A friend request from a stranger on Facebook

facebook friends - Friend requests on facebook
@rekhum (2435)
India
April 19, 2012 5:52pm CST
Would you accept any friend request from a stranger on Facebook, even if you and the person have a mutual friend or not? Have you ever sent any friend request to a stranger just because you and the person have a nutual friend. As for me, I would never reject a friend request from someone I do not know. Besides, I feel it should not be any problem sending a friend request to someone because you like the person's profile, he/she is a mutual friend, you share some common things, you and the person share the same likes/dislikes(By snooping about the person's profile). Because, at the end of the day, its a Facebook and its still an online (virtual) networking site.
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@ShyBear88 (17420)
• United States
20 Apr 12
I would never put someone I don't know as my friend on facebook weather they knew every person I did or not. If I don't know them or remember them I'm not going to accepted their request. With me sending request I don't request people I don't know. I only ask those I know well and remember and that I know are close to me.
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@rekhum (2435)
• India
22 Apr 12
Like I said since it is meant to be a virtual world, I do not see any reason why I should reject a fan request. If they want me to be in their list..to make it look it good on their profile..I don't have any problem.lol
@ellie333 (21029)
20 Apr 12
Hi Rekhum, I have a public profile and only keep family photos etc private for family as I also promote my business on their and play a lot of games so I will add a stranger, will check out profile to see why they have requested. I have also requested people where we have lots of mutual friends but not just one or two. Huggles. Ellie :D
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@rekhum (2435)
• India
22 Apr 12
Oh yes, I know of a friend who is a Poker freak. And he's got many friends who he met from the poker tables. So yes, at the end of the day they are just a poker friends who have similar interest. But they have not meet each other and are still strangers to each other.
• United States
20 Apr 12
I usually accept anyone especially if we have a mutual friend. The way I see it is if they are some creepy person, I can also delete or block them later which I have had to do. I also have sent requests to people I don't know because they looked interesting to talk to and well I have made quite a few good online friends. However on other social network sites I find I'm more likely to add people I don't know and I sometimes do this because I like to promote my referral links and the more people I have on the page, the more likely it might be seen. I know on Twitter I probably only know a select few of people I follow and that follow me. I know people say be careful who you connect with online which I still do that because if I do get a bad feeling that I shouldn't add someone I won't. There have been times when I felt the profile could be a hacker or it was fake which I find quite a few fake profiles on Facebook are hackers and will tag you in random pictures and send you links with viruses.
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@rekhum (2435)
• India
22 Apr 12
Couple of times i did receive creepy links from 1 of my buddy whose account was hacked. He took care of it now. And yes, having a huge fan base would more likely promote your referral links.
@almond24 (1250)
• Hungary
20 Apr 12
I used to accept friend requests earlier when I was new to facebook and wanted more friends. But I don't do that any more if I don't know the person at all, and if we have mutual friends who are close friends to me, I might ask them if they know that person. Some people are just collecting friends, others are flirting, but I like to keep my account more personal and keep or add people I know personally.
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@rekhum (2435)
• India
22 Apr 12
If that's the way you want to maintain your account, I respect your opinion.
• India
20 Apr 12
Hello rekhum, Earlier I would never send or accept friend requests from strangers, but now I have started considering requests from strangers. I also send requests to strangers reading their profile. I read somewhere, "If we had not spoken to strangers we would not have had any friends at all!" Also my mylot experience taught me to accept strangers because I was once a stranger here and my friend requests were accepted by the veteran members here.
@rekhum (2435)
• India
22 Apr 12
Great..I like your opinion and the quote you have shared. Good luck.
• Indonesia
20 Apr 12
When I was still using Facebook I dont like to accept request from stranger, even if he/she has mutual friends with me but if I dont know the person in life then I would not approve the request. I was once getting a request from a stranger who has mutual friend with my friend and I sent message to the person who is he and if he knows me why he wants to add me as friend on facebook but the person never replied to my message so i ignore his request, it seems that he was only adding people to increase his friend list. I dont like to have completely stranger on my list, we dont know who they are who knows if they try to steal our info or use our picture for whatever his purposes.
