Summer job for my 7 year-old daughter.

@chicgale (2982)
Philippines
April 21, 2012 7:54am CST
I hope this is not a child abuse.hehehe She wants me to buy her a new toy, but I told her "NO" because I just bought her a toy last month, and I was joking to her that she should get a job so that she can buy the toy that she want. She asked me if she can work for me? So, I asked her what kind of job would it be? She said she will wash the dishes for me for about 40 cents, sweeping the house for 40 cents also, sweeping and mopping the floor 50 cents, and cleaning the bathroom 1 dollar. LOL And she even started washing the dishes tonight and after that she asked payment for it and put it in her piggy bank. She told me that tomorrow she will clean the house. Do you think I should let her stop doing it? But my husband told me that it is a good training for her so that she will learn how to manage the house.
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@Cherish14 (2695)
• Philippines
22 Apr 12
awww that is really cute. i am glad that she is motivated to do the chores because there is something she wants to get. that is a good training for her while she is young. it is like working for something you really want and it feel much better if you get it out of your hard work. that's okay, but just guide her so she doesn't hurt herself working in the house. when i was small, i would usually break the dishes accidentally and would cut myself.
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@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
22 Apr 12
Yeah. I am teaching her to do some house chores. When I was a kid, I started cooking rice at the age of 6, and at about at my daughter's age, I can clean the entire house.
@Cherish14 (2695)
• Philippines
22 Apr 12
that is really good. when i was young i would do the laundry and cook as if i knew back then heheh but my mom would get mat me. she never wanted us to work even do the laundry. i started doing my own laundry when i was already in college. i would do it when i was in high school but she wanted all our clothes be washed at home since we were staying at a dorm before. but when i was in college, i did everything by myself. i don't like the thought of her being too strict when it comes to us doing the household chores. there were also times before that my sister and i would do the laundry just so she would let us go and walk around the park haha
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@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
23 Apr 12
Hahaha Yeah, when I was a kid I like doing the laundry, and my mom always get mad at me coz I don't know how to do it.. hehhehe
@lowyder (282)
• Canada
21 Apr 12
Yes..~! little things like this prepare people for real life and how to do things in their own place the payment is good to because she may learn the value f money this way due to fact she will do all work for what (1 toy) approx... so she will know what has to be done to earn her toys and maybe u'll luck out she will understand that 1 toy costed money and apprecaite it more kkind of thing .. great idea keep us posted hope it works out for all of yas!!! Low~!
@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
22 Apr 12
Yes, and she will take care of the toy that she is gonna get because she work for it! :D Thank you for your response! :D
@tashh23 (115)
22 Apr 12
I agree with my bf, @lowyder. Even though she's young, I think it'll be a good experience for her. It'll teach her to be independant and work for the things she wants. As said in the previous comment, it'll also teach her to prepare for her life in the future when she gets a little older. Once she gets going, you could put a few dollars away and teach her something along the lines of a "savings account". She's only young, so she won't have an incredible amount to put away. But even if it's just a few dollars and you teach her how to save money and how it's a good thing to do, she'll be smart with her money in the future!! -If you do go through with teaching her about saving and putting a couple dollars away, when the time comes when she has no more money left, and you tell her that she still has the money she saved she'll be so very happy!! I think it's a wonderful idea and I hope it works out for the best for you two. Wish you all the best of luck & I hope to hear how it works out in the future! Keep us posted hunn :)
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@tashh23 (115)
22 Apr 12
I forgot to mention, I think what you wrote in your discussion is the sweetest thing. Your daughter sounds so cute and responsible. When I was younger, my mom had set up a chart and put it on the wall for both my brothers and I. She marked our names near the top, and down the side, she wrote different little chores for us to do around the house, such as: Make your bed, clean your room, sweep, dust, dishes, etc. Just little things to do for the day/week. If we completed the chore, we would get a star(sticker) by each chore we completed. And if by the end of the week, if and whoever had everything done, my mom would buy us a toy. (Nothing expensive or nothing, just little things to keep us motivated to do our chores). Although it wasn't money, you could still do something similar with the chart idea and you could give her money instead of toys. It will motivate her and also teach her responsibility at the same time. Hope that idea helps a little in whatever you decide to do :)
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@wittynet (4131)
• Philippines
21 Apr 12
For me, it's not a good training for there is a payment. I am not yet a mother, but the way I see it, your daughter will be trained to do household chores with pay. She will always expect payments for everything that she'll do for you.
