She married him because she's pregnant

Philippines
April 21, 2012 3:35am CST
Some people get married because the girl got pregnant. Is this acceptable? Isn't it some misplaced thoughts for parents to arrange marriage of two people just because the girl got pregnant? Well, it could be the culture. What ya think?
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@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
21 Apr 12
If they love each other, why not. I was a single mother and when my ex-bf impregnated me, I found out that he didn't really love me because he was in love with another girl. So anyway, my family wanted us to get married, and my ex agreed just for the sake of the baby, but I backed out because in my opinion, marrying him just for the sake of my baby will make my life miserable because I knew that he didn't love me and he was in love with another girl. So, I made the right choice.
• Philippines
21 Apr 12
I agree. You should not marry someone who doesn't love you. I'm still single but I have a friend who got pregnant at a very young age. When her partner found out, he denied it. When he was told that he would not be seeing the baby forever, he wanted her back and was forced by his parents to marry the girl just for sake of the baby. That's not right. Good thing my friend did not agree to get back with him. She also made the right choice. I salute you for being so strong and for being a great mom. Your kid is surely proud of you. God bless you.
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@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
21 Apr 12
Thank you. I am glad that your friend made the right choice too.
@Cherish14 (2695)
• Philippines
22 Apr 12
well that's okay if they love each other, there is nothing wrong about that but what is wrong is, if they get married and they don't love each other and also when the parents get involved and force the children. it just depends on the situation.
• Philippines
21 Apr 12
There are two things to consider before any judgement made by both parties, first is love and second is the financial support. If both of them love each other, then they should get married. If not, then, they can arrange for financial support for the child. Marriage is sacred, so the couple must be in-love before committing it. Otherwise, they might end up like some celebrity couples who gets a divorce after fights.
@pandora22 (869)
• Romania
21 Apr 12
this is wrong.the man should give financial care to the child and that is all. getting married because of the child is wrong because in time the parents get to even hate each others.it is a forced marriage and even if they don't get to break out there is a low possibility to be happy and in the end the kid will suffer more.
@sizzle3000 (3040)
• United States
21 Apr 12
In my opinion it's an old custom. One that has proven itself to be out-dated. To force two people to be married because they have a child can cause harm to the child and thier up-bringing. If the people love each other it's a totally different story. Everything could work out. I think it's all in how the two people feel about each other. In times like these it's not really in the best interestes of anyone to just jump into a marriage...even with a child involved.
@WakeUpKitty (8711)
• Netherlands
21 Apr 12
? Oh come one, this happens since ages. Women are forced to marry because they are pregnant. People are forced to get married because of pregnancy and they (or the experts) say it's better for the child. It's nothing new. It's up to those who involves what to do. Some will manage other won't but it's not different from those who marry out of "true love".
@GemmaR (8527)
21 Apr 12
I think that in the past this is something that would have happened all of the time, but in the modern day with more single parent families this is something that doesn't need to be done. The most important thing for a child is that they have a secure life, and this isn't going to happen if the parents marry each other when they don't love each other. They would be better coming to some kind of arrangement by which they could both look after the child and be civil with each other, then the child would have a more secure life in the long term.
@Nikhabele (166)
• South Africa
21 Apr 12
In the first place why do people even engage in physical relations before they get married. I always say if I honestly knew then what I know now I wouldn't have had a child yet and I'm serious. And by this I don't imply that I don't love my daughter because she's actually the best thing that I even live for today. However I was in the relationship with he father for a long seven years and it was an abusive relationship I must add, I didn't know that I could just walk away from that bull, I was afraid. I allowed him to treat me the way he did for a long time.
@maximax8 (27049)
21 Apr 12
These days in my home country it is fully acceptable to be an unmarried pregnant lady and then a single parent. In some more traditional countries unmarried pregnant ladies are frowned against and give shame to the girl's family. So the culture would push the pregnant lady to marry the father of her baby. I think that a couple need to be 100% compatible and in love. It is not always acceptable to get married because the lady might be emotional and have unstable thoughts in early pregnancy. The lady might want security so would choose to get married. I know a lady that got pregnant and was about to get married. Then she had a miscarriage so her boyfriend called the wedding off. I think he was so nasty to do that. They did get married two years later and she wasn't pregnant at that time. She went on too have two daughters with her husband.
@else22 (4319)
• India
21 Apr 12
I think,it is not wise for a woman to get into physical relations with a guy who is not married to her.What if the guy impregnates her and then refuses to marry her? That would really be a problematic situation for the girl.It is nice to hear that the guy who impregnated the girl married him,otherwise the girl would have found herself in a tough situation.
@jinky2012 (438)
• Philippines
21 Apr 12
Yes its acceptable.!Because I am one of them..lol... In our culture that is really important.If the girl will got pregnant the guys must marry her.Because most parents are very sensitive in this kind of situation.But for me,Its not matter if the guy will not marry the girl.They will live at their home and they must need to learn or to know first for they like and dislike.what i mean they need to know more their attitudes before marrying or before they commits with each other.in this days they are a lot of situation like this,,they go to church and prepared for it, so wonderful wedding but in the end they get up nothing..