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@rekhum (2435)
• India
22 Apr 12
I'd not think twice to reply to the message, if I am adding someone and he/she is asking me about the reason. Good that you did not add that creepy stranger.
• Portugal
20 Apr 12
Nah I wouldn't add them, mainly because you don't know who they are and what they're capable of, obviously not all the time they are murderers, rapists, some people actually do want to make friends, but why risk it? I mean it's. it that hard getting out of your house and meeting up with people if you wanna make friends, please dont accept strangers :) thanks
@rekhum (2435)
• India
22 Apr 12
Lol. I have never ever thought about the criminal l. But, yes are right. There could be people of all different sorts. But, if i have to take a bit precautions on it, it would have to be hackers. Thanks for your suggestion, though.
@sanofer (525)
• India
20 Apr 12
i use to accept friend request from strangers if they have some mutual friends,otherwise i wont accept their friend request. He i find them irritating,them i will delete their request too. If i find someone interesting,them i will send friend request too because it is not a bad idea and we can get many information from that person too.
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@rekhum (2435)
• India
22 Apr 12
I guess you and I have a common thought about it, then.
• Philippines
20 Apr 12
I wouldn't accept do that. I'm not really used to accepting strangers on Facebook. Even if we have mutual friends or mutual interests, as long as I don't know that person, I would not accept it. Facebook is like a personal thing to me, and I'm being extra careful as to who I add and what I post. It has become one of my ways to safeguard myself from others whom I don't know.
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@rekhum (2435)
• India
22 Apr 12
I do not socialize much on Facebook. Neither do i consider it like my personal thing. I just think of it as just another networking website. Maybe my idea of being on the Facebook begs to differ.
• Ecuador
19 Apr 12
I used to think like you, and I remember myself adding any person I considered interesting by their profile. I reached to have something like 500 friends, but then I realized it was no sense to add people without knowing them phisically. So I deleted them all and conserved only the ones I know phisically. Now I have a hundred friends and I feel that my facebook is good like that.
@rekhum (2435)
• India
22 Apr 12
I agree with you that it does make no sense having 500 friends whom you do not even know. Thanks for sharing your thoughts though.
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@TheworD (42)
• United States
19 Apr 12
I don't except people I don't know personally on my facebook page. Facebook isn't what I would call "Fort Knocks". I have had hackers break into my messages, I had to gut all the member on my page, I didn't know personally. Just as a precaution, I hate the thought that someone being able to pose as me. You should be careful if you continue to except people you don't know. You never know what might come of it.
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@rekhum (2435)
• India
19 Apr 12
Its unfortunate that you have been hacked. I've heard of the similar incident with one of my friends profile. Yes, I'd agree with you that we should take all the precautions before we accept the requests.
@Cherish14 (2695)
• Philippines
20 Apr 12
i don't confirm friend requests of people i don't know. if it is a friend of my friend then i would usually put in the list of people who can not see my pictures. but just a few weeks ago, i added a person i don't even know LOL and we talk a lot right now, and i enjoy every bit of it. and yeah he is a total stranger, but we are getting to know each other.
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@rekhum (2435)
• India
22 Apr 12
That's what people should be and do on any networking sides, be it Facebook or Myspace. Getting to know a stranger positively may also lead to a positive relationship. You never know. Good luck.
@Cherish14 (2695)
• Philippines
22 Apr 12
we will see. we are just being nice maybe but i am not in to it really. just when i have time then i can talk...
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@rekhum (2435)
• India
22 Apr 12
I mean, generally speaking..lol.
• United States
23 Apr 12
Back when Facebook was for college people only and not like it is now where anyone and everyone can join, I can remember when my college first got on there. Much like everyone else, I went through the "add every random person you see" craze that was going on. Six years later, I've long since gotten over that. I don't friend request anyone I haven't had some sort of interaction with. I still will get friend requests from people I don't know every once in a while. I don't accept them. Personally, I don't like having complete strangers I don't interact with whatsoever or even know on my Facebook. But that's me though. If I actually knew the person to some degree, that would be different.