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@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
21 Apr 12
Yeah I know, but this is only gonna happen during summertime that she is not in school.
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@wittynet (4131)
• Philippines
21 Apr 12
You know what is good for your daughter because you are the parents. Mine is only my opinion for I have never been a parent.
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@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
22 Apr 12
Yeah I know. It's ok. Thank you for you response. :-)
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@jdyrj777 (6556)
• United States
24 Apr 12
Your husband is right. It is good for her. My daughter does the same with her kids. They learn good things about life that way.
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@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
24 Apr 12
That's good to know that I am not alone. :-)
@jdyrj777 (6556)
• United States
25 Apr 12
I had a aunt that once her kids turned 18 and they were still at home she charged them rent. Not as much as out in the world though.
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• Philippines
21 Apr 12
If it's a summer job then it shouldn't be done at the house because I'm afraid that when she gets older, she will no longer do household chores without any pay. I have said this because my wife's cousin who is now 13 years old will not do anything if no equivalent money is given to him. When he's young, his parents pays him money for any house jobs or anything that they told him to do like buying something or getting a haircomb. In my opinion, that plan should be stopped.
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@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
22 Apr 12
It depends how you explain to your kid. My daughter like to help me in the house without giving her a reward, and this time, me and my husband are giving her a reward so that she will know that getting the things that she wants is you need to work for it. You see, we just bought her a toy, and now she wants another one.
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@wittynet (4131)
• Philippines
22 Apr 12
I believe you are good parents. Yes. It really depends on how parents explain it to the child.
• United States
21 Apr 12
Your husband is right. It sounds like a very healthy situation. You're teaching your daughter that it's important to earn so you're teaching her how to adapt in the real world. It sounds like she's motivated, ambitious and has wonderful work ethic. I'd like to applaud her...and...you for the way you're handling the situation. The only thing I would do different is to teach her that you will pay her on a specific day that YOU choose. It could be once a week or bi-weekly. That way she will learn how to trust you to pay her and how to patiently wait for pay day. Congratulations...on doing some wonderful parenting.
@netrod (182)
• United States
21 Apr 12
I agree, yall are giving her some valuable experience... Developing a work ethic, patience and responseability... Im proud of your daughter for asking for the chance to earn the money... Very enterprising for a 7 year old...
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@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
22 Apr 12
Thank you sherrybelle and ntrod! As what sherrybelle said about teaching my daughter on paying her on a specific day that I choose, is great idea! I will do that!
@wolveren (1569)
• Cebu, Philippines
21 Apr 12
40 or 50 cents and a dollar? Is your husband american? In my opinion its fine to let the kid know the value of hard work while differentiating that with household chores. You have to give her guidance that its like make believe and training all in one. Kids who have been exposed to work from a young age most likely become easily successful when they grow up because they already are used to it. My grandmother is half chinese. The chinese let their kids work in any of their businesses as part of their training, specially doing the math part which vital to a business. When they grow up they become independent and know enough to face the challenges ahead of them. To me that is not child abuse as long as they have fun and like what they are doing. I thought my kids to work too. I made it all like a game so they would enjoy it everytime. Now my eldest is hardworking and independent. A proud father I am.
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@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
22 Apr 12
Yup! My husband is american. Yes, that's what my husband told me that it is important that my kid know the value of hard work. My daughter like to help me, like in my business. :D It is nice to be a proud parent like you! :D
@wolveren (1569)
• Cebu, Philippines
22 Apr 12
Just remember make her work fun. Like it was a summer kind of game and she will love it. She will experience the thrill of doing the work and getting rewarded for it. Also keep in mind to teach her that it is not always the goal that matters. It is the journey itself in achieving the goal that makes the difference. This way you can build her foundation at a young age, this will have a real great impact on her success when she grows up. And you will be a proud parent too!
