help him or her to overcome that.when you are depressed it important to go out and spend time with beloved once.it will certainly help big time.one can do whatever he or she likes to overcome such situation.
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@viju0410 (2286)
• India
20 Apr 12
Hi, yes, going out for a walk with the person can ease out and that can make them open up their mind and relax. have a great time.
@superbadx (484)
• Malaysia
20 Apr 12
Well, i am not the kind of friend that would text others when they are bored or just for fun. We usually just chat through facebook. But i am a friend where really care about others. Most of my friends are like that too. We look for others back without questioning about it later or tomorrow. We help them without a question or asking for reward if, all we did was ask what the problem it and solve it together until everything come back to normal. That's what me and my friends are like.
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@viju0410 (2286)
• India
20 Apr 12
Hi, It seems you all are like minded and get well with the problems as well as solutions. If we ask a reward / return favors, then true friends won’t exist and people will not have faith in other persons easily. Solving or finding a solution together is a nice idea to implement…..happy lotting, friend..
@doroffee (4230)
• Hungary
20 Apr 12
I've never had any quarrells with my best friend-maybe because we're so alike, I don't know. I always tell her when I don't agree with her (rarely :D) :). When she's upset, I usually joke around, write funny poems (I was told that I was good at it :D), take her out (to a theatre or a café), reminiscne about funny moments... and of course, listen to her and give a shoulder to cry on.
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@viju0410 (2286)
• India
20 Apr 12
Hi, So you write funny poems.. do share them here please… so we too can be in a good mood after reading them… You are so thoughtful of your friends and of course you are a nice friend; you know how?? I would like those friends who can spent on me for a while….(theatre or café…) ..So sweet of you, take care.
• Philippines
19 Apr 12
I think the fact that we are still alive and breathing is one thing that we should remind people who are depressed to be thankful for. We are all human, we have ups and down, but it's normal. Whenever one of my friend is sad, the very first thing that I try to inculcate in their mind is that there are reason why we are still alive and we should be in constant search to find that reason. Through that, they will somehow feel a bit excited what life still has to offer despite of their sadness.
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@viju0410 (2286)
• India
20 Apr 12
Hi, That is a nice way of doing a positive brain wash...life is full of ups and downs and those people who are with us when we are down remain in our heart. Thanks a lot for sharing beautiful thoughts and welcome to my lot.. happy lotting.
@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
19 Apr 12
Hi viju Well, I am confined to a home prison. And the only way to reach out is Internet. I can take calls too on my cell phone but might not be in the right position to make a long distant call. That is a fact and my limitation. In my better days, I did travel to Delhi to meet one friend who was in a mess after some theft in his room. Then there was another classmate when I went away to Jaipur (it was in 1991 - only 15 days before my annual examinations) but I had to reach her as she was down with high viral fever and her parents car had crashed. I never considered any kind of limitations when it came to friends - and some special ones. Today, scenarios have changed but I still do have the same feelings. I know I am not great but still, I am a good listener and in case any of my friends needs me to listen or even provide some help (within my capacities) I never fail. Something that I have always felt happy about is the fact that I can stand by someone when in need. ps: If I can, I would definitely help and try my best to get that friend out of the depression and there are different ways... depending on what the depression is about.
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@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
19 Apr 12
I am always around when a friend needs me. I always did my best to be with their company when they needed me. My friends do the same thing- so it's a give and take situation. If they never let me down during my bad days, I am always obliged to do the same. Not because I want to get even- but because I love my friends as they love me too.
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@viju0410 (2286)
• India
20 Apr 12
hi jai, I liked that 'give & take' agreement. If our friends are understanding then we can always count on them and vise versa. yes we have concern for those whom we love and care. Have a nice time.
@meidiana (108)
• Indonesia
19 Apr 12
Hello Viju0410...How are you? Wish you are in a good condition of health. Reminding nowadays there are so many people get sick, such as DB fever and thypoid. Well... When someone is depressed and sad...Here what I will do for her/him: First of all, I will be a good listener for her/him. Listen carefully what she/he wants to say...give some comments if necessary. If she/he already calm down and be a little quiet, I will give her/him some question related to her/his problem which I still do not understand or if something in her/his story bothers my mind. Then, secondly, I will try to suggest something which I think it will make her/him comfort and relax. Third, I will ask her/him what she/he wanna do next. And the last, I will try to help her/him to find a way out for her/his problem. Whether the problem will be solved soon or not, I will try to suggest something for her/his own good at the next daily life. Maybe I only can make her/him feel better. It is ok. At least, she/he knows that I will always be their good friend and always ready to give my shoulder for them to cry on.
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@viju0410 (2286)
• India
20 Apr 12
hi meidiana, I am fine and wish those sick people speedy recovery... All your points denote that you are a kind person when it comes to friends and do not step backwards at the time of need. we can not try to give them some suggestions without knowing their reason for depression. I appreciate all your ways to be a good friend to your friends. Keep it up!
19 Apr 12
Depressed? just listen. Offer yourself as her shoulder to cry on. Do not give advises. Just Listen.=)and make him/her feel like you are always there for him/her.
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@viju0410 (2286)
• India
20 Apr 12
Hi, Welcome friend. Listen to the problem is ofcourse a solution. When they are in bad mood and not in a position to share their actual reason for depression they don't talk freely. At those circumstances we have to tell him/her something positive to divert their mind. Thanks for your sweet thought about friends it shows you are concerned about your closed ones.
• United States
19 Apr 12
I try to give my friends words of encouragement. I always try to be there, if not physically, they can always call me or send me a message.
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@viju0410 (2286)
• India
19 Apr 12
hi, thanks and welcome to mylot. Great that you try to be in touch with the friend.. that's the spirit making yourself available at anytime and all time for friends. Keep up cheering them whenever they need you. Have a nice time.
@bhonti (1247)
• Philippines
20 Apr 12
I have a lot of friends. And I care for them a lot!
@viju0410 (2286)
• India
21 Apr 12
hi, that is so sweet of you to care for the 'lot'. So the lot can be there at your doorstep when you are upset or depressed. wish you continue to enjoy the friendship in a great manner so that they are always ready to boost up you when you need them. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
@bhonti (1247)
• Philippines
24 Apr 12
There was once a time when a friend of mine dropped by in our house with a bloody mouth. Turned out he got beaten by guys in their street. I lend him money to go to the hospital.
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@viju0410 (2286)
• India
25 Apr 12
Thank you for sharing such a lovely story here. It really shows your concerns for your friends and i really wish you enjoy their good company and have fun..