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@rekhum (2435)
• India
24 Apr 12
However, my intention of adding a friend would be to know the person more better. Couple of days ago I added 2 strangers. We had mutual friends. We started to chat with each others and I guess I am getting to know them better.
@tinjan11 (75)
• Philippines
22 Apr 12
On my case, I don't accept any friend request from a stranger on Facebook even if me and the person have a mutual friend or not. It is because I'm a private kind of a person and I don't want any stranger to view my pictures or my profile. There are cases I heard that there are people(strangers) who send a friend request and when you accept them, they will hacked your profile and use your account. They also use your pictures or your personal information to mislead other people. i have a friend who was a victim of it.I'm just being careful about it. If a stranger sends a friend request to me, I send them a message asking how they find me or why they want to make friends with me.If we have mutual friend/friends, I ask my friend if he'she knows that person.
@rekhum (2435)
• India
22 Apr 12
I might find it cumbersome to go through the whole process. I simply hit 'accept' or 'accept later'.
• New Zealand
22 Apr 12
I suppose it would depend on who it is. Generally if someone adds me and we have quite a few mutual friends, and they look like they are a 'legit' sort of person, then I'll accept. Otherwise for people who randomly add me out of the blue with one or zero mutual friends, I tend to not add them - unless perhaps they are affiliated with the same international organisation that I am (or, more accurately at this point, was) involved with, in which case I may consider accepting and adding them to a certain group with certain viewing limitations. As for sending requests, generally speaking I tend to only send someone a friend request after I have met them personally. Even if we have a hundred mutual friends if I have never met them and been introduced in person, chances are I will not add them (although I would probably be quite curious about who this person was in that circumstance ).
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@rekhum (2435)
• India
22 Apr 12
I'd add the person but I'll still remain curious about the unknown lots on my friends list. lol.
@alberello (4755)
• Italy
22 Apr 12
Well, if I have to be honest, I'm on Facebook, do not go there very often. As a result rarely happens that someone makes me friend request. Normally, however, when this happens, I agree! Then begin to make knowledge with that person, if I see him or her if they write or post attitudes that have, in my opinion are not good at this point I delete them from my friends list. Instill to find out if a person is "good or bad," we must first to know.
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@rekhum (2435)
• India
22 Apr 12
Right, it is nothing wrong to accept the request and to get to know each other.
@jgirap (210)
• India
21 Apr 12
i think i have also tried it with my account when i was new on Facebook, and it is not any wrong thing to send a mutual friend request to any one as it is social networking site
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@rekhum (2435)
• India
22 Apr 12
Right thats how I feel about it too...
@meozard22 (872)
• Philippines
21 Apr 12
I've answered so many topics like this before here at mylot, and my answer would be same, yes I accept friend request from anyone, but if they have some suspicious intentions, I immediately delete them. I accept them as friends, not just to spam me with anything. Therefore, I never put some private informations in any social networking sites
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@rekhum (2435)
• India
22 Apr 12
Before i started the threat, I checked if there was any similar threat like the one i started. I could not find any, so i started it because last couple of weeks I am more into Facebook and was curios about opinions from mylot lots. Besides, I neither would post any private information on any website, let alone Facebook. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
20 Apr 12
I produce rap/hip-hop beats so I accept every friend request to see if someone wants to buy or order a beat :)
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@rekhum (2435)
• India
22 Apr 12
So i guess you are doing a great business out there?
@jureathome (5363)
• Philippines
20 Apr 12
I would do the same - check for mutual friends, then accept if there are any, unless the mutual friends are enemies in real life. But, if i have any doubts, i would just ignore it. What i don't like about accepting strangers on facebook is its such a clutter to see updates from people I don't know and don't care about. I even unfriend those whom I personally know but not interested in keeping them on my list.
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@rekhum (2435)
• India
22 Apr 12
Yes at times its very irritating to see too many status updates of unknown people but who are there in your friend's list. I'd rather not hit 'likes' on them though.lol