• Philippines
21 Apr 12
For me, it's a good start to train her at an early age. Like making her do chores and errands. It's a good training for her so that when she gets older, she's more independent. But don't exhaust her with a lot of chores. hehehe She's only seven years old.
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@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
22 Apr 12
Hahahha. Yeah I know. I told her that I will not let her clean the bathroom coz she don't know how to clean it yet. I was just surprised when I came home from the market, the bathroom floor was clean, but not the sink and the toilet! LOL She told me that she scrub the floor with ajax, and she asked the half of the money that she wanted.. lol
• Philippines
22 Apr 12
Wow! That's nice. She's clever. She knows already how to clean the bathroom floor without you even telling her. hehehe
• Indonesia
29 Apr 12
Hello chicgale, my parents always taught me to earn if I want something, it is like no free lunch for the luxury things and if I want it badly then I need to work and earn it by myself. I help my parents since I was a little kid but not the kind of job like your daughter did, I help my dad or my mom's to organize their file or anything related to their job because if I help them to do the house chore it wont considered as a job but as a duty hehehe. Im a student and I dont have a part time job but i help my dad to handle emails and other stuff related to his job and this is how i get my extra money aside from the weekly allowance i get every monday. I think it is a good training to your daughter to teach her responsibility and to earn money. My 14 years old brother also saves money to buy what he likes so it is so rare to ask parents to buy him something and he also helps my parent to get extra money. Because Im such as a secretary for my father so my brother is an assistant for my mother
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@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
29 Apr 12
That's nice!!! :D
@johndur (3049)
• Pasig, Philippines
23 Apr 12
dont stop her from doing it...its her training which she can use when she growsup and she will know the real value of money so that she wont waste it in the future...
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@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
23 Apr 12
Yes, I won't. Thank you johndur!
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@fran429 (503)
• United States
23 Apr 12
I think it's a great idea! She is learning responsibility AND learning a valuable lesson of working to earn things & that things aren't just handed to you on a silver platter! Good job for you and your little girl!
@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
23 Apr 12
Thank you fran!!
@Thoroughrob (11750)
• United States
23 Apr 12
It will be good for her. It will help her realize the value of a dollar. I always kept a list of odd jobs on the fridge with an amount that each payed and a date they had to be done by. I did not give them a certain day to do them. If for some reason, they chose not to them, we did them as a team, for no money after that date. They were still responsible for cleaning up after themselves for no money.
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@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
23 Apr 12
That's nice! Yes, before this reward thing, she like to help me doing the house chores. So, I am sure someday, she will still help me doing the house chores even without a reward. She enjoys doing it with me. :D
• United States
22 Apr 12
Wow...a parent who actually doesn't give into their child. Kudos to you! Keep her working for things she wants, and she may turn out better than the rest of upcoming generations. As long as you have chores around the house for her that she doesn't get paid for along with the extra chores she will get paid for, the message should get across perfectly. I did this with my parents, too, because I had goals set for myself at that age for my career and future (I wanted to invest in real estate, and I wanted to buy my own first car at sixteen, so I started working for friends and family around your daughter's age). I had chores that I had to do anyway, since I was a part of the household (dishes, trash cans, cat litterboxes), but I would pick up more chores and such for money. I never liked my parents spending money on me, since I could work for it myself. I had my first (external) job at fourteen, and $10,000 saved by fifteen that I put immediately as a down payment on my first real estate rental property. If my parents hadn't allowed me to do extra work and such, I doubt I'd have the work ethic I do now, nor would I even have my business. Even if your daughter doesn't have career motivations or anything like that, at the very least she's already thinking about saving up for toys that she wouldn't get otherwise. The fact that she immediately thought of working for the money is a good sign for you...most kids these days would simply whine until their parents gave in. Your daughter's mindset is rare; please encourage it and let her know it's admirable for a child to want to work for something they can't yet have.
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@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
23 Apr 12
Thank you so much LovingLife for the nice response!! :-) Yes, she likes doing house chores, and she starts doing it when she 5 years old, like washing the dishes and sweeping the house. :-)
@owlwings (39872)
• Cambridge, England
22 Apr 12
I think that is an excellent idea, especially as your daughter herself suggested it. She should be rewarded for enterprise, if nothing else, but also for setting sensible and realistic rates. That girl should go far! As her 'employer', make sure that you introduce her gently to the principles of employment. Be ready with praise and don't be too hard in criticising her work. Make sure that she derives satisfaction from doing the work well, not just from earning money, because, sure as eggs, when she gets to run her own household, that will be the ONLY reward she will get for keeping it clean!
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@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
23 Apr 12
Thank you owlwings! So far she is enjoying doing it with me. :D
@alottodo (3061)
• Australia
22 Apr 12
When my children asked for payment for doing household chores I did not complain I just asked them to pay my as well for the job I did and they always owed me money...so that took care of that! household chores should be done as a family and children should not expect to be paid for it...yes sure give your child some pocket money so she can learn to save at an early age...but house chores should be done without pay!
@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
22 Apr 12
Yes, and I know about it. I explained it to my kid already that I am only rewarding her just for this time so that she can get what she wants. She is a good kid and she is trying to help me doing some of the chores in the house already before without any rewards from me..
• United States
22 Apr 12
I don't really see a problem with this unless she starts refusing to do chores if you don't pay her. I grew up getting a weekly allowance of usually $5 and then around report card time if I did good I would get extra money along with my allowance. I think I wanted a gameboy as a kid so my parents told me to save up for it and I did. I don't think they actually believed I would do it because when I had enough for it and gave them the money to go buy it they were surprised. I think getting an allowance as a kid and having to save up for things I wanted really helped me because now I still save money and know how to spend it wisely. Now my parents tell me they could probably learn how to manage money from me lol.
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@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
22 Apr 12
Oh! That's nice!! :D
• United States
22 Apr 12
all 4 of my kids have chores to do and they get points and at the end of the week they get money based on how many points they got my kids are 3 6 9 and 13 , i will not pay them for the chores they did not do its good for them to teach them how to earn and save there money
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@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
22 Apr 12
That is nice and fun! :D
21 Apr 12
If your daughter is offering to do the house work for money then its not child abuse. Your not forcing her to do it. I think it is good house training skills for her but she has to understand that there will be some jobs she will have to do without pay as otherwise she wont do things unless she gets a 'reward'. It is nice that she has offered to do housework for you in order to save money for a toy that she wants. That is teaching her life skills of having to save for things and knowing she can not have everything she wants when she wants. Maybe ask a few friends or family members and see if they have any paying jobs your daughter can do for them as it will make it seem that she is working (depending on the age of your daughter. Your daughter can come and do my housework as I hate it lol x
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@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
22 Apr 12
:D Yes! My husband told her that she need to work so that she can get the things that she wants. heheheheehehhehe
@GemmaR (8526)
21 Apr 12
I think that it is a great idea to start making your children aware of the fact that they can't just get the things that they want all of the time and that they should be able to work for them. I used to work for things when I was her age, and it actually made me have a fantastic attitude towards money in the end. You should make sure that you are not making her do too much though. Maybe you could make a list of jobs with how much each of them is worth, so that she knows exactly the things that she should be doing. As she gets older she will probably want to start doing other jobs so that she can earn more money, and I think that this is a great way for her to be able to earn more money.
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@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
22 Apr 12
Yes. I don't want to give her a lot of work. I only want her to wash the dishes, sweep the floor and mopping the floor. But, sweeping and mopping the floor, I will do it with her because I know she won't do a good job cleaning the house. lol But, I will still give her the reward of helping me. :D
• Philippines
21 Apr 12
I think a reward would be good if she does her chores. I grew up exactly the same. I turned out fine. And I love my parents. Now that I have a job, I'd always give them what they ask if I can afford it. So, it's just letting her realize that money is important that it is not easy to earn money. Also, she won't demand for expensive toy in the future. However you should always teach her the right values. This is actually not a bad Idea. =)
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@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
22 Apr 12
Yes! Thank you Czarina! :D